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Does Adderall cause hair loss????

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I am 31 and starting to loose my hair!!!  I have a baby daughter who is now 8 months.  When I saw my nurse practioner a few weeks ago she said it was just hormones.   I think it may be Adderall.   Does anyone know if Adderall really does cause hair loss???

I don’t know, but I do know it is *very* common to lose a bunch of hair after having a baby.  I did it both times.

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I am 31 and starting to loose my hair!!!  I have a baby daughter who is now 8 months.  When I saw my nurse practioner a few weeks ago she said it was just hormones.   I think it may be Adderall.   Does anyone know if Adderall really does cause hair loss??? thanks.

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Yes, all the stimulants can do that. From what I have read from people’s stories. I read some people even developed Alopecia Aereota. I don’t know if it’s linked to stim usage, but I have to say I think it is. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I am 31 and starting to loose my hair!!!  I have a baby daughter who is now 8 months.  When I saw my nurse practioner a few weeks ago she said it was just hormones.   I think it may be Adderall.   Does anyone know if Adderall really does cause hair loss??? thanks.

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I am 31 and starting to loose my hair!!!

pregnancy

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I am in my third trimester (30 weeks now) and have had a very good winter with it all.  All my symptoms diminished mostly – except the fatigue.  Oh well. The last couple of days however, things are changing…. I have had full leg tingling, much worse then ever before… not just being a nuisance, but actually hurting!  Also a funny sensation never before felt…. a cold, wet feeling with it.  When I touch the leg, it is very numb…. and when I stand on it, feels as though it will give away.  I’m curious to know if it’s the beginning of an exacerbation, or maybe the baby is just on a nerve?  I can find NO information on the internet about MS and pregnancy.  I’m wondering if this is going to get worse and I’ll be unable to care for the baby when he comes…. kinda anxious here.  Does anyone know where I can get info on pregnancy during MS?  Thanx in advance.. Jordan

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Ask your doctor if it is okay to get into a swimming pool.  When my baby was pressing on a nerve, I got into a swimming pool and the fetus moved.  What a relief that was.  Hope you feel better soon and wishing you a easy labor. Linda P.S.  The National MS Society has info on pregnancy and MS "SirzIMZADI" <sirzimz…@aol.com> wrote in message

news:20010529112847.20485.00001788@ng-fg1.aol.com… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> I am in my third trimester (30 weeks now) and have had a very good winter with > it all.  All my symptoms diminished mostly – except the fatigue.  Oh well. The > last couple of days however, things are changing…. I have had full leg > tingling, ch worse then ever before… not just being a nuisance, but > actually hurting!  Also a funny sensation never before felt…. a cold, wet > feeling with it.  When I touch the leg, it is very numb…. and when I stand on > it, feels as though it will give away.  I’m curious to know if it’s the > beginning of n exacerbation, or maybe the baby is just on a nerve?  I can find > NO information on the internet about MS and pregnancy.  I’m wondering if this > is going to get worse and I’ll be unable to care for the baby when he comes…. > kinda anxious here.  Does anyone know where I can get info on pregnancy during > MS?  Thanx in advance.. > Jordan

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Ther’es also a book out there called Multiple Sclerosis and Having a Baby: Everything You Need To Know about Conception, Pregnancy, and Parenthood that I have heard is fairly good. http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0892817887/qid%3D991170445/002… Perhaps this will help? I havne’t been pregnant yet, so I don’t know from personal experience… Good luck! Cyd – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -<lm…@dellepro.com> writes: >Ask your doctor if it is okay to get into a swimming pool.  When my baby was >pressing on a nerve, I got into a swimming pool and the fetus moved.  What a >relief that was.  Hope you feel better soon and wishing you a easy labor. >Linda >P.S.  The National MS Society has info on pregnancy and MS "SirzIMZADI" <sirzimz…@aol.com> wrote in message >I am in my third trimester (30 weeks now) and have had a very good winter with >it all.  All my symptoms diminished mostly – except the fatigue.  Oh well. The >last couple of days however, things are changing…. I have had full leg >tingling, ch worse then ever before… not just being a nuisance, but >actually hurting!  Also a funny sensation never before felt…. a cold, wet >feeling with it.  When I touch the leg, it is very numb…. and when I stand on >it, feels as though it will give away.  I’m curious to know if it’s the >beginning of n exacerbation, or maybe the baby is just on a nerve?  I can find >NO information on the internet about MS and pregnancy.  I’m wondering if this >is going to get worse and I’ll be unable to care for the baby when he comes…. >kinda anxious here.  Does anyone know where I can get info on pregnancy during >MS?  Thanx in advance..

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. >> Ther’es also a book out there called Multiple Sclerosis and Having a Baby: >> Everything You Need To Know about Conception, Pregnancy, and Parenthood >that I >> have heard is fairly good.

thank-you for the tips …. have book on order  LOL  pulling out the old walker again, neuro says heat and flux in hormones preparing for labor could be cause of minor increase in symptoms… luv ya Jordan

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"Lady Celena" <c…@REMOVErci.rutgers.edu> wrote in message

news:9f139n$c67$1@niflheim.rutgers.edu… > Ther’es also a book out there called Multiple Sclerosis and Having a Baby: > Everything You Need To Know about Conception, Pregnancy, and Parenthood that I > have heard is fairly good.

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0892817887/qid%3D991170445/002… 9-6537653 > Perhaps this will help? I havne’t been pregnant yet, so I don’t know from > personal experience… > Good luck! > Cyd

I did a search on mysimon.com for this title and found it even cheaper than what Amazon.com is asking. http://www.mysimon.com/msrch/index.jhtml?c=bookisbn&pgid=shop&ps=t&_t… ch&v=1&kw=multiple+sclerosis+and+having+a+baby&pid=0892817887&key=UC_200105 3 0_014429_0380723225 I put it on my pre-order list at Half.com for 5 bucks.  I and my husband have been hoping to conceive a child by now; I’m in my very early 40’s and have had MS since (they think) 1986.  Right now my doc has me classified as low-level chronic. Leesa aka The Shadow Dancer Enclave BlackRose Community: http://www.shadowrayven.com/blackrose-studios/enclave/community/ –>new and improved!

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Valentina wrote: > I have to see my neuro soon.

hi valentina, congratulations on your soon-to-be-momhood!  :-> if you’re seeing your neuro soon, maybe he or she would be able to tell you some of the info you’re looking for — i would ask about the M.S. meds before taking them while breastfeeding, for sure. i gave birth before being diagnosed, so none of this was an issue for me during my own pregnancy — mainly wanted to say congrats! in your situation, i think i would ask both the neuro and the OB/GYN the same questions, and discuss the answers given by the one, with the other. all the best to you and your family, rose

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Celeste wrote: > I nursed all three kids for 6 months each.  They were big boys at 8 lbs and > it was hard to keep them satisfied without solid food too.  They all went on > cereal by 2-2.5 months in addition to Mom.  Solid food really helped them > sleep through the night so I could go to my job.

hi celeste, since your boys all turned out fine and healthy, this is moot as applies to your situation, but …i dunno about that! i think it’s the quality/quantity of the milk that keeps them satisfied. i was like a dang COW!! when my daughter was born, all the breastfeeding moms had to make 2-weeks-post-delivery visits, to ensure the babies were gaining weight — many of the other new moms had problems with their milk output. when i showed up for my visit, i’d used  a breast pump and filled a large-sized bottle, in case she needed to be fed while iwas sitting in a public area filled with a zillion people, waiting many hours to be seen. the other new moms had the small-sized baby bottles, and none of them were even completely filled. they kept staring, and finally one woman asked me ‘excuse me, but — is that BREAST MILK in the bottle?" I said it was, and everyone exclaimed and shrieked and ooh’ed and aah’ed. i wore a nursing bra with double pads to bed every night, but when she woke up at night, before i could get her out of her crib and start feeding, the milk would have soaked through both pads, the nursing bra, my nightie, and run down my chest, not in trickles, but in RIVERS! she was 8.5 lbs at birth; two of my sisters had babies who were 10 lbs. at birth, a niece and a nephew, and all of us used breastfeeding exclusively for the first six months, and all our kids grew up to be strong and healthy. at the time, the doctors were ADAMANT about NOT adding cereal till the baby was at least 6 months old, as digestive problems could possibly result from adding semi-solid food too soon. breast-fed babies will just need to be fed more often than formula-fed babies, and i don’t think there’s any way around it — breast milk is processed faster — instead of every 4-6 hours, we were told to expect to feed them every 2-3 hours. LOL, I had NO idea what never getting more than 2-3 hours sleep at a time meant in the real world — sheesh! but in our case, tamara started sleeping through the night when she was 3 months old, and she was exclusively breast-fed up to that time, and for another three months afterward. she’s 22 now!  :-> rose

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> i think it’s the quality/quantity of the milk that keeps them > satisfied. i was like a dang COW!! when my daughter was born, all the

Actually I was a cow too.  oops the right term is probably wet nurse.  My boys were just confused.  They thought colic meant they were hungry.  solid food helped that a lot too. Celeste

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Celeste wrote: > Actually I was a cow too.  oops the right term is probably wet nurse.

LOL — I’ve occasionally thought that if i lived in another era, i’d have been assured steady employment as a wet nurse, till menopause hit, at least! i loved being pregnant, i’ve got wide hips and pelvic bones, and i produced enough milk to feed sextuplets — it really looks like nature designed me for ‘birthin’ babies,’ as my ma might have said.  ;->  that i turned out to have problems, not with fertility, but with carrying a baby to term sometimes seems like ol’ ma nature laughing up her sleeve. i had a miscarriage the month before becoming pregnant with tam, and 2 of them after her birth. well, i just figure that means she was the one who was ‘meant to be,’ which makes her that much more special in my eyes. (if possible!)  :-> rose

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pregnancy from a mans perspective with MS not much info for women,, but as far as a dad with ms goin thru brithing,, for me it caused an attack everytime,, this was due to me frikin excited out of my brains,, the long labour time,, waiting the whole thing ,, i stayed up a long time,, and after we got home,, i went crazy and become the over attentive father,, doin way to much and never resting till i got the attack about 2 weeks after each child was born,, this was my own fault,, as i acted kinda overblown,,, but the excitement and the stress and the whole entire process and the way i handled it gave me an attack,,, i  got way up,, i was buzzin ,, could not sleep,, and then i had the burnout,, the down time,, the realization i was acting like a freakin idiot,, doin way to much and never resting till i was done in by it,,,  for me it was the most exciting time of my life,, goin thru it all,, as a husband,,  i could have avoided any ms attack just by calmin down and not gettin so emotionally overexcited,, but with both my children i worked myself into a tizzy and at 2 weeks after they were born both times i had an ms attack,, from stress and over excitment and not resting one day,,,, i was the very very over attentive new father!!!!!!  then tried to work a job too while this weas goin on,,, rushing home from work goin out shoppin after,, pushed way tooo hard,, and did it to myself,,,,  the only thing child birth will do is cause you over excitement if you let it,, both for the man and the woman,, as long as you rest and stay calm and not run around like a chicken with its head cut off, everyone birthing with ms will be just fine,,,, male or female,, bobbyD "rose" <rosedawn_sc…@yahoo.com> wrote in message

news:1113493164.470756.209770@g14g2000cwa.googlegroups.com… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Valentina wrote: >> I have to see my neuro soon. > hi valentina, > congratulations on your soon-to-be-momhood!  :-> > if you’re seeing your neuro soon, maybe he or she would be able to tell > you some of the info you’re looking for — i would ask about the M.S. > meds before taking them while breastfeeding, for sure. > i gave birth before being diagnosed, so none of this was an issue for > me during my own pregnancy — mainly wanted to say congrats! > in your situation, i think i would ask both the neuro and the OB/GYN > the same questions, and discuss the answers given by the one, with the > other. > all the best to you and your family, > rose

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I had 3 boys. 1st son we had toxemia.  This can happen at any time and is not considered related to MS.  I spent 3 days in ICU.  My son spent 6 days in ICN. 2nd son was just a pop and in and out of the hospital in less than one night. 3rd son was a pretty easy delivery although he kicked me in th middle of the night and broke the water so he was 2 weeks early.  About a week later I had extreme low back pain and my left arm went numb. It was numb for nearly 6 weeks.  The @#$% jerk PA who saw me told me to take advil that it was probably just a pinched nerve.  I never went back to that doctor again.  I was nursing so I ignored his advice. I nursed all three kids for 6 months each.  They were big boys at 8 lbs and it was hard to keep them satisfied without solid food too.  They all went on cereal by 2-2.5 months in addition to Mom.  Solid food really helped them sleep through the night so I could go to my job. Dont worry about pregnancy. Just do it. Celeste

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> Well, according to my neurologist and OB doctor it was OK.

That is very interesting. At least there is something that we can do. > My eye sight got worse with my first preg- > nancy which had nothing to do with my MS.  I didn’t wear glasses > until after that pregnancy.

I already wear glasses, but what I’m experiencing now it’s the classical "scotoma": loss of vision in the center of the eye. I have also some tinnitus (noises in the ears). I have to see my neuro soon. > Best of luck to you.

Thank you very much. > Is this your first?

Yes. And it is a male. > There is nothing in this world > like being a Mom!!!

Yes! I wouldn’t have miss this experience and I’m ready for some consequences (hoping that they are not too many!). Ciao, Valentina

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Delivery was Normal.  Did have complications with toxemia with one child. Not much of a chance of relapse during pregnancy.  It does not act like an immune disease.  Most immune diseases get worse during pregancy.  MS actually gets better.  You will feel better than you can remember and on top of the world.  The problems, if there are any, are after delivery.  This risk is after delivery and for 6 months.  Be sure to let the father know to watch you carefully for depression.  dont let doctors tell you that any parethsesias are due to a pinched ciatic nerve.  They are not. Neuros do not tend to manage pregnancy.  OB-GYN or regular internists do. There is no treatment during pregnancy.  Do not take any MS drugs as they tend to be teratogenic and will cause you to lose the baby. Celeste "Valentina" <valent…@TOGLIQUESTOduestrade.it> wrote in message

news:we76e.1206861$35.44439290@news4.tin.it… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> In your experience, what is the standard way of delivery for a pregnant > MSer? Cesarean, Epidural analgesia, normal labor? > In case of relapse during pregnancy, are intravenous immunoglobulin really > used? > And what about breastfeeding? > I’ve read many studies regardin pregnancy and MS, but I would like to know > what is the effective standard management by neuros in different > countries. > Thank You, > Valentina > (from Florence, Italy)

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Thank you all for the information. I am now 6 month pregnant I would like to deliver with Epidural, but usually, here in Italy, docs prefer caesearan for MSers. Even if in this period (last three months of pregnancy) I am supposed not to have relapses, my right eye vision is getting worse. I don’t understand if it is an old problem (I had an ON some years ago in that eye) or a new relapse. You said that you took prednisone, but during pregnancy or after? And what about breastfeeding and prednisone? Is’nt it dangerous for the baby? Ciao, Valentina

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Well, according to my neurologist and OB doctor it was OK. My daughter turned out great.  I took it during my pregnancy and while I was breastfeeding, it was such a small dose the I don’t believe the baby got much or any for that matter.  It was a hard choice but I wanted her so badly and I didn’t want to get sick during or after my pregnancy, and I didn’t!! Also, about your eyes.  My eye sight got worse with my first preg- nancy which had nothing to do with my MS.  I didn’t wear glasses until after that pregnancy.  Maybe that is what you are going through. Best of luck to you.  Is this your first?  There is nothing in this world like being a Mom!!! Smiles! Kami "Valentina" <valent…@TOGLIQUESTOduestrade.it> wrote in message

news:E_S6e.770389$b5.34426859@news3.tin.it… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Thank you all for the information. > I am now 6 month pregnant > I would like to deliver with Epidural, but usually, here in Italy, docs > prefer caesearan for MSers. > Even if in this period (last three months of pregnancy) I am supposed not > to > have relapses, my right eye vision is getting worse. I don’t understand if > it is an old problem (I had an ON some years ago in that eye) or a new > relapse. > You said that you took prednisone, but during pregnancy or after? And what > about breastfeeding and prednisone? Is’nt it dangerous for the baby? > Ciao, > Valentina

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In your experience, what is the standard way of delivery for a pregnant MSer? Cesarean, Epidural analgesia, normal labor? In case of relapse during pregnancy, are intravenous immunoglobulin really used? And what about breastfeeding? I’ve read many studies regardin pregnancy and MS, but I would like to know what is the effective standard management by neuros in different countries. Thank You, Valentina (from Florence, Italy)

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HI Valentina, I had one baby before and one baby after being diagnosed with MS. I delivered in the standard manner.  Neither one with an Epidural. My labor with both was very smooth but long and requited pitosen(sp?). The only difference with my baby after diagnosis was that my neuro had me stay on prednisone 10mg per day.  I didn’t have any problem with my MS at all.  I breast fed after the birth also.  However, my first baby brought out  my MS, about 6 weeks after birth I started having vertigo and had to go on valium.  had to quit breast feeding because of that and did get better.  About 2 months after that I lost the use of my right hand and started limping.  They did an MRI and determined I had MS.  That began a long string of steroids but I became symptom free for about 2 years and decided to have our second child.  It went great both during and after the pregnancy, no problems at all for years.  I did change my life still, started working at home until my youngest was 2 years old, tried to avoid stress as much as possible and didn’t sweat the small stuff. I wouldn’t change having my children for anything!!  Even now that they are 9 and 12, have constant activities and I an having more problems with my MS.  I take them to school and pick them up everyday, take then piano and practice for the sports they are playing at that time.  It has been very rewarding!  They are understanding of my MS and it isn’t the ruler of the house.  I do have MS days but not so bad that I can’t be their Mom! If you decide to do this, good luck!  It is a wonderful part of life!! Smiles! Kami (from Arizona, USA) "Valentina" <valent…@TOGLIQUESTOduestrade.it> wrote in message

news:we76e.1206861$35.44439290@news4.tin.it… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> In your experience, what is the standard way of delivery for a pregnant > MSer? Cesarean, Epidural analgesia, normal labor? > In case of relapse during pregnancy, are intravenous immunoglobulin really > used? > And what about breastfeeding? > I’ve read many studies regardin pregnancy and MS, but I would like to know > what is the effective standard management by neuros in different > countries. > Thank You, > Valentina > (from Florence, Italy)

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Lowcarbing with Breastfeeding?

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says… Hey everyone! I was a lowcarber for quite awhile and successfully.  Down below is my signature at my weight loss while lowcarbing.  I became pregnant in May of ‘04, so I decided just to eat a normal diet.  Of course, I went out of control like most of us do and I have gained quite a bit of weight, (not talking about regular pregnancy weight, I mean fat).  So, now I am ready to get back on the bandwagon as I had my baby last week.

CONGRATULATIONS, Kerri! — Saffire 205/144/125  -  5′1.5" Atkins since 6/14/03 Progress photo:  http://photos.yahoo.com/saffire333

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hey everyone! I was a lowcarber for quite awhile and successfully.  Down below is my signature at my weight loss while lowcarbing.  I became pregnant in May of ‘04, so I decided just to eat a normal diet.  Of course, I went out of control like most of us do and I have gained quite a bit of weight, (not talking about regular pregnancy weight, I mean fat).  So, now I am ready to get back on the bandwagon as I had my baby last week. Have any of you all breastfed while lowcarbing?  Also, I have just begun looking up information on the web about it, and if you all know of any good links that I could read about how to do it properly, I’d really love to read them. I am quite concerned about my body having ketones in it as I would rather my baby not get that from my milk. Thank you! Kerri

I waited until my baby was 10 months old and only breastfeeding twice a day (June 04), then started phase one of South Beach.  I purposely kept my carb count a bit higher and did not let myself go into ketosis until after weening, which happened several months later.  I also had concerns about ketones in my milk, and couldn’t find enough reliable info to convince me it would be safe for my little guy.  I lost an average of 5 pounds a month, eating higher fiber carbs like beans and peas, and avoiding bread, rice, sweets, etc.  I also joined Curves, which was a BIG help! Listen to your instincts!  Maybe you could do a reduced carb plan like South Beach.  It definitely is better to lose slowly *and* keep baby safe and healthy. Congratulations! Christy

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Hey everyone! I was a lowcarber for quite awhile and successfully.  Down below is my signature at my weight loss while lowcarbing.  I became pregnant in May of ‘04, so I decided just to eat a normal diet.  Of course, I went out of control like most of us do and I have gained quite a bit of weight, (not talking about regular pregnancy weight, I mean fat).  So, now I am ready to get back on the bandwagon as I had my baby last week.

Congratulations!  Got jpegs?  It’s been too long since I’ve seen a new baby. Have any of you all breastfed while lowcarbing?  Also, I have just begun looking up information on the web about it, and if you all know of any good links that I could read about how to do it properly, I’d really love to read them.

Yes, I breastfed while lowcarbing.  No problem whatsoever. I am quite concerned about my body having ketones in it as I would rather my baby not get that from my milk.

It honestly wasn’t a problem in our case. My daughter has just turned two and is superhealthy, tall and slender. She self-weaned at nineteen months. — Mogget, the Churl in the Puce Greatcoat

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I was told to stick with the Atkins Maintenance, no Ketosis while breastfeeding…. glitter Girl

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hey everyone! I was a lowcarber for quite awhile and successfully.  Down below is my signature at my weight loss while lowcarbing.  I became pregnant in May of ‘04, so I decided just to eat a normal diet.  Of course, I went out of control like most of us do and I have gained quite a bit of weight, (not talking about regular pregnancy weight, I mean fat).  So, now I am ready to get back on the bandwagon as I had my baby last week. Have any of you all breastfed while lowcarbing?  Also, I have just begun looking up information on the web about it, and if you all know of any good links that I could read about how to do it properly, I’d really love to read them. I am quite concerned about my body having ketones in it as I would rather my baby not get that from my milk. Thank you! Kerri — *6/10/03* 158/113/had baby/???

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Should not be a problem. My wife and daughter have ketone in genetic way. I and my son have not. The kids swim couple hundred yards to a thousand yard every couple days as an exercise without any problem.(They are extremely healthy, even though she has ketone). They eat carb and produce ketone. As matter of fact, my girl prefers carb food than meat. =Hey everyone! =I was a lowcarber for quite awhile and successfully.  Down below is my =signature at my weight loss while lowcarbing.  I became pregnant in May of =’04, so I decided just to eat a normal diet.  Of course, I went out of =control like most of us do and I have gained quite a bit of weight, (not =talking about regular pregnancy weight, I mean fat).  So, now I am ready to =get back on the bandwagon as I had my baby last week. = =Have any of you all breastfed while lowcarbing?  Also, I have just begun =looking up information on the web about it, and if you all know of any good =links that I could read about how to do it properly, I’d really love to read =them. You can always supplement your baby food with formula. = =I am quite concerned about my body having ketones in it as I would rather my =baby not get that from my milk. Why? My daughter is born with it. = =Thank you! = =Kerri

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My daughter Eve was born 7/14/03.  She is still nursing, and I am doing Atkins, have for a month now.  She’s doing fine, and I started on induction, and I am in full blown ketosis.  I did some research, and found that there is no evidence that ketones expressed in breast milk will harm a child.  I found my information from Dr.Hales, he is a foremost expert on breastfeeding, and is well know for his books on medication and breast milk.  He points out that runners will excrete ketones in their breast milk, and their children are fine.  The problem that arises, is no one has tested a woman and her nursing child while in ketosis.  For us, it isn’t a problem.  Eve still nurses 6-8 times a day, and she is doing great. www.breastfeeding.com ’s message boards has a lot of us on a LC diet, who are breast feeding.  You can go there for support too.  Look in the Weight Loss While Breastfeeding forum. :) -Michelle re-started Atkins 1/4/05 (quit due to pregnancy 3/01) 292/280/175

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  What I find odd, is that Human milk has one of the highest carb counts and the lowest protein content as well. I tried to find some info on nutritional values in aboriginal woman that have a low carb diet, but couldn’t find any info. The only thing I could find about native women’s breast milk was higher levels of PCB’s.    Because the numbers seem to be so different from other animals, I wonder if it is mainly due to the average woman’s diet of 50% or so of carbs, rather than naturally being that high. Since women are advised to do such things as; not eating peanuts because it would show up in their milk, would the amounts of carbs, fat, and protein be proportional to what they eat? Does anyone know if any studies have been done on this?    Inuit babies seem to do ok(I’m guessing) when their mothers are eating only meat. I wonder if their carb contents in breast milk would reflect the low amount of carbs, or if their breasts would make carbs from protein to end up being the same as the average values that are found? If that is what happens, than why would it matter if someone ate lo-carb or not? If it doesn’t happen this way, than why would Inuit babies survive the possibly low carb content?   Of course I’m not saying that anyone should try this and risk Baby’s health. It is probably best not to try and lose weight while pregnant or nursing if there is even the slightest risk of harm.    http://biology.clc.uc.edu/fankhauser/Cheese/milk_content.htm

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hey everyone! I was a lowcarber for quite awhile and successfully.  Down below is my signature at my weight loss while lowcarbing.  I became pregnant in May of ‘04, so I decided just to eat a normal diet.  Of course, I went out of control like most of us do and I have gained quite a bit of weight, (not talking about regular pregnancy weight, I mean fat).  So, now I am ready to get back on the bandwagon as I had my baby last week. Have any of you all breastfed while lowcarbing?  Also, I have just begun looking up information on the web about it, and if you all know of any good links that I could read about how to do it properly, I’d really love to read them. I am quite concerned about my body having ketones in it as I would rather my baby not get that from my milk. Thank you! Kerri — *6/10/03*  158/113/had baby/???

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How is asking the experience of others dangerous? Tara

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Shouldn’t you be asking your doctor this question, instead of seeking out anonymous (and potentially dangerous) advice on Usenet? GG

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hey everyone! I was a lowcarber for quite awhile and successfully.  Down below is my signature at my weight loss while lowcarbing.  I became pregnant in May of ‘04, so I decided just to eat a normal diet.  Of course, I went out of control like most of us do and I have gained quite a bit of weight, (not talking about regular pregnancy weight, I mean fat).  So, now I am ready to get back on the bandwagon as I had my baby last week. Have any of you all breastfed while lowcarbing?  Also, I have just begun looking up information on the web about it, and if you all know of any good links that I could read about how to do it properly, I’d really love to read them. I am quite concerned about my body having ketones in it as I would rather my baby not get that from my milk. Thank you! Kerri — *6/10/03* 158/113/had baby/???

I started doing South Beach Phase 2 while breast feeding. I lost 15 lbs but had a hard time on the diet because I was eating many things that trigger cravings for me (like bread and oatmeal and raisins) I quit after a while and started Atkins induction after my baby self-weaned at 11 months. I lost 37 lbs since then (July 2004)

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How much fat weight did you gain? How is your baby?  Got jpegs?

:: Hey everyone! :: I was a lowcarber for quite awhile and successfully.  Down below is :: my signature at my weight loss while lowcarbing.  I became pregnant :: in May of ‘04, so I decided just to eat a normal diet.  Of course, I :: went out of control like most of us do and I have gained quite a bit :: of weight, (not talking about regular pregnancy weight, I mean fat). :: So, now I am ready to get back on the bandwagon as I had my baby :: last week. :: :: Have any of you all breastfed while lowcarbing?  Also, I have just :: begun looking up information on the web about it, and if you all :: know of any good links that I could read about how to do it :: properly, I’d really love to read them. :: :: I am quite concerned about my body having ketones in it as I would :: rather my baby not get that from my milk. :: :: Thank you! :: :: Kerri :: :: — :: *6/10/03* ::  158/113/had baby/???

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Hey everyone! I was a lowcarber for quite awhile and successfully.  Down below is my signature at my weight loss while lowcarbing.  I became pregnant in May of ‘04, so I decided just to eat a normal diet.  Of course, I went out of control like most of us do and I have gained quite a bit of weight, (not talking about regular pregnancy weight, I mean fat).  So, now I am ready to get back on the bandwagon as I had my baby last week. Have any of you all breastfed while lowcarbing?  Also, I have just begun looking up information on the web about it, and if you all know of any good links that I could read about how to do it properly, I’d really love to read them. I am quite concerned about my body having ketones in it as I would rather my baby not get that from my milk. Thank you! Kerri — *6/10/03*  158/113/had baby/???

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hey everyone! I was a lowcarber for quite awhile and successfully.  Down below is my signature at my weight loss while lowcarbing.  I became pregnant in May of ‘04, so I decided just to eat a normal diet.  Of course, I went out of control like most of us do and I have gained quite a bit of weight, (not talking about regular pregnancy weight, I mean fat).  So, now I am ready to get back on the bandwagon as I had my baby last week. Have any of you all breastfed while lowcarbing?  Also, I have just begun looking up information on the web about it, and if you all know of any good links that I could read about how to do it properly, I’d really love to read them. I am quite concerned about my body having ketones in it as I would rather my baby not get that from my milk. Thank you! Kerri

ahhhhhh… I haven’t done any of the things you’ve mentioned above but I’ve seen this newsgroup recommended here a few times: http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/PregnantAtkids/

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hey everyone! I was a lowcarber for quite awhile and successfully.  Down below is my signature at my weight loss while lowcarbing.  I became pregnant in May of ‘04, so I decided just to eat a normal diet.  Of course, I went out of control like most of us do and I have gained quite a bit of weight, (not talking about regular pregnancy weight, I mean fat).  So, now I am ready to get back on the bandwagon as I had my baby last week. Have any of you all breastfed while lowcarbing?  Also, I have just begun looking up information on the web about it, and if you all know of any good links that I could read about how to do it properly, I’d really love to read them. I am quite concerned about my body having ketones in it as I would rather my baby not get that from my milk. Thank you! Kerri — *6/10/03*  158/113/had baby/???

Shouldn’t you be asking your doctor this question, instead of seeking out anonymous (and potentially dangerous) advice on Usenet? GG

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Thanks, I am going to join the group and hope to learn some helpful information. Kerri

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Gained around 30lbs I believe… I weigh about 150 6 days after baby’s birth,..and I am assuming I will level out at 140 after pregnancy fluids decrease in a week or so.  I was 111 when I becme conceived. Kerri

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I have been lurking for several weeks and finally decided to post. I am looking at starting a diet to lose weight postpartum very soon. I am still nursing (baby is 8 weeks old) and I find it very difficult to diet while doing so. I was not overweight before having kids (I have two, 16 months apart) but pregnancy and becoming a SAHM has NOT helped my weight at all. I am looking for weight loss advice and a circle of support. My DH is not very supportive (well, he tries to be) because he has never had a problem with weight and doesn’t understand it at all. My goal is to be back to my pre-pregnancy weight by baby’s first birthday which would be mid-Nov. 2005. This allows for a very gradual, reasonable weight loss, probably with time to spare. I am wondering how many calories should I have a day and what kind of indoor exercise would you recommend? It’s cold here so something like a workout video would be best. Thanks for any suggestions. Wendy

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I have been lurking for several weeks and finally decided to post. I am looking at starting a diet to lose weight postpartum very soon. I am still nursing (baby is 8 weeks old) and I find it very difficult to diet while doing so. I was not overweight before having kids (I have two, 16 months apart) but pregnancy and becoming a SAHM has NOT helped my weight at all. I am looking for weight loss advice and a circle of support. My DH is not very supportive (well, he tries to be) because he has never had a problem with weight and doesn’t understand it at all. My goal is to be back to my pre-pregnancy weight by baby’s first birthday which would be mid-Nov. 2005. This allows for a very gradual, reasonable weight loss, probably with time to spare. I am wondering how many calories should I have a day and what kind of indoor exercise would you recommend? It’s cold here so something like a workout video would be best. Thanks for any suggestions. Wendy

Congratulations on being a new mom! Please don’t forget that while nursing you will need to take in a reasonable amount of calories to support both of your nutritional needs. A balanced diet with plenty of protein and vegies is good for you and the baby (you probably didn’t need me to tell you that…). As far as calories go, a lot of people shoot for 10x body weight for loss, and 12x to 15x their body weight for maintenance. I’m not sure, in your particular situation, how much you should be eating. Back when I nursed my children, the doc said an extra 1000 calories a day was nothing–and was needed to produce milk and to support yourself. Is that still "true"? I’ll have to go look… Perhaps a newer mom could chime in here. Try indoor exercises like aerobics, pilates, and free weights or resistance bands. I’m sure you’ll find something that appeals to you. Personally, when I can’t make it out, pilates is my exercise of choice. Anyway, welcome to the group, Wendy. Amy 168/115/110

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I have been lurking for several weeks and finally decided to post. I am looking at starting a diet to lose weight postpartum very soon. I am still nursing (baby is 8 weeks old) and I find it very difficult to diet while doing so. I was not overweight before having kids (I have two, 16 months apart) but pregnancy and becoming a SAHM has NOT helped my weight at all. I am looking for weight loss advice and a circle of support. My DH is not very supportive (well, he tries to be) because he has never had a problem with weight and doesn’t understand it at all. My goal is to be back to my pre-pregnancy weight by baby’s first birthday which would be mid-Nov. 2005. This allows for a very gradual, reasonable weight loss, probably with time to spare. I am wondering how many calories should I have a day and what kind of indoor exercise would you recommend? It’s cold here so something like a workout video would be best. Thanks for any suggestions. Wendy Congratulations on being a new mom! Please don’t forget that while nursing you will need to take in a reasonable amount of calories to support both of your nutritional needs. A balanced diet with plenty of protein and vegies is good for you and the baby (you probably didn’t need me to tell you that…). As far as calories go, a lot of people shoot for 10x body weight for loss, and 12x to 15x their body weight for maintenance. I’m not sure, in your particular situation, how much you should be eating. Back when I nursed my children, the doc said an extra 1000 calories a day was nothing–and was needed to produce milk and to support yourself. Is that still "true"? I’ll have to go look… Perhaps a newer mom could chime in here. Try indoor exercises like aerobics, pilates, and free weights or resistance bands. I’m sure you’ll find something that appeals to you. Personally, when I can’t make it out, pilates is my exercise of choice. Anyway, welcome to the group, Wendy. Amy 168/115/110

I like doing workout videos when I’m stuck inside and don’t feel like doing my elliptical.  Collage video has an excellent variety for all kinds of workouts at all levels (www.collagevideo.com).  I also have a swiss ball, resistance bands, a medicine ball, and some dumbbells in addition to all of my yoga stuff so boredom isn’t really an issue!  A great exercise resource is Mistress Krista’s site www.stumptuous.com/weights.html  As far as the eating stuff goes – ITA with Amy and have nothing to add.  Welcome aboard! Jenn

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Thank you Jenn, Amy, and Beverly for the warm welcome! I am looking forward to being part of the group. I plan to stop nursing soon so I don’t think needing the extra calories will be an issue. I have also heard that restricting calories too much while nursing is a bad thing. Thanks for the suggestions about exercise, I think I’ll try the resistance bands. Where can you buy them at? What about Denise Austin’s videos? Has anyone tried them? Wendy I have a few of her videos (yoga, pilates, weights, kickboxing). She’s a bit perky for my taste at times, but I just tune out her silliness and do the exercises which are generally challenging without being very difficult.  Resistance bands like therabands can be purchased at most sports stores. Jenn

Don’t you just wonder how many Red Bulls she has during the day? I know, probably none, but do you think she has hissy fits during filming?…heh heh ;) I follow a video for Tai Chi and the instructor is so calm …always..I often wonder how many takes it took to complete the entire video. OK, I’m sick…. Martha

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Thank you Jenn, Amy, and Beverly for the warm welcome! I am looking forward to being part of the group. I plan to stop nursing soon so I don’t think needing the extra calories will be an issue. I have also heard that restricting calories too much while nursing is a bad thing. Thanks for the suggestions about exercise, I think I’ll try the resistance bands. Where can you buy them at? What about Denise Austin’s videos? Has anyone tried them? Wendy

I have a few of her videos (yoga, pilates, weights, kickboxing).  She’s a bit perky for my taste at times, but I just tune out her silliness and do the exercises which are generally challenging without being very difficult.  Resistance bands like therabands can be purchased at most sports stores. Jenn

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Thank you Jenn, Amy, and Beverly for the warm welcome! I am looking forward to being part of the group. I plan to stop nursing soon so I don’t think needing the extra calories will be an issue. I have also heard that restricting calories too much while nursing is a bad thing. Thanks for the suggestions about exercise, I think I’ll try the resistance bands. Where can you buy them at? What about Denise Austin’s videos? Has anyone tried them? Wendy

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I have been lurking for several weeks and finally decided to post. I am looking at starting a diet to lose weight postpartum very soon. I am still nursing (baby is 8 weeks old) and I find it very difficult to diet while doing so. I was not overweight before having kids (I have two, 16 months apart) but pregnancy and becoming a SAHM has NOT helped my weight at all. I am looking for weight loss advice and a circle of support. My DH is not very supportive (well, he tries to be) because he has never had a problem with weight and doesn’t understand it at all. My goal is to be back to my pre-pregnancy weight by baby’s first birthday which would be mid-Nov. 2005. This allows for a very gradual, reasonable weight loss, probably with time to spare. I am wondering how many calories should I have a day and what kind of indoor exercise would you recommend? It’s cold here so something like a workout video would be best. Thanks for any suggestions. Wendy

Congratulations on the new baby and welcome to the group.  It’s a great place for information and support.  Hope to see you posting often. Beverly 177/142/~140

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I have been lurking for several weeks and finally decided to post. I am looking at starting a diet to lose weight postpartum very soon. I am still nursing (baby is 8 weeks old) and I find it very difficult to diet while doing so. I was not overweight before having kids (I have two, 16 months apart) but pregnancy and becoming a SAHM has NOT helped my weight at all. I am looking for weight loss advice and a circle of support. My DH is not very supportive (well, he tries to be) because he has never had a problem with weight and doesn’t understand it at all. My goal is to be back to my pre-pregnancy weight by baby’s first birthday which would be mid-Nov. 2005. This allows for a very gradual, reasonable weight loss, probably with time to spare. I am wondering how many calories should I have a day and what kind of indoor exercise would you recommend? It’s cold here so something like a workout video would be best. Thanks for any suggestions.

Perhaps you should start by asking your doctor or midwife for a diet guideline that you can follow while you are breast feeding? I find it easier to count portions than strictly following calories, and it helps me understand where my way of eating becomes unbalanced.  The amount in brackets is what I aim at per day.  You may want to add some extra proteins and dairy and a few extra complex carbohydrates. Proteins (5) Carbohydrates (3) Fats (3) Dairy (2) Fruit (3) Vegetables (3) Moira, the Faerie Godmother

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I am still nursing (baby is 8 weeks old) and I find it very difficult to diet while doing so. Two thoughts strike immediately. First is that I am not qualified to advise somebody in your situation, and second is that maybe you should finish nursing and then worry about losing weight.

It makes me gag when people say they want to stop nursing the baby so they can lose weight. I went through hell and high water to keep each of my kids breastfed for the full six months the doctor said was important to them. Weaning a baby for vanity… well… sorry, I’m a bit judgmental. Delenn

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I have been lurking for several weeks and finally decided to post. I am looking at starting a diet to lose weight postpartum very soon.

Congratulations. I am also losing weight "post partum". I started putting it on when my wife was pregnant with my son who is now 16. (And I don’t mean 16 months.) I am still nursing (baby is 8 weeks old) and I find it very difficult to diet while doing so.

Two thoughts strike immediately. First is that I am not qualified to advise somebody in your situation, and second is that maybe you should finish nursing and then worry about losing weight. Mike

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You seldom see baby carriages today like the ones when we were growing up.  The old ones really shielded the infant from wind and cold.  The closest thing we have today are the bike trailer/joggers that have plastic covers to protect the kids.  My Burley trailer has this setup and I don’t hesitate to put the grandkids in it on colder days.  Don’t think I’d take them out in a regular stroller – their little noses might freeze off<g

Exactly, it was one of those big, blue prams with real wheels, a foldup hood/shade and coordinating puffy, quilted accessories.  It was gorgeous – and a bear to get up and downstairs <g  I was snug as a bug in a rug. — Snowshoeing!! Laurie in Maine 207/110  60 inches of attitude! Start: 2/02  Maintained since 2/03

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Thank you Jenn, Amy, and Beverly for the warm welcome! I am looking forward to being part of the group. I plan to stop nursing soon so I don’t think needing the extra calories will be an issue. I have also heard that restricting calories too much while nursing is a bad thing. Thanks for the suggestions about exercise, I think I’ll try the resistance bands. Where can you buy them at? What about Denise Austin’s videos? Has anyone tried them? Wendy

I bought some resistance bands at Target–for just a buck, along with a jump rope. The bands are good for all kinds of exercises, and we sometimes use them during pilates class. I think someone mentioned Krista’s site (stumptuous.com)–it’s a great resource for all kinds of nutrition and exercise information. And, if you’re interested in knowing how many cals you’re taking in and how much you’re burning, check out fitday.com. It’s free, and many of us use it to track our progress. Amy 168/115/110 4th snow shoeing class today!

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I have heard that the longer weight stays on the harder it is to get rid of, any opinions?

I’m not sure this is really anything other than folklore.  It’s probably true that it’s harder to change eating and exercise (or lack thereof) habits that you’ve held for a long time than to get back to habits you had only months ago, but I doubt there’s any physiological reason for it. Personally, I didn’t find it hard (whatever that might mean in this context) to lose a whole lot of extra weight that I’d carried for many years.  But I did make a commitment to changing lifelong habits of overeating and underexercising. Chris 262/134/(130-140) started dieting July 2002, maintaining since June 2004

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I have to disagree with you here. Small children can be taken outside in relatively cold weather (say, at above 0F). They need to be appropriately dressed, that’s all. My son loves snow and sometimes wallows in it or rides down various snow piles around our driveway. And my mom put me in my carriage out on the front porch for my nap in NY the winter I was born.

You seldom see baby carriages today like the ones when we were growing up.  The old ones really shielded the infant from wind and cold.  The closest thing we have today are the bike trailer/joggers that have plastic covers to protect the kids.  My Burley trailer has this setup and I don’t hesitate to put the grandkids in it on colder days.  Don’t think I’d take them out in a regular stroller – their little noses might freeze off<g Beverly

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message Nursing is not a hindrance to weight loss, according to http://tinyurl.com/4qy8u In fact it seems to help the body regain all sorts of pre-baby desirables.  And the longer one breast feeds the less the risk of ovarian and breast cancer.

Plus, the baby is less likely to die. Details, details. Delenn

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message Nursing is not a hindrance to weight loss, according to http://tinyurl.com/4qy8u

In fact it seems to help the body regain all sorts of pre-baby desirables.  And the longer one breast feeds the less the risk of ovarian and breast cancer. Moira, the Faerie Godmother

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Thank you again for all the welcomes! About the bfing, sorry if I wasn’t clear but I said I think it’s hard to diet while bfing, I am not stopping because I want to lose weight. That said, I am really hoping that what some of you had mentioned is true……that because I was within a normal weight range pre-pregnancy that maybe this weight won’t be too tough to lose. I have heard that the longer weight stays on the harder it is to get rid of, any opinions? Wendy

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Don’t you just wonder how many Red Bulls she has during the day? I know, probably none, but do you think she has hissy fits during filming?…heh heh ;) I follow a video for Tai Chi and the instructor is so calm …always..I often wonder how many takes it took to complete the entire video. OK, I’m sick…. What does that make me?! I used to make up stories about the women in the class on my walking tape.  Of course, one was a porn star ;-) I won’t even tell my speculations about the guys in the Pilates tapes <g

ROFLMAO!!!!!! Martha

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I have to disagree with you here. Small children can be taken outside in relatively cold weather (say, at above 0F). They need to be appropriately dressed, that’s all. My son loves snow and sometimes wallows in it or rides down various snow piles around our driveway.

And my mom put me in my carriage out on the front porch for my nap in NY the winter I was born. I don’t have kids but somehow trying to exercise outdoors in winter with an infant and a toddler would be difficult at best.  Heck – I can’t even get my dog to keep up with me and cold is nothing to her! <g — Snowshoeing!! Laurie in Maine 207/110  60 inches of attitude! Start: 2/02  Maintained since 2/03

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couldn’t get outside to walk. It’s fairly cold here but I love getting outside.  I understand it’s different with very small kids. I have to disagree with you here. Small children can be taken outside in relatively cold weather (say, at above 0F). They need to be appropriately dressed, that’s all. My son loves snow and sometimes wallows in it or rides down various snow piles around our driveway. — 223/173.2/180

I don’t think I would want to take an eight week old baby out in 0F weather for any length of time.  A toddler should be able to tell you they were cold but an infant couldn’t.  It doesn’t take long to get frostbite in such conditions.  Even young children and teens often get so involved in playing outdoors they fail to recognize the dangers.

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I am still nursing (baby is 8 weeks old) and I find it very difficult to diet while doing so. Two thoughts strike immediately. First is that I am not qualified to advise somebody in your situation, and second is that maybe you should finish nursing and then worry about losing weight. It makes me gag when people say they want to stop nursing the baby so they can lose weight. I went through hell and high water to keep each of my kids breastfed for the full six months the doctor said was important to them. Weaning a baby for vanity… well… sorry, I’m a bit judgmental. Delenn

Maybe I read the OP differently, but I did not see where she said she wanted to stop nursing tne baby. She merely said she found it difficult to lose wait WHILE nursing. Yeah, that was pretty judemental and directed at perhaps teh wrong person. Martha

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Don’t you just wonder how many Red Bulls she has during the day? I know, probably none, but do you think she has hissy fits during filming?…heh heh ;) I follow a video for Tai Chi and the instructor is so calm …always..I often wonder how many takes it took to complete the entire video. OK, I’m sick….

What does that make me?! I used to make up stories about the women in the class on my walking tape.  Of course, one was a porn star ;-) I won’t even tell my speculations about the guys in the Pilates tapes <g — Snowshoeing!! Laurie in Maine 207/110  60 inches of attitude! Start: 2/02  Maintained since 2/03

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I have been lurking for several weeks and finally decided to post. I am looking at starting a diet to lose weight postpartum very soon. I am still nursing (baby is 8 weeks old) and I find it very difficult to diet while doing so. I was not overweight before having kids (I have two, 16 months apart) but pregnancy and becoming a SAHM has NOT helped my weight at all. I am looking for weight loss advice and a circle of support. My DH is not very supportive (well, he tries to be) because he has never had a problem with weight and doesn’t understand it at all. My goal is to be back to my pre-pregnancy weight by baby’s first birthday which would be mid-Nov. 2005. This allows for a very gradual, reasonable weight loss, probably with time to spare. I am wondering how many calories should I have a day and what kind of indoor exercise would you recommend? It’s cold here so something like a workout video would be best. Thanks for any suggestions. Wendy

Hi Wendy – welcome to ASD.   If you’re interested in reading about how some folks have permanently changed the way they deal with food (and other issues), get *Changing for Good* by James Prochaska. If you weren’t overweight before, it might be fairly painless for you to get back to where you want to be.  I used one of Leslie Sansone’s walking tapes during the year I lost weight.  The tape was great on days when I couldn’t get outside to walk. It’s fairly cold here but I love getting outside.  I understand it’s different with very small kids. Stick around, good luck. — Snowshoeing!! Laurie in Maine 207/110  60 inches of attitude! Start: 2/02  Maintained since 2/03

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 That said, I am really hoping that what some of you had mentioned is true……that because I was within a normal weight range pre-pregnancy that maybe this weight won’t be too tough to lose. I have heard that the longer weight stays on the harder it is to get rid of, any opinions?

I’m not so sure about that, I was fat for years before I decided to change. Making a real commitment to eat right and exercise – and understanding that you will do that *forever*, makes it a part of your daily life.  It’s like brushing your teeth.  It will be good for your children to see you eating properly and exercising.  It will be NORMAL. One thing that’s very much imprinted in me is that I don’t ever want to have to lose that weight *again*. — Snowshoeing!! Laurie in Maine 207/110  60 inches of attitude! Start: 2/02  Maintained since 2/03

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News of the not-pregnant-anymore woman

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Congratulations on the birth of your daughter. Not sure but I think that is a serious underestimation for breast feeding.Check with your leader as you don’t want to be starving yourself if you need to feed baby Goodluck Hazell

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi everyone! First, happy holidays to all. Second, I am happy to announce that baby Catherine was born on Nov. 27. She’s a strong baby (was 10 lbs 7 ounces at birth) and tall baby (now 22.5 inches long) and very healthy. For my part I have already lost 35 pounds since birth (as of Dec. 14 weigh in at the birth centre).  This means I only have 10 "pregnancy" pounds to lose, and I’ll be ready to lost the last 20 pounds to get to my healthy weight. I intend to start meetings again in January, however I will be starting the program again on my own (and with you guys) on Monday. I was wondering if any of you know how many points I must add for breastfeeding?  I figure 2 or 3 top, but I could be wrong… Any idea? Thanks! Isabelle

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Hi everyone! First, happy holidays to all. Second, I am happy to announce that baby Catherine was born on Nov. 27. She’s a strong baby (was 10 lbs 7 ounces at birth) and tall baby (now 22.5 inches long) and very healthy.

Yay!  Well done and congrats!  That is one biiig lass!  ;)  I thought James was quite big enough at eight and a half! For my part I have already lost 35 pounds since birth (as of Dec. 14 weigh in at the birth centre).  This means I only have 10 "pregnancy" pounds to lose, and I’ll be ready to lost the last 20 pounds to get to my healthy weight.

Well done!  It’s taken me 10 years!  ;D I intend to start meetings again in January, however I will be starting the program again on my own (and with you guys) on Monday. I was wondering if any of you know how many points I must add for breastfeeding?  I figure 2 or 3 top, but I could be wrong… Any idea?

Sorry – can’t help with that one, but I have a feeling it’s more than that. — Kate  XXXXXX Lady Catherine, Wardrobe Mistress of the Chocolate Buttons http://www.diceyhome.free-online.co.uk Click on Kate’s Pages and explore!

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Congratulations, Isabelle! I was wondering if he baby was already there… I hope little Catherine will bring everyone lots of joy! You did well on the weight side. Great to hear you are back on track. — Nathalie from Belgium 134.1/88.9/minigoal 88.7/ Goal 68 Kg 295.6/196/minigoal 195.6/Goal 150 pounds INTL  challenge 200.9/196/189.6 pounds                            91.1/ 88.9/86 Kg

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so glad the baby is fine, I think my book said ten for bf, Lee

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi everyone! First, happy holidays to all. Second, I am happy to announce that baby Catherine was born on Nov. 27. She’s a strong baby (was 10 lbs 7 ounces at birth) and tall baby (now 22.5 inches long) and very healthy. For my part I have already lost 35 pounds since birth (as of Dec. 14 weigh in at the birth centre).  This means I only have 10 "pregnancy" pounds to lose, and I’ll be ready to lost the last 20 pounds to get to my healthy weight. I intend to start meetings again in January, however I will be starting the program again on my own (and with you guys) on Monday. I was wondering if any of you know how many points I must add for breastfeeding?  I figure 2 or 3 top, but I could be wrong… Any idea? Thanks! Isabelle

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Yay!  Well done and congrats!  That is one biiig lass!  ;)  I thought James was quite big enough at eight and a half!

She is, isn’t she? For my part I have already lost 35 pounds since birth (as of Dec. 14 weigh in at the birth centre).  This means I only have 10 "pregnancy" pounds to lose, and I’ll be ready to lost the last 20 pounds to get to my healthy weight. Well done!  It’s taken me 10 years!  ;D

Well, I suppose having such a big baby helped: the day after the birth I had already lost 17 pounds!  The rest came from sleep deprivation and stress with our new role as parents! – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I intend to start meetings again in January, however I will be starting the program again on my own (and with you guys) on Monday. I was wondering if any of you know how many points I must add for breastfeeding?  I figure 2 or 3 top, but I could be wrong… Any idea? Sorry – can’t help with that one, but I have a feeling it’s more than that. — Kate  XXXXXX Lady Catherine, Wardrobe Mistress of the Chocolate Buttons http://www.diceyhome.free-online.co.uk Click on Kate’s Pages and explore!

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Thank YOU for today’s NSV!!!, Lee

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Too late for that – are NO LONGER FAT, so you cannot stay fat! Happy New Year Sorry I will stay fat before that!!! Lee Hey congrats, Isabelle! That’s wonderful! And wow you’ve already lost 35 pounds in a month??? Wow, I need to get pregnant… LOL. WTG! — ~Kristin 279.8/279.8/177 re-started WW 12/27/04 Hi everyone! First, happy holidays to all. Second, I am happy to announce that baby Catherine was born on Nov. 27. She’s a strong baby (was 10 lbs 7 ounces at birth) and tall baby (now 22.5 inches long) and very healthy. For my part I have already lost 35 pounds since birth (as of Dec. 14 weigh in at the birth centre).  This means I only have 10 "pregnancy" pounds to lose, and I’ll be ready to lost the last 20 pounds to get to my healthy weight. I intend to start meetings again in January, however I will be starting the program again on my own (and with you guys) on Monday. I was wondering if any of you know how many points I must add for breastfeeding?  I figure 2 or 3 top, but I could be wrong… Any idea? Thanks! Isabelle

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Hey congrats, Isabelle! That’s wonderful! And wow you’ve already lost 35 pounds in a month??? Wow, I need to get pregnant… LOL. WTG! — ~Kristin 279.8/279.8/177 re-started WW 12/27/04

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi everyone! First, happy holidays to all. Second, I am happy to announce that baby Catherine was born on Nov. 27. She’s a strong baby (was 10 lbs 7 ounces at birth) and tall baby (now 22.5 inches long) and very healthy. For my part I have already lost 35 pounds since birth (as of Dec. 14 weigh in at the birth centre).  This means I only have 10 "pregnancy" pounds to lose, and I’ll be ready to lost the last 20 pounds to get to my healthy weight. I intend to start meetings again in January, however I will be starting the program again on my own (and with you guys) on Monday. I was wondering if any of you know how many points I must add for breastfeeding?  I figure 2 or 3 top, but I could be wrong… Any idea? Thanks! Isabelle

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Sorry I will stay fat before that!!! Lee

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hey congrats, Isabelle! That’s wonderful! And wow you’ve already lost 35 pounds in a month??? Wow, I need to get pregnant… LOL. WTG! — ~Kristin 279.8/279.8/177 re-started WW 12/27/04 Hi everyone! First, happy holidays to all. Second, I am happy to announce that baby Catherine was born on Nov. 27. She’s a strong baby (was 10 lbs 7 ounces at birth) and tall baby (now 22.5 inches long) and very healthy. For my part I have already lost 35 pounds since birth (as of Dec. 14 weigh in at the birth centre).  This means I only have 10 "pregnancy" pounds to lose, and I’ll be ready to lost the last 20 pounds to get to my healthy weight. I intend to start meetings again in January, however I will be starting the program again on my own (and with you guys) on Monday. I was wondering if any of you know how many points I must add for breastfeeding?  I figure 2 or 3 top, but I could be wrong… Any idea? Thanks! Isabelle

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congrats on Catherine, you have done really well with only 10lbs preggie weight, well done!!! merry Christmas to you and your FAMILY!!!! Michelle Ozzie in  Switzerland 70.4/70.2/60 Starting again 24.11.04 – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi everyone! First, happy holidays to all. Second, I am happy to announce that baby Catherine was born on Nov. 27. She’s a strong baby (was 10 lbs 7 ounces at birth) and tall baby (now 22.5 inches long) and very healthy. For my part I have already lost 35 pounds since birth (as of Dec. 14 weigh in at the birth centre).  This means I only have 10 "pregnancy" pounds to lose, and I’ll be ready to lost the last 20 pounds to get to my healthy weight. I intend to start meetings again in January, however I will be starting the program again on my own (and with you guys) on Monday. I was wondering if any of you know how many points I must add for breastfeeding?  I figure 2 or 3 top, but I could be wrong… Any idea? Thanks! Isabelle

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Thanks! I will do just that… Although 10 points seem to me to be A LOT… I seem to have lost all apetite since I gave birth…  So far the only thing that has made me eat is the fact that I must feed my daughter! Isabelle

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Congrats on the birth of your baby and welcome back to the group. Good job losing 35 pounds already. Thats a great start. I checked the getting started book concerning breastfeeding mothers. You add 10 points to your normal target. Also you need to adjust the 8 healthy guidelines to increase your milk servings to 3 a day, 8 fruits and veggies, and at least 8 glasses of water to help keep your milk supply flowing. Hi everyone! First, happy holidays to all. Second, I am happy to announce that baby Catherine was born on Nov. 27. She’s a strong baby (was 10 lbs 7 ounces at birth) and tall baby (now 22.5 inches long) and very healthy. For my part I have already lost 35 pounds since birth (as of Dec. 14 weigh in at the birth centre).  This means I only have 10 "pregnancy" pounds to lose, and I’ll be ready to lost the last 20 pounds to get to my healthy weight. I intend to start meetings again in January, however I will be starting the program again on my own (and with you guys) on Monday. I was wondering if any of you know how many points I must add for breastfeeding?  I figure 2 or 3 top, but I could be wrong… Any idea? Thanks! Isabelle

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Congrats on the birth of your baby and welcome back to the group. Good job losing 35 pounds already. Thats a great start. I checked the getting started book concerning breastfeeding mothers. You add 10 points to your normal target. Also you need to adjust the 8 healthy guidelines to increase your milk servings to 3 a day, 8 fruits and veggies, and at least 8 glasses of water to help keep your milk supply flowing.

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi everyone! First, happy holidays to all. Second, I am happy to announce that baby Catherine was born on Nov. 27. She’s a strong baby (was 10 lbs 7 ounces at birth) and tall baby (now 22.5 inches long) and very healthy. For my part I have already lost 35 pounds since birth (as of Dec. 14 weigh in at the birth centre).  This means I only have 10 "pregnancy" pounds to lose, and I’ll be ready to lost the last 20 pounds to get to my healthy weight. I intend to start meetings again in January, however I will be starting the program again on my own (and with you guys) on Monday. I was wondering if any of you know how many points I must add for breastfeeding?  I figure 2 or 3 top, but I could be wrong… Any idea? Thanks! Isabelle

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Congratulations on the newcomer! A lovely present for Christmas! Elaine – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi everyone! First, happy holidays to all. Second, I am happy to announce that baby Catherine was born on Nov. 27. She’s a strong baby (was 10 lbs 7 ounces at birth) and tall baby (now 22.5 inches long) and very healthy. For my part I have already lost 35 pounds since birth (as of Dec. 14 weigh in at the birth centre).  This means I only have 10 "pregnancy" pounds to lose, and I’ll be ready to lost the last 20 pounds to get to my healthy weight. I intend to start meetings again in January, however I will be starting the program again on my own (and with you guys) on Monday. I was wondering if any of you know how many points I must add for breastfeeding?  I figure 2 or 3 top, but I could be wrong… Any idea? Thanks! Isabelle

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Hi everyone! First, happy holidays to all. Second, I am happy to announce that baby Catherine was born on Nov. 27. She’s a strong baby (was 10 lbs 7 ounces at birth) and tall baby (now 22.5 inches long) and very healthy. For my part I have already lost 35 pounds since birth (as of Dec. 14 weigh in at the birth centre).  This means I only have 10 "pregnancy" pounds to lose, and I’ll be ready to lost the last 20 pounds to get to my healthy weight. I intend to start meetings again in January, however I will be starting the program again on my own (and with you guys) on Monday. I was wondering if any of you know how many points I must add for breastfeeding?  I figure 2 or 3 top, but I could be wrong… Any idea? Thanks! Isabelle

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ether: I remember clearly a couple of nights when she was still a little baby, she would cry non-stop, no matter what we did. It drove me insane, to the point of me standing screaming at her to just shut up. Something I am not very proud of, but it happened.

Did you try taking her for a car ride?  It worked like a charm for both of my kids and many friends who have kids.  It was a last resort, but the baby usually falls asleep and then you can put her back in bed. I shook my eldest son once–luckily not hard enough to do any damage. It still freaks me out today.  After that, I just put the baby in a safe place in another room and closed the door.  I actually learned that trick when I was doing day care and the Association I belonged to taught us how to cope in such situations. One of my children was a sweet baby girl, who had a lot of painful health problems.  She was a frail thing.  I loved her to pieces–she was a friends baby.  She would cry and cry and cry–and I often cried with her–but ultimately I had to place her in a separate room and let her cry.  I had other kids to attend to.  A few times, I just couldn’t cope and had to call her mother to come get her.  I felt guilty about that–as I knew they needed the money from her job. I used to have very dark thoughts also–turns out those are fairly normal also–as long as you don’t act on them. Nancy Just knockin’ around the zoo. (James Taylor)

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the ether: I’m not sure of the breast feeding issues related to medication.  But if you can’t breastfeed or you decide on formula anyway, there’s no reason he can’t bottle feed exclusively. Seriously, I’d recommend it and get it in writing.  :)

When breast feeding, you can not take the same medications you could not take while pregnant.   I highly recommend breast feeding for at least six weeks.  This is the time period when the colostrum is provided to the baby, thus increasing their ability to resist disease.  It is also a bonding process like no other–it can even be better than an orgasm (at least for me). By the end of six weeks, your full milk will come in–if you stop, you will have difficulty with swelling and painful breasts.  Never stop breast feeding cold turkey (unless there is a problem)–you will regret it.  Like anything, you need to taper off. This may not be so easy, as once the baby finds how easy it is to get nutrition from a bottle, they often will refuse the breast. I breast fed my eldest for almost a year.  But, the last month I was only nursing at bedtime–this was a comfort for both of us–so it went on for quite a while. I had to return to work sooner than I’d like with my 2nd baby.  So, I would pump milk at work, freeze it there and the babysitter used it the next day to feed him.  This is not so easy either, as you never get as much milk this way as a baby would drink.  I had to add in formula.  I did this for almost 6 months–my milk tapering off slowly, because the baby wasn’t emptying my breasts, except twice a day.  (am and pm) I think the reason the baby hung in there with both breast and bottle was because of how large he was–he ate twice as much as the charts said he should eat.  He weighed 9lbs 9 1/2 oz.  My docs call that 10 pounds.  <g  He is 21 and he is about 6 ft tall and weighs about 250–mostly buff. By this time in my life, I knew I had clinical depression and was suspecting bipolar disorder–so I knew something was wrong–but I refused to treat it until I was completely done breast feeding. I just wanted to share some options and how they worked for me.  For more information about breast feeding, contact your local La Leche Team. Nancy Just knockin’ around the zoo. (James Taylor)

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My grandfather has said often he wishes he never had children, because he passed the BP gene along to his children, and grandchildren. That said, he still loves his children and grand children, and his life is richer with them in his life. I was 23 when my daughter was born, and still undiagnosed. 6 months after she was born, my family was included in a study on the genetics of BP, and I was interviewed – this is when I first started suspecting that I might have it too. Up till that point, it was not something discussed in my family. I loved being pregnant, and I love my daughter more than anything in this world. I have a good support system, but found the first couple of years very hard to cope with – mostly because I was unmedicated and undiagnosed, and not sure why my moods were as erratic as they were. I remember clearly a couple of nights when she was still a little baby, she would cry non-stop, no matter what we did. It drove me insane, to the point of me standing screaming at her to just shut up. Something I am not very proud of, but it happened. My daughter is 7 now, and an angel. She does, however, show signs of BP every now and again, and we are keeping a close eye on her. I believe she is still too young to be medicated. We considered having another child last year. I went into a mania, and was finally diagnosed officially, at the same time. Now, I am glad we did not act on our consideration. I am not sure I can cope right now with another child, and I am not sure I want to take the chance of passing on the gene to yet another human being. I do not regret having my daughter, she is the light of my life. I regret not knowing more about BP for the first couple of years of her life.

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I have been trying to convince myself not to have kids because of the BP thing, but I really, really want a child. I love kids. I’m thinking it through with my husband and not rushing into anything. I was a nanny in my early 20s and loved it, then became a teacher. My older sister is BP I (I’m II), and she has a daughter, and manages well. So, those of you with children, how’s it working out? Would you discourage other people with bipolar from having children? Why or why not?

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into the ether: Actually, I’m doing everything I can to be cautious. IF we decide in favor of having a child, it will be a one time thing. I’m already 36, and I don’t think I could do it twice.

(big snip) And ultimately, even if we choose to try, there’s no guarantee than it will work, if you know what I mean.

I guess I didn’t pick up on your age.  If you are going to try for a baby–I think you should do it sooner rather than later.  New studies out show that after 30 yr old, women’s eggs start to deteriorate.  We are born with all the eggs we will ever have–so when we loose them, there is no replacement. You might want to discuss starting some hormones temporarily to produce more than one egg a month–thus increasing your chances of getting pregnant. You are obviously a very intelligent and thoughtful person.  I think if anyone is going to have joy out of children with bipolar it is YOU! :)  You have sound reasons for wanting a baby and you have thought most of it through.  You have a good support system. GO FOR IT!  But, you must come back and keep us up to date–especially when the baby is born.  I’m thinking positive here.  :D If it works out really well, who knows, you might decide to adopt a 2nd child. <eg Nancy Just knockin’ around the zoo. (James Taylor)

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into the ether: Unmedicated…. I haven’t been unmedicated in YEARS… over 10 at this point. However, I’ve been on meds that have been useless no & off at times. If that’s as crazy as I get, I think I can handle it for 9 months. I talked to the doc, and mood stabilizers are a big no. Serious birth defects. Same with antidepressants. But I do have a good counselor & support system here, so those are positives.

The most important thing is a good support system. I suggest you go off your meds (taper down) at least a month before you try to get pregnant.  This will serve a couple of purposes.  First, you will have a totally clean system to protect the baby.  Secondly, you will know what it’s like to be off meds–just in case it causes problems. This can make it very difficult to wait to create baby.  I don’t know if I could have been that patient.  I went off BCPs and was told to wait 2 months before we tried to make baby.  One night (about 1 month away from ending BCPs), we just said, f…k the condom and we made our first child.  I get pregnant very easily. ;) Then, there are OTC things that you can take that are safe for the baby.  Omega 3 fatty acids (10 to 15 grams/day) can work as a mood stabilizer.  Thyroid replacement (closely monitored) can act as a anti-depressant.   You need to check this one out–but I think 5htp is safe–it can act as a anti-depressant also. I suggest a special pre-natal vitamin that is better than the prescriptions (my ob/gyn agreed).  http://www.bronsonvitamins.com/product_details.cfm?id=66&cid=7 I’d also add vitamin B complex, and folic acid (recommended anyway and can help morning sickness).   Exercise is also critical to help keep moods more stable.  I thought of my pregnancies as training for the Olympics.  I did as much as I could.  I swam almost every day.  I’m certain it also made delivery much easier for me. There are probably more things like what I’ve mentioned, I just don’t know them all. :) Nancy Just knockin’ around the zoo. (James Taylor)

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Unmedicated…. I haven’t been unmedicated in YEARS… over 10 at this point. However, I’ve been on meds that have been useless no & off at times. If that’s as crazy as I get, I think I can handle it for 9 months. I talked to the doc, and mood stabilizers are a big no. Serious birth defects. Same with antidepressants. But I do have a good counselor & support system here, so those are positives.

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – permanently into the ether: I’m a baby boomer who grew up with an undiagnosed, untreated BP (with periods of psychosis) mother.  It was sheer hell on earth.  I’m the oldest of 5 children.  We are all very seriously f^cked up.  4 of the 5 us are BP, the 5th is unipolar.  There were very serious child abuse issues, the most dramatic was my mother flipping out and chasing us down the hall with a kitchen knife trying to kill us.  We baricaded ourselves in the a bathroom that had a window. My mother would get to the door and pound the knife into it, screamming that she "cursed the day she  brought us into the world."This was not an isolated event. Maggie reminded me of something else.  My father was diagnosed unipolar depression sometime in the late 1960’s. (I’m certain he is really bipolar) His treatment was Dalmane (hypnotic) at night for sleep and Dexadrine to stay awake during the day.  <cringe I was in high school at the time. I remember his temper the most.  One day at our cabin, he chased my mother around the cabin with a sharpened ski pole.  I kid you not.  He almost tipped over the dinning table–which seats 12 people.  Then he just walked out. My Mom went running after him.  I screamed at her NOT to do so, to call the police, but Mom wasn’t listening to me.  About an hour later, they came back holding hands. As a kid this was incongruous–I never understood how you could be so mad as to want to kill someone, and an hour later hold their hand.  It still bugs me. My Dad broke all kinds of things in his rages.  I actually have one of the tables he "beat up". After 5 years of a medical retirement and intense therapy (family thread here??), he was off all medications and living a joyful life. Over the last few years he has developed many medical problems which really bother him.  He is 74 yr old.  He works out almost every day and is in much better shape than I could ever dream of.  He has macular degeneration and has lost most of his eyesight.  He has a skin condition that he hates.  He is obviously depressed about this–but IMO he needs to see a pdoc, because his violent tendencies are back. One night we were having a lot of people over to my parents house.  My Dad was trying to feed the cat and the noise scared her.  The baby gate was up, so the cat was stuck downstairs–which pissed Dad off to no end.  So, how does he cope? He lifts up his bed (to find the cat) and SLAMS it down–the entire house shook and everyone heard him yell at the poor cat. Now, keep in mind that he is on no medications (except omega 3’s and thyroid) and is not currently in counseling.  Mom’s working on it. :) You should also check with your pdoc about medications during pregnancy. Most docs want you to go off medications during the pregnancy.  What are you like unmedicated? Nancy Just knockin’ around the zoo. (James Taylor)

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I have been trying to convince myself not to have kids because of the BP thing, but I really, really want a child. I love kids. I’m thinking it through with my husband and not rushing into anything. I was a nanny in my early 20s and loved it, then became a teacher. My older sister is BP I (I’m II), and she has a daughter, and manages well. So, those of you with children, how’s it working out? Would you discourage other people with bipolar from having children? Why or why not?

Hi Lisa – I’m not sure which direction your question is leading.  Are you asking about concerns raising children as a bipolar parent?  Or is your question about possible genetic and moral issues conceiving children yet being diagnosed bipolar? For the first question, kids have been both a blessing and a challenge. I was diagnosed bp because of my first child, actually.  He kept me up all night.  I spared my wife the effort (post partum depression hit her) and always attended to him.  I was struck with mania and psychosis six months after a very difficult stretch of sleepless nights.  I’d really talk it through with your husband.  Discuss issues about sleep, night time responsibilites, breastfeeding, and stress.  Realisitically, I’d recommend he take the onus.  I’m not sure of the breast feeding issues related to medication.  But if you can’t breastfeed or you decide on formula anyway, there’s no reason he can’t bottle feed exclusively. Seriously, I’d recommend it and get it in writing.  :) Besides the sleeplessness, they’re a blessing.  My kids have shown me a quality of life that is just outstanding.  My moods have gone up.   They have changed my life in every way imaginable.  I couldn’t describe it if I had 1000 pages.  But other parents understand.   It’s incredible.  My politcal views have changed.  My career aspirations have changed.  Nearly every choice I make considers my children’s quality of life.  I’m much more happy with my children. For the second question, both of my children are fine to date.  They are age one and four.  They are happy, well adjusted, socially active, and wonderfully respectful kids.   But I think kids are potluck.  My best childhood friend is a doctorate and a professor.  Yet his brother failed out of high school.  All variables were the same.  Loving family.  Normal psychological profile.   They were just wildly different brothers. It could be that my children will show bp signs in the future.  I dread the possibility.  I didn’t want another child actually.  My wife either decided to have one on her own or we got a bad batch of 99.999999% effective birth control pills.  But now that the second was born, I’ve warmed up to the idea of having more. I think I would welcome a third in the future. I’d say you’re on the right track with discussing it.  It’s a great sign of responsible and good parenting already.  I wouldn’t go through life without children.  But I would never be able to advise someone else on the question.  I can just offer my own experience. Good luck in your decision!

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permanently into the ether: I’m a baby boomer who grew up with an undiagnosed, untreated BP (with periods of psychosis) mother.  It was sheer hell on earth.  I’m the oldest of 5 children.  We are all very seriously f^cked up.  4 of the 5 us are BP, the 5th is unipolar.  There were very serious child abuse issues, the most dramatic was my mother flipping out and chasing us down the hall with a kitchen knife trying to kill us.  We baricaded ourselves in the a bathroom that had a window. My mother would get to the door and pound the knife into it, screamming that she "cursed the day she  brought us into the world."This was not an isolated event.

Maggie reminded me of something else.  My father was diagnosed unipolar depression sometime in the late 1960’s. (I’m certain he is really bipolar)  His treatment was Dalmane (hypnotic) at night for sleep and Dexadrine to stay awake during the day.  <cringe I was in high school at the time.   I remember his temper the most.  One day at our cabin, he chased my mother around the cabin with a sharpened ski pole.  I kid you not.  He almost tipped over the dinning table–which seats 12 people.  Then he just walked out.  My Mom went running after him.  I screamed at her NOT to do so, to call the police, but Mom wasn’t listening to me.  About an hour later, they came back holding hands. As a kid this was incongruous–I never understood how you could be so mad as to want to kill someone, and an hour later hold their hand.  It still bugs me. My Dad broke all kinds of things in his rages.  I actually have one of the tables he "beat up".   After 5 years of a medical retirement and intense therapy (family thread here??), he was off all medications and living a joyful life.   Over the last few years he has developed many medical problems which really bother him.  He is 74 yr old.  He works out almost every day and is in much better shape than I could ever dream of.  He has macular degeneration and has lost most of his eyesight.  He has a skin condition that he hates.  He is obviously depressed about this–but IMO he needs to see a pdoc, because his violent tendencies are back.   One night we were having a lot of people over to my parents house.  My Dad was trying to feed the cat and the noise scared her.  The baby gate was up, so the cat was stuck downstairs–which pissed Dad off to no end.  So, how does he cope? He lifts up his bed (to find the cat) and SLAMS it down–the entire house shook and everyone heard him yell at the poor cat.   Now, keep in mind that he is on no medications (except omega 3’s and thyroid) and is not currently in counseling.  Mom’s working on it. :) You should also check with your pdoc about medications during pregnancy.  Most docs want you to go off medications during the pregnancy.  What are you like unmedicated? Nancy Just knockin’ around the zoo. (James Taylor)

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Actually, I’m doing everything I can to be cautious. IF we decide in favor of having a child, it will be a one time thing. I’m already 36, and I don’t think I could do it twice. I plan on nothing going as planned. I grew up in a big chaotic family, and kind of… well, I guess I really like to have to multi-task. I’m at my best when there are a lot fo demands on me. I tend to get depressed when I’m bored, or when there isn’t much going on. My husbdna and I are pretty well-off financially… nobody ever has as much money as they’d like to before having kids though. We have a great house and secure jobs. LOTS of family support from both sides. I’ve gotten to a point with my experience of BP where I can realize when I’m moving towards one end of the spectrum or the other, and I’m good at talking to my doc as soon as I notice any mood issues. Better yet, my husband is getting good at helping me recognize any changes in a way that doesn’t freak me out or wind me up worse. And ultimately, even if we choose to try, there’s no guarantee than it will work, if you know what I mean.

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Well, as for teenagers being a real pain in the ass for most people, I work with them by choice… The more messed up a kid is, the more I’m willing to work with them. I worked 4 years with kids at extremely high risk for dropping out of high school, including some with mood disorders. I really enjoy that work, mostly because I was really bad & messed up at that age & nobody knew how to help me. And my students love me and are very loyal. I know that everything would be different with my own child, but at least I have something to go on with expectations of teenagers. <entire quote snipped by moderator due to length

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into the ether: Well, as for teenagers being a real pain in the ass for most people, I work with them by choice… The more messed up a kid is, the more I’m willing to work with them. I worked 4 years with kids at extremely high risk for dropping out of high school, including some with mood disorders. I really enjoy that work, mostly because I was really bad & messed up at that age & nobody knew how to help me. And my students love me and are very loyal. I know that everything would be different with my own child, but at least I have something to go on with expectations of teenagers.

I guess I got verbose and my point was lost. <g The point I was trying to make is that you can not predict what kind of a child you will have.  I was a teacher and my own children simply never responded to me.  I worked with Education Consultants who could do their job very well, but their kids (no matter what the parents did) were problematic. IOW, do not set expectations about what raising children is like–they are all different.  Good genes means nothing.  IMO The bottom line is to be prepared for anything and get a good support system.  I had virtually NO support system and was constantly fighting the school system and health care system.   I had no problems when they were little–never even had the terrible twos with either of my kids.  My elder son did get the terrible 5’s. <g All those consultants I used to work with kept saying, don’t worry, eventually they will come around.  Just when I’d totally given up and stopped trying to keep in contact with my elder son (who moved constantly and never called us with his phone number).  I stopped sending Christmas gifts and b-day gifts.   Then bang, after two years of our ignoring him–he suddenly came around.  Like magic!  I see him at least once a week and he always does a chore for me.  He is amazing! So, eventually they do seem to come around–I’m just glad I lived long enough to see it.  <eg Nancy Just knockin’ around the zoo. (James Taylor)

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Well, as for teenagers being a real pain in the ass for most people, I work with them by choice… The more messed up a kid is, the more I’m willing to work with them. I worked 4 years with kids at extremely high risk for dropping out of high school, including some with mood disorders. I really enjoy that work, mostly because I was really bad & messed up at that age & nobody knew how to help me. And my students love me and are very loyal. I know that everything would be different with my own child, but at least I have something to go on with expectations of teenagers.

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – permanently into the ether: I have been trying to convince myself not to have kids because of the BP thing, but I really, really want a child. I love kids. I’m thinking it through with my husband and not rushing into anything. I was a nanny in my early 20s and loved it, then became a teacher. My older sister is BP I (I’m II), and she has a daughter, and manages well. So, those of you with children, how’s it working out? Would you discourage other people with bipolar from having children? Why or why not? My kids were around 10 and 13 when I was diagnosed–too late for me to make another decision. The good: I adored them as babies. I loved to expose them to things that I’d experienced. Hugs and kisses watching them grow up way too fast. family vacations Scouting Skiing Watching bugs gardening (little kids eat dirt you know, and slugs and snails) LOL family gatherings Pure joy at times Both kids finally turned out to be people I can be proud of–only took 24 years. The bad: I had expectations that my kids never came close to meeting–not even a C average, until I spent one trust fund to get my youngest into private HS. He did pretty well after that–but no college.   I was devastated for years. My elder son went out of control and had to be sent to a group home.  We had to spend his trust fund on the group home and intervention program–which was a waste of time and money.  He manipulated his way for everything.  He has no mental illness, just an attitude problem.  We had to write him off, or suffer medically. My bipolar episodes affected my entire family and they are different people for it.  Some good, some bad. The most severe episode that I remember made my 2 year old and 5 year old have to deal with death for the first time.  Granted the 2 year old didn’t know what was going on and I wasn’t trying to commit suicide.  I had gone out in a snow storm in a dysphoric hypo mania (only diagnosed unipolar depression at the time).  I didn’t feel like walking in a white out–couldn’t see where the street started or ended.  So, I sat in the car, in the carport for about 2 hours. I had no clue they were looking all over for me–they never looked in the car. I went through years of hell with my eldest son.  He aggravated my bipolar and I simply couldn’t cope with a kid like him.  I yelled too often and too loud.  I never hit/spanked my children, except in some safety situations where I needed their attention NOW.  We went to counseling and learned nothing, as we were practicing all of their "good parenting skills" already.  My eldest son had nothing but a bed, empty desk and dresser in his room.  He never earned things like normal kids do.  My youngest son earned a television, stereo, computer and many other electronic toys. It made me sick that all I ever did was criticize them, as they rarely gave me any opportunity to praise them (mainly eldest son).  I would set up a situation just to be able to praise them and it didn’t always work. I fought the school system over many issues.  We were discriminated against, but had no proof.  HS was hell. I was SOOO glad the day we kicked my eldest son out of the house.  I’d done all I could and I was very sick at the time–going through the worst period in my life (work wise).  It was a great relief when he moved out–even though he moved back in for short periods until he was 21.  We kicked him out each time because he did not live up to his agreement for free rent in exchange for help around the house. Today: Just this year has my elder son (24) become a more responsible person. I’m not so sure about his current GF–but they are both working their butts off starting up a new business.  They are being sponsored by another business, which means they have a mentor who actually owns the business right now.  He is making money like I never thought he could.  But, the most important things are that he is happier than I’ve ever seen him, he is proud of himself, and he likes what he is doing. My younger son is out of this world.  He may not have gone to college (he took a few classes), but he is so good at several things that he can basically do whatever he wants to.  He is the one investing in houses.  He has bought two houses, fixed up one and sold it at a big profit; and the other one he is fixing up and will sell very soon.  He’s been in business for 2 years.  He is also an extremely good salesperson (ugh!).  He could sell ice to an Eskimo!  And he’s a very good computer technician (certified a bunch of ways). Just writing about them now gives me butterflies in my stomach.  I love them more today than ever. Was it worth going through all that?  For a beeper, pragmatically, probably not. However, the younger you are when the baby is born, the better chance you have of surviving if your expectations smashed to smithereens. I think my experience isn’t the usual situation.  What I was unprepared for (due to manic thinking that my kids would be just like me) was the school struggle and raising boys.  Let’s face it girls and boys are different and I probably do not have the temperament to raise boys. That is all practical–to a fault.  My hormones kicked in and I got married to my sweet heart and had a baby a year later–it absolutely was a biological decision for me.  Being an undiagnosed bipolar it was not a choice. I loved being pregnant, not everyone does.  I took a leave from my job and set up a family day care center, so I could be with my new baby.  I did that until he was a year old–even breast fed that long. Breast feeding was so far beyond bonding–it’s a natural high.  I loved that part too.  You get close to the baby in a way that you can’t otherwise. So, would I do it again?  I have no clue!  LOL  My practical side says no way. My emotional side is in the middle, but leaning toward "you bet". ;) Feel free to ask me any questions–as my kids are grown and I’ve seen just about everything. <g HTH, Nancy Just knockin’ around the zoo. (James Taylor)

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Would you discourage other people with bipolar from having children? Why or why not?

Lisa, I think it’s wise that you are exploring this important question thouroughly before taking the leap. I’m a baby boomer who grew up with an undiagnosed, untreated BP (with periods of psychosis) mother.  It was sheer hell on earth.  I’m the oldest of 5 children.  We are all very seriously f^cked up.  4 of the 5 us are BP, the 5th is unipolar.  There were very serious child abuse issues, the most dramatic was my mother flipping out and chasing us down the hall with a kitchen knife trying to kill us.  We baricaded ourselves in the a bathroom that had a window.  My mother would get to the door and pound the knife into it, screamming that she "cursed the day she  brought us into the world."This was not an isolated event. We lived near a large bridge that we had to cross to get to my uncle’s house. When understress, my mother would pack us in the car and head for her brother’s house. He wasn’t BP and they were very close.  If we or the traffic irritated my mother she would stop the car in the emergency area, get out of the car and consider jumping off the bridge……or….she’d freak out and announce that she was going to drive  the car off the side of the bridge with herself and all of us in it. Now, in fairness to my mother, this was in the late 1950’s early 1960’s and the level of medical remedy for BP was extreenly limited, and she was going through a divorce, or in the aftermath of one. Modern BP’ers have access to some of the best care and medicines ever imaginable, especially in the last 5 years or so. Number one caveat for all of us…get medicated with the best possible rx available and get stable…..seriously stable long term before doing anything! I have 2 sons, one is 35 and the other will be 33 in December.  Both have turned out remarkably well.  Both are college grads, married with child or chinldren, home owners. The older one suffers from what appears to be unipolar depression which he tries to hide because he’s a fighter pilot like his Dad was.  The younger has a history of unipolar which has apparently morphed into BP2 which is as yet undiagnosed.  He’s an attorney with the Feds. I married right out of HS, and had been seenig a shrink for depression for 3 years at that time.  I was only diagnosed with BP2 4 years ago…age 51. I was in therapy for at least half of my life….periods off for good behavior, and despite always specifically telling my shrinks (they were all MD trick cyclists)  about the BP that runs in my mother’s maternal line, I was continually misdiagnosed as unipolar.  (BP2 is a relatively new category and I present with severe depressive episodes with rare bouts of hyojmomani which was assumed to be "me when I wasn’t depressed)." My 1st husband and father of my 2 children, was shot down in Viet Nam 7 months before my 2nd child was born.  At this point the family had a marker where they could openly discuss my delicate condition.  Not so shamefull to have the 23 year old widow of a military hero left  somewhat shattered by the experience. I was fortunate to marry a wonderful man relatively quickly.  The family was accepting because there was no way I could be expected to handle my life alone at that age at that time….1974. My children and I entered a period of optimal external stability unequaled in most marriages I have seen.  My husband took on a 24 year old with 2 children under 5 and was, in retropspect, our salvation. He was also very well off financially and had a job he loved where he was very successful.  This enabled me to complete the BA I had started part time during my 1st marriage, complete graduate school and find a job I loved where I was sucessfulo and very well paid. We had a live in babysitter (au pair) a gardener, a cleaning lady once or twice a week.  Even so, it was known to all, including my young sons that "we have to take care of Mommy because she’s delicate and has been through so much." AKA….do not do anything to freak your mother out….let stepdad deal with any mini crisis and always look after your mother." They went to prep school (Boarding) from grade 9 and also attended college on the east coast.  They came home for all vacation and we were in constant touch. If I had not had this rather unusual support system I have no clue how I would have gotten through my life or how my children would have turned out. I love my kids but have some residual uneasiness about them always having to live with "you have to really take care of your mother and sheild her from stress or bad news." Again…their stepfather was a champion at sheltering us all. There were no suicide attemps, no hospitalizations, no continuing major dramas because he managed everything for optimal conditions.  He was 12 years older than I and that’s a big gap for ages 24 & -36 at marriage. I have to agree with Nancy, who I think has given a very frank disclosure as her life as a Mom.  There are a lot of things that can go wrong and the results can be upsetting. I think each person needs to take a strategic view of the challanges involved and how to plan to compensate for them.  Also, be aware that the unexpected….a divorce for example can leave the best laid plans in shambles. I’d also strongly suggest that everyone really consider having a small, manageable number of children.  If you think you want 4, have 2.  Stress adds up and has to be micromanaged,  if you have a spouse and support system it is a big, big advantage. It isnt easy. I think having a realistic idea about how stable a life you can expect….your own mental health and your external surroundings, etc. Sorry to sound like an overly cautious type, but again, living with my unstabelized BP mother has left an inestimatable amount of fear of the worst. YMMV Best wishes and sincere hope that you will find the path that is right for you. Maggie

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Ralph, that was so beautiful, I thought about crying. I’ve held my sister’s newborns in my arms (immediately after birth with one… the doc didn’t seem to know who to make the hand-off to) & the baby I was a nanny for the day she was born, but I’d love to hold my own.

Its the truth. God Bless you and good luck with your soon to be child. Hugs, Ralph

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I have 16year old daughter and we are best friends. I didn’t know I was BP until a year ago and I am still struggling with it. My little girl is very supportive. For some reason kids have there own instincts she always know when to leave me alone. Would I had a child if I would have known I am BP? I think I would, I just would do things different to her benefits. HappyPolarBear

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I have a daughter 24 in Sept.  When she was born I didn’t know I was BP. However, I was very conscious of the things I said to her and helped her develop her self esteem.  She shows no signs of BP.  I wouldn’t trade being a parent for the world.  After all, craziness in inhereted…you get it from your kids! If you want a child and are prepared to be a parent and have good support behind you (the most important thing) you and your family should be fine. Just watch out for the teen years.  Sometimes you may want to move out of state…alone. ;) c

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Ralph, that was so beautiful, I thought about crying. I’ve held my sister’s newborns in my arms (immediately after birth with one… the doc didn’t seem to know who to make the hand-off to) & the baby I was a nanny for the day she was born, but I’d love to hold my own.

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I shouldn’t be posting here, but I can’t resist this one. The love of a parent for a child and the love of a child for the parent transcends Bipolar Disorder. Think of the love (a normal emotion) and disallow the bipolar (abnormal). You’ll do just fine. When you first hold your newborn in your arms, you’ll know exactly what I mean. Until you hold your own child, there is no way you can understand the depths of that love. Ralph I have been trying to convince myself not to have kids because of the BP thing, but I really, really want a child. I love kids. I’m thinking it through with my husband and not rushing into anything. I was a nanny in my early 20s and loved it, then became a teacher. My older sister is BP I (I’m II), and she has a daughter, and manages well. So, those of you with children, how’s it working out? Would you discourage other people with bipolar from having children? Why or why not?

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into the ether: I have been trying to convince myself not to have kids because of the BP thing, but I really, really want a child. I love kids. I’m thinking it through with my husband and not rushing into anything. I was a nanny in my early 20s and loved it, then became a teacher. My older sister is BP I (I’m II), and she has a daughter, and manages well. So, those of you with children, how’s it working out? Would you discourage other people with bipolar from having children? Why or why not?

My kids were around 10 and 13 when I was diagnosed–too late for me to make another decision.   The good: I adored them as babies.   I loved to expose them to things that I’d experienced. Hugs and kisses watching them grow up way too fast. family vacations Scouting Skiing Watching bugs gardening (little kids eat dirt you know, and slugs and snails) LOL family gatherings Pure joy at times Both kids finally turned out to be people I can be proud of–only took 24 years. The bad: I had expectations that my kids never came close to meeting–not even a C average, until I spent one trust fund to get my youngest into private HS.  He did pretty well after that–but no college.   I was devastated for years.   My elder son went out of control and had to be sent to a group home.  We had to spend his trust fund on the group home and intervention program–which was a waste of time and money.  He manipulated his way for everything.  He has no mental illness, just an attitude problem.  We had to write him off, or suffer medically.   My bipolar episodes affected my entire family and they are different people for it.  Some good, some bad. The most severe episode that I remember made my 2 year old and 5 year old have to deal with death for the first time.  Granted the 2 year old didn’t know what was going on and I wasn’t trying to commit suicide.  I had gone out in a snow storm in a dysphoric hypo mania (only diagnosed unipolar depression at the time).  I didn’t feel like walking in a white out–couldn’t see where the street started or ended.  So, I sat in the car, in the carport for about 2 hours. I had no clue they were looking all over for me–they never looked in the car. I went through years of hell with my eldest son.  He aggravated my bipolar and I simply couldn’t cope with a kid like him.  I yelled too often and too loud.  I never hit/spanked my children, except in some safety situations where I needed their attention NOW.  We went to counseling and learned nothing, as we were practicing all of their "good parenting skills" already.  My eldest son had nothing but a bed, empty desk and dresser in his room.  He never earned things like normal kids do.  My youngest son earned a television, stereo, computer and many other electronic toys.   It made me sick that all I ever did was criticize them, as they rarely gave me any opportunity to praise them (mainly eldest son).  I would set up a situation just to be able to praise them and it didn’t always work. I fought the school system over many issues.  We were discriminated against, but had no proof.  HS was hell. I was SOOO glad the day we kicked my eldest son out of the house.  I’d done all I could and I was very sick at the time–going through the worst period in my life (work wise).  It was a great relief when he moved out–even though he moved back in for short periods until he was 21.  We kicked him out each time because he did not live up to his agreement for free rent in exchange for help around the house. Today: Just this year has my elder son (24) become a more responsible person.  I’m not so sure about his current GF–but they are both working their butts off starting up a new business.  They are being sponsored by another business, which means they have a mentor who actually owns the business right now.  He is making money like I never thought he could.  But, the most important things are that he is happier than I’ve ever seen him, he is proud of himself, and he likes what he is doing. My younger son is out of this world.  He may not have gone to college (he took a few classes), but he is so good at several things that he can basically do whatever he wants to.  He is the one investing in houses.  He has bought two houses, fixed up one and sold it at a big profit; and the other one he is fixing up and will sell very soon.  He’s been in business for 2 years.  He is also an extremely good salesperson (ugh!).  He could sell ice to an Eskimo!  And he’s a very good computer technician (certified a bunch of ways).   Just writing about them now gives me butterflies in my stomach.  I love them more today than ever. Was it worth going through all that?  For a beeper, pragmatically, probably not. However, the younger you are when the baby is born, the better chance you have of surviving if your expectations smashed to smithereens. I think my experience isn’t the usual situation.  What I was unprepared for (due to manic thinking that my kids would be just like me) was the school struggle and raising boys.  Let’s face it girls and boys are different and I probably do not have the temperament to raise boys. That is all practical–to a fault.  My hormones kicked in and I got married to my sweet heart and had a baby a year later–it absolutely was a biological decision for me.  Being an undiagnosed bipolar it was not a choice.   I loved being pregnant, not everyone does.  I took a leave from my job and set up a family day care center, so I could be with my new baby.  I did that until he was a year old–even breast fed that long.   Breast feeding was so far beyond bonding–it’s a natural high.  I loved that part too.  You get close to the baby in a way that you can’t otherwise. So, would I do it again?  I have no clue!  LOL  My practical side says no way. My emotional side is in the middle, but leaning toward "you bet". ;) Feel free to ask me any questions–as my kids are grown and I’ve seen just about everything. <g HTH, Nancy Just knockin’ around the zoo. (James Taylor)

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I shouldn’t be posting here, but I can’t resist this one. The love of a parent for a child and the love of a child for the parent transcends Bipolar Disorder. Think of the love (a normal emotion) and disallow the bipolar (abnormal). You’ll do just fine. When you first hold your newborn in your arms, you’ll know exactly what I mean. Until you hold your own child, there is no way you can understand the depths of that love. Ralph – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I have been trying to convince myself not to have kids because of the BP thing, but I really, really want a child. I love kids. I’m thinking it through with my husband and not rushing into anything. I was a nanny in my early 20s and loved it, then became a teacher. My older sister is BP I (I’m II), and she has a daughter, and manages well. So, those of you with children, how’s it working out? Would you discourage other people with bipolar from having children? Why or why not?

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Having kids has been one of the greatest joys of my life. It all helps if you have a supporive family. My mother helped me out a lot when the kids were really young as did my husband. I wish my kids did not see my suicide attempts but other than that I have no regrets.But I must admit that their behaviour can flip my moods now that they are 17 and 18. But my husband is very supportive and talks to them about my illness when I can’t do something or explains why I need a nap. Parenthood is excellent for me Janice

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I have been trying to convince myself not to have kids because of the BP thing, but I really, really want a child. I love kids. I’m thinking it through with my husband and not rushing into anything. I was a nanny in my early 20s and loved it, then became a teacher. My older sister is BP I (I’m II), and she has a daughter, and manages well. So, those of you with children, how’s it working out? Would you discourage other people with bipolar from having children? Why or why not?

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I think that if you want kids and know you are BP, you will do fine. My regret is that I had a child and DIDN’T know I was bipolar Lester

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Yowlet Update 30th March 5am

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yup, me again, witht he insomnia. Ok, the insomnia started about 3am and hasn’t really let off. I’ve thrown up once, and as a consequence I now have water cracker crumbs in my bed. They do make for an "interesting" lie down.

Sending the purr of three and hugs for you and the Yowlet. Keep the reports coming, we *all* care and look forward to hundreds of JPEGS of Cary. — Adrian (Owned by Snoopy, Milo & Bagheera) A house is not a home, without a cat.

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – yup, me again, witht he insomnia. Ok, the insomnia started about 3am and hasn’t really let off. I’ve thrown up once, and as a consequence I now have water cracker crumbs in my bed. They do make for an "interesting" lie down. The panic has set in. I go to the obs later today, and I am pretty sure he’ll tell me I’m being induced this week. And I’m scared. I’m not ready (despite the fact I am *desperate* to get this thing outta me). The house isn’t ready. I can’t imagine life as a mother. Last night, I was having serious serious second thoughts. Why on earth have we done this to ourselves? What on earth were we thinking? Did we *really* want to get pregnant or was it just one of those things that seemed like a good idea at the time? My head isn’t in a good place at the moment (and I can’t imagine that helping the blood pressure stay down) and I"m not really sure what to do. Hence my ranting at you guys.

Don’t worry.  You’ll survive and so will the Yowlet.  It will take about six weeks after the Yowlet is born for your hormones to settle down, then you should be normal, more or less. It reads to me like you’re progressing normally.  I think all pregnant women go through that panic period shortly before the baby is born.  I know I fussed about everything possible before each of the kids were born.  It’s part of the nesting process, I suspect. By now, you may have had Cary and be resting comfortably at hospital. If not, hang in there and it will happen soon.  Lots of purrs and easy delivery thoughts for you and sympathy thoughts for all of you from us here. Pam, Rob, and the NC nine

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While I have not had my own child (nor do I want one), I’ve had plenty of friends that have.  What you are feeling is perfectly normal.  Your hormones are out of control, and you yourself are getting tired of carrying around the extra luggage.  Every pregnant woman I’ve been around has been through what you are going through now, so please rest assured it is normal. The "second guessing" is only normal.  However I am sure once you hold the baby in your arms for the first time you’ll wonder why you didn’t do it sooner.  Relax you will do fine and soon have a new bundle of joy to add to the *family*. Best wishes and purrs from all my kitties – all 16 of them (mine and the fosters). JoJo http://home.comcast.net/~zookeepr/fosters.html

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – yup, me again, witht he insomnia. Ok, the insomnia started about 3am and hasn’t really let off. I’ve thrown up once, and as a consequence I now have water cracker crumbs in my bed. They do make for an "interesting" lie down. The panic has set in. I go to the obs later today, and I am pretty sure he’ll tell me I’m being induced this week. And I’m scared. I’m not ready (despite the fact I am *desperate* to get this thing outta me). The house isn’t ready. I can’t imagine life as a mother. Last night, I was having serious serious second thoughts. Why on earth have we done this to ourselves? What on earth were we thinking? Did we *really* want to get pregnant or was it just one of those things that seemed like a good idea at the time? My head isn’t in a good place at the moment (and I can’t imagine that helping the blood pressure stay down) and I"m not really sure what to do. Hence my ranting at you guys. I’m glad you are there. Its like being able to talk to a whole bunch of good friends and 5 in the morning whent he rest of hte house is asleep (except Shmogg, and he’s off on a secret Kitty Mission, after receiving a good hour’s worth of scritching) Poor old Joel, I must seem uttelry nuts to him. One second, I want to be snuggled and pampers, the next I don’t want to be touched, and the third second I can barely control myself from smacking him *hard* and blaming him for feeling so anxious. He has always been one for teasing me, and even up to a month ago I was fine with it, and would tease straight back and then laugh at ourselves. It was always a good way of bonding. But now, I get *really* senstive about it, especxially being tickled, poked or otherwise physically teased and freak out on him. I have no idea why, I am supposing that perhaps I am feeling quite physically vunerable, I can’t move quickly and have sod all stamina so that my "natural" phsyical defense mechanisms are below standard, and I am feeling uncomfortable (like a declawed cat that bites). But *rationall* I’ve *never* been a physical match to Joel, he’s always been much stronger and much faster than I have ever been, so I don’t know why I suddenly feel like this. Its not like I’m *scared* of him on a concious level, but I think perhaps somewhre in my subconcious I fear that, because he doens’t know his own strength (he doesn’t!) that he’ll hirt the baby and I"m getting all motherly-instinct and protective. That or going mad. The nursery will be painted a bright happy yellow tomorrow – the colour is called "Lemon Gelato", and makes me think of yummy icecreams, fun parks and all things that a re great about childhood. Its being painted by Scott, entirely out of his own pocket, and on his own initiation too (he’s the uy that bought the Krispy Kremes for me). He also brought with him his carpet cleaner, and scared the living daylights out of us by letting us see the grot that came out of the carpet int he nursery – the least used room of the house. Scott is one of the GodFathers of Cary, his partner Marty will be the other. Although a gay couple, they are remarkably similar to Joel and I in the way they get along, in what they believe, and how they’d raise kids (we gave them the third degree) and, well, they arne’t exactly going to have their own. And the rest of our friends have been simply incredible as well (including you folk). I really don’t know what I have done to be blessed with such wonderful people in my life, but the generosity (not necessarily in material things, but it plays a significant part) of them all has astounded both of us. We;ve not had to buy a single thing for the baby yet (we’ve had to buy lots of stuff *because* of the baby, yes, but not directly *for* the baby) and we have enough toys and clothes to last a good year, I reckon. And I do so hope to be able to pass all this good stuff on to another couple who will need it after we’ve finished with it. The last thing I"d want to see is it all disposed of – what a complete waste. In some ways I really wish my sister had waited a year until she got preggers herself then she could have had all this, but her baby will only be 4 months younger than Cary, and so there will be nothing I won’t still be using to give to her (except support and adivice I guess) My feet are *really* puffy and cnstantly ache like I"ve just spent the whole day walking on them. Half my shoes no longer fit, I’ve had to borrow Joel’s. I do like pressing the ankles though and seeing just how bad the water retention is by seeing how long it takes for the impression to leave the skin. It looks really weird. And my hands have also swollen a little, but I don’t notice the larger size so much (as my engagement and wedding rings have always been pretty loose) but how *hot* the feel. I often just stick them under the cold tap because it is such a blessed relief – but then again I’m still at least 5 degrees hotter than everyone around me. I mean, its getting near the middle of Autumn and I"m still sleeping with nothing on and a fan blowing onto me. Occasionally I have to put a sheet over my hips and stomach, but if I don’t have my top half bare with the fan, I feel suffocatingly hot. And if you want a lift in my car, bring a jumper with you, I’ve got the air con on max! Had the "baby shower" on Saturday, which was really nothing more than a few girlfriends (plus Scott, Marty couldn’t make it) over for a night of excess food and excess alcohol for those few of us who can still indulge (two were pregnant, one was breast feeding and another driving). The breast feeding one brought her son along. Fluffy got very confused. Especially when he started crying. She got *very* agitated and even started barking. I could tell it wasn’t an *agressive* bark, but she was getting so worke dup about it I feared taht she might start snapping at people (or worse, the baby) and had th throw her outside. I am *hoping* that her strange behaviour was due to lack of familiarity with young children, and that it was a protective urge rather than anything else, as the growling and barking was accompanies by frenzied tail wagging, and I know that Fluffy is not a really agressive dog generally. Shmogg spent the whole day hiding in wherever it is Shmogg hides (he’s got a new spot I haven’t yet discovered) so I figure that Shmogg will be OK with the baby once he get shome, and will cope inthe usual way he does when something has happened he doens’t like – by completley ignoring it and pretending its not there. Well, finally the circadian rhythm has come back to "tired" and I"ll try to get another few hours shut eye in before I get to play assistant painter, and then go off to the obs. I’ll keep you all up to date with whats happening. Once agian, thanks for being here in the dead of night  - its really reassuring to know that I can "talk" to someone even if my side of the world is still sound asleep. Purrs to all the barekittens out there, no matter how old. Yowie

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – yup, me again, witht he insomnia. Ok, the insomnia started about 3am and hasn’t really let off. I’ve thrown up once, and as a consequence I now have water cracker crumbs in my bed. They do make for an "interesting" lie down. The panic has set in. I go to the obs later today, and I am pretty sure he’ll tell me I’m being induced this week. And I’m scared. I’m not ready (despite the fact I am *desperate* to get this thing outta me). The house isn’t ready. I can’t imagine life as a mother. Last night, I was having serious serious second thoughts. Why on earth have we done this to ourselves? What on earth were we thinking? Did we *really* want to get pregnant or was it just one of those things that seemed like a good idea at the time? My head isn’t in a good place at the moment (and I can’t imagine that helping the blood pressure stay down) and I"m not really sure what to do. Hence my ranting at you guys. I’m glad you are there. Its like being able to talk to a whole bunch of good friends and 5 in the morning whent he rest of hte house is asleep (except Shmogg, and he’s off on a secret Kitty Mission, after receiving a good hour’s worth of scritching) Poor old Joel, I must seem uttelry nuts to him. One second, I want to be snuggled and pampers, the next I don’t want to be touched, and the third second I can barely control myself from smacking him *hard* and blaming him for feeling so anxious. He has always been one for teasing me, and even up to a month ago I was fine with it, and would tease straight back and then laugh at ourselves. It was always a good way of bonding. But now, I get *really* senstive about it, especxially being tickled, poked or otherwise physically teased and freak out on him. I have no idea why, I am supposing that perhaps I am feeling quite physically vunerable, I can’t move quickly and have sod all stamina so that my "natural" phsyical defense mechanisms are below standard, and I am feeling uncomfortable (like a declawed cat that bites). But *rationall* I’ve *never* been a physical match to Joel, he’s always been much stronger and much faster than I have ever been, so I don’t know why I suddenly feel like this. Its not like I’m *scared* of him on a concious level, but I think perhaps somewhre in my subconcious I fear that, because he doens’t know his own strength (he doesn’t!) that he’ll hirt the baby and I"m getting all motherly-instinct and protective. That or going mad. The nursery will be painted a bright happy yellow tomorrow – the colour is called "Lemon Gelato", and makes me think of yummy icecreams, fun parks and all things that a re great about childhood. Its being painted by Scott, entirely out of his own pocket, and on his own initiation too (he’s the uy that bought the Krispy Kremes for me). He also brought with him his carpet cleaner, and scared the living daylights out of us by letting us see the grot that came out of the carpet int he nursery – the least used room of the house. Scott is one of the GodFathers of Cary, his partner Marty will be the other. Although a gay couple, they are remarkably similar to Joel and I in the way they get along, in what they believe, and how they’d raise kids (we gave them the third degree) and, well, they arne’t exactly going to have their own. And the rest of our friends have been simply incredible as well (including you folk). I really don’t know what I have done to be blessed with such wonderful people in my life, but the generosity (not necessarily in material things, but it plays a significant part) of them all has astounded both of us. We;ve not had to buy a single thing for the baby yet (we’ve had to buy lots of stuff *because* of the baby, yes, but not directly *for* the baby) and we have enough toys and clothes to last a good year, I reckon. And I do so hope to be able to pass all this good stuff on to another couple who will need it after we’ve finished with it. The last thing I"d want to see is it all disposed of – what a complete waste. In some ways I really wish my sister had waited a year until she got preggers herself then she could have had all this, but her baby will only be 4 months younger than Cary, and so there will be nothing I won’t still be using to give to her (except support and adivice I guess) My feet are *really* puffy and cnstantly ache like I"ve just spent the whole day walking on them. Half my shoes no longer fit, I’ve had to borrow Joel’s. I do like pressing the ankles though and seeing just how bad the water retention is by seeing how long it takes for the impression to leave the skin. It looks really weird. And my hands have also swollen a little, but I don’t notice the larger size so much (as my engagement and wedding rings have always been pretty loose) but how *hot* the feel. I often just stick them under the cold tap because it is such a blessed relief – but then again I’m still at least 5 degrees hotter than everyone around me. I mean, its getting near the middle of Autumn and I"m still sleeping with nothing on and a fan blowing onto me. Occasionally I have to put a sheet over my hips and stomach, but if I don’t have my top half bare with the fan, I feel suffocatingly hot. And if you want a lift in my car, bring a jumper with you, I’ve got the air con on max! Had the "baby shower" on Saturday, which was really nothing more than a few girlfriends (plus Scott, Marty couldn’t make it) over for a night of excess food and excess alcohol for those few of us who can still indulge (two were pregnant, one was breast feeding and another driving). The breast feeding one brought her son along. Fluffy got very confused. Especially when he started crying. She got *very* agitated and even started barking. I could tell it wasn’t an *agressive* bark, but she was getting so worke dup about it I feared taht she might start snapping at people (or worse, the baby) and had th throw her outside. I am *hoping* that her strange behaviour was due to lack of familiarity with young children, and that it was a protective urge rather than anything else, as the growling and barking was accompanies by frenzied tail wagging, and I know that Fluffy is not a really agressive dog generally. Shmogg spent the whole day hiding in wherever it is Shmogg hides (he’s got a new spot I haven’t yet discovered) so I figure that Shmogg will be OK with the baby once he get shome, and will cope inthe usual way he does when something has happened he doens’t like – by completley ignoring it and pretending its not there. Well, finally the circadian rhythm has come back to "tired" and I"ll try to get another few hours shut eye in before I get to play assistant painter, and then go off to the obs. I’ll keep you all up to date with whats happening. Once agian, thanks for being here in the dead of night  - its really reassuring to know that I can "talk" to someone even if my side of the world is still sound asleep. Purrs to all the barekittens out there, no matter how old. Yowie

When things get tough, just remember this:  you will be slim again! Purrs and best wishes!   MLB

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We’ll send extra purrs from here on Saturday and Sunday! love, Christine

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Went to the obs today… Everything is OK so far, but because of his concerns over my blood pressure, I’ll go into hospital to be induced at 3pm on Sunday – if I don’t go into labour naturally before that. So perhaps I"ll start worrying a little.. Yowie (fat chance of that)

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – yup, me again, witht he insomnia. Ok, the insomnia started about 3am and hasn’t really let off. I’ve thrown up once, and as a consequence I now have water cracker crumbs in my bed. They do make for an "interesting" lie down. The panic has set in. I go to the obs later today, and I am pretty sure he’ll tell me I’m being induced this week. And I’m scared. I’m not ready (despite the fact I am *desperate* to get this thing outta me). The house isn’t ready. I can’t imagine life as a mother. Last night, I was having serious serious second thoughts. Why on earth have we done this to ourselves? What on earth were we thinking? Did we *really* want to get pregnant or was it just one of those things that seemed like a good idea at the time? My head isn’t in a good place at the moment (and I can’t imagine that helping the blood pressure stay down) and I"m not really sure what to do. Hence my ranting at you guys. I’m glad you are there. Its like being able to talk to a whole bunch of good friends and 5 in the morning whent he rest of hte house is asleep (except Shmogg, and he’s off on a secret Kitty Mission, after receiving a good hour’s worth of scritching) Poor old Joel, I must seem uttelry nuts to him. One second, I want to be snuggled and pampers, the next I don’t want to be touched, and the third second I can barely control myself from smacking him *hard* and blaming him for feeling so anxious. He has always been one for teasing me, and even up to a month ago I was fine with it, and would tease straight back and then laugh at ourselves. It was always a good way of bonding. But now, I get *really* senstive about it, especxially being tickled, poked or otherwise physically teased and freak out on him. I have no idea why, I am supposing that perhaps I am feeling quite physically vunerable, I can’t move quickly and have sod all stamina so that my "natural" phsyical defense mechanisms are below standard, and I am feeling uncomfortable (like a declawed cat that bites). But *rationall* I’ve *never* been a physical match to Joel, he’s always been much stronger and much faster than I have ever been, so I don’t know why I suddenly feel like this. Its not like I’m *scared* of him on a concious level, but I think perhaps somewhre in my subconcious I fear that, because he doens’t know his own strength (he doesn’t!) that he’ll hirt the baby and I"m getting all motherly-instinct and protective. That or going mad. The nursery will be painted a bright happy yellow tomorrow – the colour is called "Lemon Gelato", and makes me think of yummy icecreams, fun parks and all things that a re great about childhood. Its being painted by Scott, entirely out of his own pocket, and on his own initiation too (he’s the uy that bought the Krispy Kremes for me). He also brought with him his carpet cleaner, and scared the living daylights out of us by letting us see the grot that came out of the carpet int he nursery – the least used room of the house. Scott is one of the GodFathers of Cary, his partner Marty will be the other. Although a gay couple, they are remarkably similar to Joel and I in the way they get along, in what they believe, and how they’d raise kids (we gave them the third degree) and, well, they arne’t exactly going to have their own. And the rest of our friends have been simply incredible as well (including you folk). I really don’t know what I have done to be blessed with such wonderful people in my life, but the generosity (not necessarily in material things, but it plays a significant part) of them all has astounded both of us. We;ve not had to buy a single thing for the baby yet (we’ve had to buy lots of stuff *because* of the baby, yes, but not directly *for* the baby) and we have enough toys and clothes to last a good year, I reckon. And I do so hope to be able to pass all this good stuff on to another couple who will need it after we’ve finished with it. The last thing I"d want to see is it all disposed of – what a complete waste. In some ways I really wish my sister had waited a year until she got preggers herself then she could have had all this, but her baby will only be 4 months younger than Cary, and so there will be nothing I won’t still be using to give to her (except support and adivice I guess) My feet are *really* puffy and cnstantly ache like I"ve just spent the whole day walking on them. Half my shoes no longer fit, I’ve had to borrow Joel’s. I do like pressing the ankles though and seeing just how bad the water retention is by seeing how long it takes for the impression to leave the skin. It looks really weird. And my hands have also swollen a little, but I don’t notice the larger size so much (as my engagement and wedding rings have always been pretty loose) but how *hot* the feel. I often just stick them under the cold tap because it is such a blessed relief – but then again I’m still at least 5 degrees hotter than everyone around me. I mean, its getting near the middle of Autumn and I"m still sleeping with nothing on and a fan blowing onto me. Occasionally I have to put a sheet over my hips and stomach, but if I don’t have my top half bare with the fan, I feel suffocatingly hot. And if you want a lift in my car, bring a jumper with you, I’ve got the air con on max! Had the "baby shower" on Saturday, which was really nothing more than a few girlfriends (plus Scott, Marty couldn’t make it) over for a night of excess food and excess alcohol for those few of us who can still indulge (two were pregnant, one was breast feeding and another driving). The breast feeding one brought her son along. Fluffy got very confused. Especially when he started crying. She got *very* agitated and even started barking. I could tell it wasn’t an *agressive* bark, but she was getting so worke dup about it I feared taht she might start snapping at people (or worse, the baby) and had th throw her outside. I am *hoping* that her strange behaviour was due to lack of familiarity with young children, and that it was a protective urge rather than anything else, as the growling and barking was accompanies by frenzied tail wagging, and I know that Fluffy is not a really agressive dog generally. Shmogg spent the whole day hiding in wherever it is Shmogg hides (he’s got a new spot I haven’t yet discovered) so I figure that Shmogg will be OK with the baby once he get shome, and will cope inthe usual way he does when something has happened he doens’t like – by completley ignoring it and pretending its not there. Well, finally the circadian rhythm has come back to "tired" and I"ll try to get another few hours shut eye in before I get to play assistant painter, and then go off to the obs. I’ll keep you all up to date with whats happening. Once agian, thanks for being here in the dead of night  - its really reassuring to know that I can "talk" to someone even if my side of the world is still sound asleep. Purrs to all the barekittens out there, no matter how old. Yowie

my three are sending you some nerve-calming purrs. hugs, Brenda

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Others have said it, and I agree.  What you are feeling is perfectly normal, and it will pass.  You’re being attacked by hormones right now, and they’re messing with your mind and your body.  That will straighten out once the Yowlet makes his appearance.  I would check with your doctor (if you haven’t already) about the water retention, though, just to make sure there isn’t something that should be done about that. (((((((((((((((Yowie & the Yowlet))))))))))))))) [What a great name for a rock group!  <G] — Joy Life is what happens to you while you are planning to do something else.

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – yup, me again, witht he insomnia. Ok, the insomnia started about 3am and hasn’t really let off. I’ve thrown up once, and as a consequence I now have water cracker crumbs in my bed. They do make for an "interesting" lie down. The panic has set in. I go to the obs later today, and I am pretty sure he’ll tell me I’m being induced this week. And I’m scared. I’m not ready (despite the fact I am *desperate* to get this thing outta me). The house isn’t ready. I can’t imagine life as a mother. Last night, I was having serious serious second thoughts. Why on earth have we done this to ourselves? What on earth were we thinking? Did we *really* want to get pregnant or was it just one of those things that seemed like a good idea at the time? My head isn’t in a good place at the moment (and I can’t imagine that helping the blood pressure stay down) and I"m not really sure what to do. Hence my ranting at you guys. I’m glad you are there. Its like being able to talk to a whole bunch of good friends and 5 in the morning whent he rest of hte house is asleep (except Shmogg, and he’s off on a secret Kitty Mission, after receiving a good hour’s worth of scritching) Poor old Joel, I must seem uttelry nuts to him. One second, I want to be snuggled and pampers, the next I don’t want to be touched, and the third second I can barely control myself from smacking him *hard* and blaming him for feeling so anxious. He has always been one for teasing me, and even up to a month ago I was fine with it, and would tease straight back and then laugh at ourselves. It was always a good way of bonding. But now, I get *really* senstive about it, especxially being tickled, poked or otherwise physically teased and freak out on him. I have no idea why, I am supposing that perhaps I am feeling quite physically vunerable, I can’t move quickly and have sod all stamina so that my "natural" phsyical defense mechanisms are below standard, and I am feeling uncomfortable (like a declawed cat that bites). But *rationall* I’ve *never* been a physical match to Joel, he’s always been much stronger and much faster than I have ever been, so I don’t know why I suddenly feel like this. Its not like I’m *scared* of him on a concious level, but I think perhaps somewhre in my subconcious I fear that, because he doens’t know his own strength (he doesn’t!) that he’ll hirt the baby and I"m getting all motherly-instinct and protective. That or going mad. The nursery will be painted a bright happy yellow tomorrow – the colour is called "Lemon Gelato", and makes me think of yummy icecreams, fun parks and all things that a re great about childhood. Its being painted by Scott, entirely out of his own pocket, and on his own initiation too (he’s the uy that bought the Krispy Kremes for me). He also brought with him his carpet cleaner, and scared the living daylights out of us by letting us see the grot that came out of the carpet int he nursery – the least used room of the house. Scott is one of the GodFathers of Cary, his partner Marty will be the other. Although a gay couple, they are remarkably similar to Joel and I in the way they get along, in what they believe, and how they’d raise kids (we gave them the third degree) and, well, they arne’t exactly going to have their own. And the rest of our friends have been simply incredible as well (including you folk). I really don’t know what I have done to be blessed with such wonderful people in my life, but the generosity (not necessarily in material things, but it plays a significant part) of them all has astounded both of us. We;ve not had to buy a single thing for the baby yet (we’ve had to buy lots of stuff *because* of the baby, yes, but not directly *for* the baby) and we have enough toys and clothes to last a good year, I reckon. And I do so hope to be able to pass all this good stuff on to another couple who will need it after we’ve finished with it. The last thing I"d want to see is it all disposed of – what a complete waste. In some ways I really wish my sister had waited a year until she got preggers herself then she could have had all this, but her baby will only be 4 months younger than Cary, and so there will be nothing I won’t still be using to give to her (except support and adivice I guess) My feet are *really* puffy and cnstantly ache like I"ve just spent the whole day walking on them. Half my shoes no longer fit, I’ve had to borrow Joel’s. I do like pressing the ankles though and seeing just how bad the water retention is by seeing how long it takes for the impression to leave the skin. It looks really weird. And my hands have also swollen a little, but I don’t notice the larger size so much (as my engagement and wedding rings have always been pretty loose) but how *hot* the feel. I often just stick them under the cold tap because it is such a blessed relief – but then again I’m still at least 5 degrees hotter than everyone around me. I mean, its getting near the middle of Autumn and I"m still sleeping with nothing on and a fan blowing onto me. Occasionally I have to put a sheet over my hips and stomach, but if I don’t have my top half bare with the fan, I feel suffocatingly hot. And if you want a lift in my car, bring a jumper with you, I’ve got the air con on max! Had the "baby shower" on Saturday, which was really nothing more than a few girlfriends (plus Scott, Marty couldn’t make it) over for a night of excess food and excess alcohol for those few of us who can still indulge (two were pregnant, one was breast feeding and another driving). The breast feeding one brought her son along. Fluffy got very confused. Especially when he started crying. She got *very* agitated and even started barking. I could tell it wasn’t an *agressive* bark, but she was getting so worke dup about it I feared taht she might start snapping at people (or worse, the baby) and had th throw her outside. I am *hoping* that her strange behaviour was due to lack of familiarity with young children, and that it was a protective urge rather than anything else, as the growling and barking was accompanies by frenzied tail wagging, and I know that Fluffy is not a really agressive dog generally. Shmogg spent the whole day hiding in wherever it is Shmogg hides (he’s got a new spot I haven’t yet discovered) so I figure that Shmogg will be OK with the baby once he get shome, and will cope inthe usual way he does when something has happened he doens’t like – by completley ignoring it and pretending its not there. Well, finally the circadian rhythm has come back to "tired" and I"ll try to get another few hours shut eye in before I get to play assistant painter, and then go off to the obs. I’ll keep you all up to date with whats happening. Once agian, thanks for being here in the dead of night  - its really reassuring to know that I can "talk" to someone even if my side of the world is still sound asleep. Purrs to all the barekittens out there, no matter how old. Yowie

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Went to the obs today… Everything is OK so far, but because of his concerns over my blood pressure, I’ll go into hospital to be induced at 3pm on Sunday – if I don’t go into labour naturally before that. So perhaps I"ll start worrying a little.. Yowie (fat chance of that)

Please keep us posted as much as you can – we are steadily purring for you! —— Krista

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Went to the obs today… Everything is OK so far, but because of his concerns over my blood pressure, I’ll go into hospital to be induced at 3pm on Sunday – if I don’t go into labour naturally before that. So perhaps I"ll start worrying a little.. Yowie (fat chance of that)

Purrs for Mom-to-be and son continue.  And for Joel as well Sam

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Purrs aplenty, Yowie, for your peace of mind at this point! When I was in the last stages of being pregnant, I felt especially vulnerable and it sure colored how I felt about everyone around me.  I kept thinking about what would I do if someone tried to rob me, etc., somewhat paranoid, but hey, I couldn’t move!  My perceptions were off, I misjudged a curb and blew a tire in the midst of heavy traffic.  Especially, had trouble sleeping like you — just try to nap if you can during the day. I remember thinking I couldn’t wait till I had my body back to myself again!  You and Joel will be great parents!  Thinking of you with love and purrs, Christine

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – yup, me again, witht he insomnia. Ok, the insomnia started about 3am and hasn’t really let off. I’ve thrown up once, and as a consequence I now have water cracker crumbs in my bed. They do make for an "interesting" lie down. The panic has set in. I go to the obs later today, and I am pretty sure he’ll tell me I’m being induced this week. And I’m scared. I’m not ready (despite the fact I am *desperate* to get this thing outta me). The house isn’t ready. I can’t imagine life as a mother. Last night, I was having serious serious second thoughts. Why on earth have we done this to ourselves? What on earth were we thinking? Did we *really* want to get pregnant or was it just one of those things that seemed like a good idea at the time? My head isn’t in a good place at the moment (and I can’t imagine that helping the blood pressure stay down) and I"m not really sure what to do. Hence my ranting at you guys. I’m glad you are there. Its like being able to talk to a whole bunch of good friends and 5 in the morning whent he rest of hte house is asleep (except Shmogg, and he’s off on a secret Kitty Mission, after receiving a good hour’s worth of scritching) Poor old Joel, I must seem uttelry nuts to him. One second, I want to be snuggled and pampers, the next I don’t want to be touched, and the third second I can barely control myself from smacking him *hard* and blaming him for feeling so anxious. He has always been one for teasing me, and even up to a month ago I was fine with it, and would tease straight back and then laugh at ourselves. It was always a good way of bonding. But now, I get *really* senstive about it, especxially being tickled, poked or otherwise physically teased and freak out on him. I have no idea why, I am supposing that perhaps I am feeling quite physically vunerable, I can’t move quickly and have sod all stamina so that my "natural" phsyical defense mechanisms are below standard, and I am feeling uncomfortable (like a declawed cat that bites). But *rationall* I’ve *never* been a physical match to Joel, he’s always been much stronger and much faster than I have ever been, so I don’t know why I suddenly feel like this. Its not like I’m *scared* of him on a concious level, but I think perhaps somewhre in my subconcious I fear that, because he doens’t know his own strength (he doesn’t!) that he’ll hirt the baby and I"m getting all motherly-instinct and protective. That or going mad. The nursery will be painted a bright happy yellow tomorrow – the colour is called "Lemon Gelato", and makes me think of yummy icecreams, fun parks and all things that a re great about childhood. Its being painted by Scott, entirely out of his own pocket, and on his own initiation too (he’s the uy that bought the Krispy Kremes for me). He also brought with him his carpet cleaner, and scared the living daylights out of us by letting us see the grot that came out of the carpet int he nursery – the least used room of the house. Scott is one of the GodFathers of Cary, his partner Marty will be the other. Although a gay couple, they are remarkably similar to Joel and I in the way they get along, in what they believe, and how they’d raise kids (we gave them the third degree) and, well, they arne’t exactly going to have their own. And the rest of our friends have been simply incredible as well (including you folk). I really don’t know what I have done to be blessed with such wonderful people in my life, but the generosity (not necessarily in material things, but it plays a significant part) of them all has astounded both of us. We;ve not had to buy a single thing for the baby yet (we’ve had to buy lots of stuff *because* of the baby, yes, but not directly *for* the baby) and we have enough toys and clothes to last a good year, I reckon. And I do so hope to be able to pass all this good stuff on to another couple who will need it after we’ve finished with it. The last thing I"d want to see is it all disposed of – what a complete waste. In some ways I really wish my sister had waited a year until she got preggers herself then she could have had all this, but her baby will only be 4 months younger than Cary, and so there will be nothing I won’t still be using to give to her (except support and adivice I guess) My feet are *really* puffy and cnstantly ache like I"ve just spent the whole day walking on them. Half my shoes no longer fit, I’ve had to borrow Joel’s. I do like pressing the ankles though and seeing just how bad the water retention is by seeing how long it takes for the impression to leave the skin. It looks really weird. And my hands have also swollen a little, but I don’t notice the larger size so much (as my engagement and wedding rings have always been pretty loose) but how *hot* the feel. I often just stick them under the cold tap because it is such a blessed relief – but then again I’m still at least 5 degrees hotter than everyone around me. I mean, its getting near the middle of Autumn and I"m still sleeping with nothing on and a fan blowing onto me. Occasionally I have to put a sheet over my hips and stomach, but if I don’t have my top half bare with the fan, I feel suffocatingly hot. And if you want a lift in my car, bring a jumper with you, I’ve got the air con on max! Had the "baby shower" on Saturday, which was really nothing more than a few girlfriends (plus Scott, Marty couldn’t make it) over for a night of excess food and excess alcohol for those few of us who can still indulge (two were pregnant, one was breast feeding and another driving). The breast feeding one brought her son along. Fluffy got very confused. Especially when he started crying. She got *very* agitated and even started barking. I could tell it wasn’t an *agressive* bark, but she was getting so worke dup about it I feared taht she might start snapping at people (or worse, the baby) and had th throw her outside. I am *hoping* that her strange behaviour was due to lack of familiarity with young children, and that it was a protective urge rather than anything else, as the growling and barking was accompanies by frenzied tail wagging, and I know that Fluffy is not a really agressive dog generally. Shmogg spent the whole day hiding in wherever it is Shmogg hides (he’s got a new spot I haven’t yet discovered) so I figure that Shmogg will be OK with the baby once he get shome, and will cope inthe usual way he does when something has happened he doens’t like – by completley ignoring it and pretending its not there. Well, finally the circadian rhythm has come back to "tired" and I"ll try to get another few hours shut eye in before I get to play assistant painter, and then go off to the obs. I’ll keep you all up to date with whats happening. Once agian, thanks for being here in the dead of night  - its really reassuring to know that I can "talk" to someone even if my side of the world is still sound asleep. Purrs to all the barekittens out there, no matter how old. Yowie

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The panic has set in. I go to the obs later today, and I am pretty sure he’ll tell me I’m being induced this week. And I’m scared. I’m not ready (despite the fact I am *desperate* to get this thing outta me). The house isn’t ready. I can’t imagine life as a mother. Last night, I was having serious serious second thoughts. Why on earth have we done this to ourselves? What on earth were we thinking? Did we *really* want to get pregnant or was it just one of those things that seemed like a good idea at the time? My head isn’t in a good place at the moment (and I can’t imagine that helping the blood pressure stay down) and I"m not really sure what to do

All of the above is *normal* – honest. To me, it’s sign you are taking motherhood seriously which is a darned good sign that you are well on the way to being A Good Mother. Poor old Joel, I must seem uttelry nuts to him. One second, I want to be snuggled and pampers, the next I don’t want to be touched, and the third second I can barely control myself from smacking him *hard* and blaming him for feeling so anxious.

Another sign of normality :-) But now, I get *really* senstive about it, especxially being tickled, poked or otherwise physically teased and freak out on him. I have no idea why, I am supposing that perhaps I am feeling quite physically vunerable, I can’t move quickly and have sod all stamina so that my "natural" phsyical defense mechanisms are below standard, and I am feeling uncomfortable (like a declawed cat that bites).

Yup all of those, plus hormones. Those hormones are crazy little b*ggers. Its not like I’m *scared* of him on a concious level, but I think perhaps somewhre in my subconcious I fear that, because he doens’t know his own strength (he doesn’t!) that he’ll hirt the baby and I"m getting all motherly-instinct and protective. That or going mad.

Nah – you were mad already;-) It’s the mother-instinct starting to kick in. Trust me, you’ll protect your baby from *everything* and *anything*. Another sign of normality :-) You see, apart from being a mad catwoman, you are entirely normal :-) *hugs* helen s –This is an invalid email address to avoid spam– to get correct one remove fame & fortune –Due to financial crisis the light at the end of the tunnel is switched off–

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Went to the obs today… Everything is OK so far, but because of his concerns over my blood pressure, I’ll go into hospital to be induced at 3pm on Sunday – if I don’t go into labour naturally before that. So perhaps I"ll start worrying a little.. Yowie (fat chance of that)

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The panic has set in.

Hang in there, Vicky! We are purring for you! In the end, it will all be worth it, I’m sure. — Marina, Frank and Nikki Email marina (dot) kurten (at) pp (dot) inet (dot) fi Pics at http://uk.f1.pg.photos.yahoo.com/frankiennikki

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The panic has set in. Hang in there, Vicky! We are purring for you! In the end, it will all be worth it, I’m sure. — Marina, Frank and Nikki Email marina (dot) kurten (at) pp (dot) inet (dot) fi Pics at http://uk.f1.pg.photos.yahoo.com/frankiennikki Sunday, 3:00 pm.  Early Happy Birthday for Cary and for you, you’re the

one doing all the work here remember!  We’ll be thinking, purring and praying for you and your family. Charleen Mr. Pumpkin Aggie Marble Victor Velcro

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Went to the obs today… Everything is OK so far, but because of his concerns over my blood pressure, I’ll go into hospital to be induced at 3pm on Sunday – if I don’t go into labour naturally before that. So perhaps I"ll start worrying a little.. Yowie (fat chance of that)

The good news is that, by this time next week, it will be over with, and you will have a bundle of joy to cuddle. Joy

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Went to the obs today… Everything is OK so far, but because of his concerns over my blood pressure, I’ll go into hospital to be induced at 3pm on Sunday – if I don’t go into labour naturally before that. So perhaps I"ll start worrying a little.. Yowie (fat chance of that)

Yay, Vicky! You’re almost there! Don’t worry too much, I’m sure the doctors know exactly what they’re doing. When Cary is in your arms howling his lungs out you’ll be so relieved it’s over and just beginning, heh. Make Joel serve you hand and foot, you deserve it. We always remember you and yours in our prayers and candle lightings. Jazz & his mama — Irulan from the stars we came, to the stars we return from now until the end of time – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text –

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Oh, Vicky, I do so wish I could give you a gentle reassuring hug (if you wanted that, of course). There is just so little we can do for you. But we are here if you need us, all of us purring and sending best wishes for everything to go really well. Please take good care of yourself. — Polonca & Soncek

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – yup, me again, witht he insomnia. Ok, the insomnia started about 3am and hasn’t really let off. I’ve thrown up once, and as a consequence I now have water cracker crumbs in my bed. They do make for an "interesting" lie down. The panic has set in. I go to the obs later today, and I am pretty sure he’ll tell me I’m being induced this week. And I’m scared. I’m not ready (despite the fact I am *desperate* to get this thing outta me). The house isn’t ready. I can’t imagine life as a mother. Last night, I was having serious serious second thoughts. Why on earth have we done this to ourselves? What on earth were we thinking? Did we *really* want to get pregnant or was it just one of those things that seemed like a good idea at the time? My head isn’t in a good place at the moment (and I can’t imagine that helping the blood pressure stay down) and I"m not really sure what to do. Hence my ranting at you guys. I’m glad you are there. Its like being able to talk to a whole bunch of good friends and 5 in the morning whent he rest of hte house is asleep (except Shmogg, and he’s off on a secret Kitty Mission, after receiving a good hour’s worth of scritching) Poor old Joel, I must seem uttelry nuts to him. One second, I want to be snuggled and pampers, the next I don’t want to be touched, and the third second I can barely control myself from smacking him *hard* and blaming him for feeling so anxious. He has always been one for teasing me, and even up to a month ago I was fine with it, and would tease straight back and then laugh at ourselves. It was always a good way of bonding. But now, I get *really* senstive about it, especxially being tickled, poked or otherwise physically teased and freak out on him. I have no idea why, I am supposing that perhaps I am feeling quite physically vunerable, I can’t move quickly and have sod all stamina so that my "natural" phsyical defense mechanisms are below standard, and I am feeling uncomfortable (like a declawed cat that bites). But *rationall* I’ve *never* been a physical match to Joel, he’s always been much stronger and much faster than I have ever been, so I don’t know why I suddenly feel like this. Its not like I’m *scared* of him on a concious level, but I think perhaps somewhre in my subconcious I fear that, because he doens’t know his own strength (he doesn’t!) that he’ll hirt the baby and I"m getting all motherly-instinct and protective. That or going mad.

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yup, me again, witht he insomnia. … … Yowie

Yowie, All of your concerns are perfectly normal.  Avoiding salt should help with the swelling. It sounds like the time is very close. Once you have that baby in your arms, it all seems a very small price to pay. We are sending purrs and prayers that you will soon be resting easy and rejoicing with your loved ones. Annie, aided by Cinder and Rosie

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+1000: yup, me again, witht he insomnia. Ok, the insomnia started about 3am and hasn’t really let off. I’ve thrown up once, and as a consequence I now have water cracker crumbs in my bed. They do make for an "interesting" lie down. The panic has set in. I go to the obs later today, and I am pretty sure

Many purrs and prayers for you sweetheart – it sounds like this is the perfectly normal pre-baby jitters. But it’s all going to be fine! Just think how relieved you’ll be once it’s all over with and you have your bub in your arms instead of your tummy :) — Karen AKA Kajikit Here kitty kitty kitty… visit http://www.catslaves.org! Come and visit my part of the web: Kajikit’s Corner: http://www.kajikitscorner.com Allergyfree Eating Recipe Swap: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Allergyfree_Eating Ample Aussies Mailing List: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/ampleaussies/

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((((((((Hugs)))))))) for Yowie & the Yowlet. What you”ve written sounds *perfectly normal.* All of us parents went through it. The minute, the very second, Cary actually arrives, all those doubts will disappear, and from that moment on, you’ll wonder how you ever got along without him. I promise. Sherry

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Fear not; we’re here and we’re with you. All the unpleasant stuff going on now w/ your body will be over after your boy arrives; that edema is hard to put up with. Power purrs going down to Oz direct to Yowie for a fast delivery and quick recovery time, and to Joel for fortitude and stamina throughout. You will be a very happy mother and we look forward to pics of your boy. God bless.

: yup, me again, witht he insomnia. Ok, the insomnia started about 3am and : hasn’t really let off. I’ve thrown up once, and as a consequence I now have : water cracker crumbs in my bed. They do make for an "interesting" lie down. : : The panic has set in. I go to the obs later today, and I am pretty sure : he’ll tell me I’m being induced this week. And I’m scared. I’m not ready : (despite the fact I am *desperate* to get this thing outta me). The house : isn’t ready. I can’t imagine life as a mother. Last night, I was having : serious serious second thoughts. Why on earth have we done this to : ourselves? What on earth were we thinking? Did we *really* want to get : pregnant or was it just one of those things that seemed like a good idea at : the time? My head isn’t in a good place at the moment (and I can’t imagine : that helping the blood pressure stay down) and I"m not really sure what to : do. Hence my ranting at you guys. I’m glad you are there. Its like being : able to talk to a whole bunch of good friends and 5 in the morning whent he : rest of hte house is asleep (except Shmogg, and he’s off on a secret Kitty : Mission, after receiving a good hour’s worth of scritching) : : Poor old Joel, I must seem uttelry nuts to him. One second, I want to be : snuggled and pampers, the next I don’t want to be touched, and the third : second I can barely control myself from smacking him *hard* and blaming him : for feeling so anxious. He has always been one for teasing me, and even up : to a month ago I was fine with it, and would tease straight back and then : laugh at ourselves. It was always a good way of bonding. But now, I get : *really* senstive about it, especxially being tickled, poked or otherwise : physically teased and freak out on him. I have no idea why, I am supposing : that perhaps I am feeling quite physically vunerable, I can’t move quickly : and have sod all stamina so that my "natural" phsyical defense mechanisms : are below standard, and I am feeling uncomfortable (like a declawed cat that : bites). But *rationall* I’ve *never* been a physical match to Joel, he’s : always been much stronger and much faster than I have ever been, so I don’t : know why I suddenly feel like this. Its not like I’m *scared* of him on a : concious level, but I think perhaps somewhre in my subconcious I fear that, : because he doens’t know his own strength (he doesn’t!) that he’ll hirt the : baby and I"m getting all motherly-instinct and protective. That or going : mad. : : The nursery will be painted a bright happy yellow tomorrow – the colour is : called "Lemon Gelato", and makes me think of yummy icecreams, fun parks and : all things that a re great about childhood. Its being painted by Scott, : entirely out of his own pocket, and on his own initiation too (he’s the uy : that bought the Krispy Kremes for me). He also brought with him his carpet : cleaner, and scared the living daylights out of us by letting us see the : grot that came out of the carpet int he nursery – the least used room of the : house. Scott is one of the GodFathers of Cary, his partner Marty will be the : other. Although a gay couple, they are remarkably similar to Joel and I in : the way they get along, in what they believe, and how they’d raise kids (we : gave them the third degree) and, well, they arne’t exactly going to have : their own. And the rest of our friends have been simply incredible as well : (including you folk). I really don’t know what I have done to be blessed : with such wonderful people in my life, but the generosity (not necessarily : in material things, but it plays a significant part) of them all has : astounded both of us. We;ve not had to buy a single thing for the baby yet : (we’ve had to buy lots of stuff *because* of the baby, yes, but not directly : *for* the baby) and we have enough toys and clothes to last a good year, I : reckon. And I do so hope to be able to pass all this good stuff on to : another couple who will need it after we’ve finished with it. The last thing : I"d want to see is it all disposed of – what a complete waste. In some ways : I really wish my sister had waited a year until she got preggers herself : then she could have had all this, but her baby will only be 4 months younger : than Cary, and so there will be nothing I won’t still be using to give to : her (except support and adivice I guess) : : My feet are *really* puffy and cnstantly ache like I"ve just spent the whole : day walking on them. Half my shoes no longer fit, I’ve had to borrow Joel’s. : I do like pressing the ankles though and seeing just how bad the water : retention is by seeing how long it takes for the impression to leave the : skin. It looks really weird. And my hands have also swollen a little, but I : don’t notice the larger size so much (as my engagement and wedding rings : have always been pretty loose) but how *hot* the feel. I often just stick : them under the cold tap because it is such a blessed relief – but then again : I’m still at least 5 degrees hotter than everyone around me. I mean, its : getting near the middle of Autumn and I"m still sleeping with nothing on and : a fan blowing onto me. Occasionally I have to put a sheet over my hips and : stomach, but if I don’t have my top half bare with the fan, I feel : suffocatingly hot. And if you want a lift in my car, bring a jumper with : you, I’ve got the air con on max! : : Had the "baby shower" on Saturday, which was really nothing more than a few : girlfriends (plus Scott, Marty couldn’t make it) over for a night of excess : food and excess alcohol for those few of us who can still indulge (two were : pregnant, one was breast feeding and another driving). The breast feeding : one brought her son along. Fluffy got very confused. Especially when he : started crying. She got *very* agitated and even started barking. I could : tell it wasn’t an *agressive* bark, but she was getting so worke dup about : it I feared taht she might start snapping at people (or worse, the baby) and : had th throw her outside. I am *hoping* that her strange behaviour was due : to lack of familiarity with young children, and that it was a protective : urge rather than anything else, as the growling and barking was accompanies : by frenzied tail wagging, and I know that Fluffy is not a really agressive : dog generally. Shmogg spent the whole day hiding in wherever it is Shmogg : hides (he’s got a new spot I haven’t yet discovered) so I figure that Shmogg : will be OK with the baby once he get shome, and will cope inthe usual way he : does when something has happened he doens’t like – by completley ignoring it : and pretending its not there. : : Well, finally the circadian rhythm has come back to "tired" and I"ll try to : get another few hours shut eye in before I get to play assistant painter, : and then go off to the obs. I’ll keep you all up to date with whats : happening. : : Once agian, thanks for being here in the dead of night  - its really : reassuring to know that I can "talk" to someone even if my side of the world : is still sound asleep. : : Purrs to all the barekittens out there, no matter how old. : : Yowie : :

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yup, me again, witht he insomnia. Ok, the insomnia started about 3am and hasn’t really let off. I’ve thrown up once, and as a consequence I now have water cracker crumbs in my bed. They do make for an "interesting" lie down. The panic has set in. I go to the obs later today, and I am pretty sure he’ll tell me I’m being induced this week. And I’m scared. I’m not ready (despite the fact I am *desperate* to get this thing outta me). The house isn’t ready. I can’t imagine life as a mother. Last night, I was having serious serious second thoughts. Why on earth have we done this to ourselves? What on earth were we thinking? Did we *really* want to get pregnant or was it just one of those things that seemed like a good idea at the time? My head isn’t in a good place at the moment (and I can’t imagine that helping the blood pressure stay down) and I"m not really sure what to do. Hence my ranting at you guys. I’m glad you are there. Its like being able to talk to a whole bunch of good friends and 5 in the morning whent he rest of hte house is asleep (except Shmogg, and he’s off on a secret Kitty Mission, after receiving a good hour’s worth of scritching) Poor old Joel, I must seem uttelry nuts to him. One second, I want to be snuggled and pampers, the next I don’t want to be touched, and the third second I can barely control myself from smacking him *hard* and blaming him for feeling so anxious. He has always been one for teasing me, and even up to a month ago I was fine with it, and would tease straight back and then laugh at ourselves. It was always a good way of bonding. But now, I get *really* senstive about it, especxially being tickled, poked or otherwise physically teased and freak out on him. I have no idea why, I am supposing that perhaps I am feeling quite physically vunerable, I can’t move quickly and have sod all stamina so that my "natural" phsyical defense mechanisms are below standard, and I am feeling uncomfortable (like a declawed cat that bites). But *rationall* I’ve *never* been a physical match to Joel, he’s always been much stronger and much faster than I have ever been, so I don’t know why I suddenly feel like this. Its not like I’m *scared* of him on a concious level, but I think perhaps somewhre in my subconcious I fear that, because he doens’t know his own strength (he doesn’t!) that he’ll hirt the baby and I"m getting all motherly-instinct and protective. That or going mad. The nursery will be painted a bright happy yellow tomorrow – the colour is called "Lemon Gelato", and makes me think of yummy icecreams, fun parks and all things that a re great about childhood. Its being painted by Scott, entirely out of his own pocket, and on his own initiation too (he’s the uy that bought the Krispy Kremes for me). He also brought with him his carpet cleaner, and scared the living daylights out of us by letting us see the grot that came out of the carpet int he nursery – the least used room of the house. Scott is one of the GodFathers of Cary, his partner Marty will be the other. Although a gay couple, they are remarkably similar to Joel and I in the way they get along, in what they believe, and how they’d raise kids (we gave them the third degree) and, well, they arne’t exactly going to have their own. And the rest of our friends have been simply incredible as well (including you folk). I really don’t know what I have done to be blessed with such wonderful people in my life, but the generosity (not necessarily in material things, but it plays a significant part) of them all has astounded both of us. We;ve not had to buy a single thing for the baby yet (we’ve had to buy lots of stuff *because* of the baby, yes, but not directly *for* the baby) and we have enough toys and clothes to last a good year, I reckon. And I do so hope to be able to pass all this good stuff on to another couple who will need it after we’ve finished with it. The last thing I"d want to see is it all disposed of – what a complete waste. In some ways I really wish my sister had waited a year until she got preggers herself then she could have had all this, but her baby will only be 4 months younger than Cary, and so there will be nothing I won’t still be using to give to her (except support and adivice I guess) My feet are *really* puffy and cnstantly ache like I"ve just spent the whole day walking on them. Half my shoes no longer fit, I’ve had to borrow Joel’s. I do like pressing the ankles though and seeing just how bad the water retention is by seeing how long it takes for the impression to leave the skin. It looks really weird. And my hands have also swollen a little, but I don’t notice the larger size so much (as my engagement and wedding rings have always been pretty loose) but how *hot* the feel. I often just stick them under the cold tap because it is such a blessed relief – but then again I’m still at least 5 degrees hotter than everyone around me. I mean, its getting near the middle of Autumn and I"m still sleeping with nothing on and a fan blowing onto me. Occasionally I have to put a sheet over my hips and stomach, but if I don’t have my top half bare with the fan, I feel suffocatingly hot. And if you want a lift in my car, bring a jumper with you, I’ve got the air con on max! Had the "baby shower" on Saturday, which was really nothing more than a few girlfriends (plus Scott, Marty couldn’t make it) over for a night of excess food and excess alcohol for those few of us who can still indulge (two were pregnant, one was breast feeding and another driving). The breast feeding one brought her son along. Fluffy got very confused. Especially when he started crying. She got *very* agitated and even started barking. I could tell it wasn’t an *agressive* bark, but she was getting so worke dup about it I feared taht she might start snapping at people (or worse, the baby) and had th throw her outside. I am *hoping* that her strange behaviour was due to lack of familiarity with young children, and that it was a protective urge rather than anything else, as the growling and barking was accompanies by frenzied tail wagging, and I know that Fluffy is not a really agressive dog generally. Shmogg spent the whole day hiding in wherever it is Shmogg hides (he’s got a new spot I haven’t yet discovered) so I figure that Shmogg will be OK with the baby once he get shome, and will cope inthe usual way he does when something has happened he doens’t like – by completley ignoring it and pretending its not there. Well, finally the circadian rhythm has come back to "tired" and I"ll try to get another few hours shut eye in before I get to play assistant painter, and then go off to the obs. I’ll keep you all up to date with whats happening. Once agian, thanks for being here in the dead of night  - its really reassuring to know that I can "talk" to someone even if my side of the world is still sound asleep. Purrs to all the barekittens out there, no matter how old. Yowie

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – yup, me again, witht he insomnia. Ok, the insomnia started about 3am and hasn’t really let off. I’ve thrown up once, and as a consequence I now have water cracker crumbs in my bed. They do make for an "interesting" lie down. The panic has set in. I go to the obs later today, and I am pretty sure he’ll tell me I’m being induced this week. And I’m scared. I’m not ready (despite the fact I am *desperate* to get this thing outta me). The house isn’t ready. I can’t imagine life as a mother. Last night, I was having serious serious second thoughts. Why on earth have we done this to ourselves? What on earth were we thinking? Did we *really* want to get pregnant or was it just one of those things that seemed like a good idea at the time? My head isn’t in a good place at the moment (and I can’t imagine that helping the blood pressure stay down) and I"m not really sure what to do. Hence my ranting at you guys. I’m glad you are there. Its like being able to talk to a whole bunch of good friends and 5 in the morning whent he rest of hte house is asleep (except Shmogg, and he’s off on a secret Kitty Mission, after receiving a good hour’s worth of scritching) Poor old Joel, I must seem uttelry nuts to him. One second, I want to be snuggled and pampers, the next I don’t want to be touched, and the third second I can barely control myself from smacking him *hard* and blaming him for feeling so anxious. He has always been one for teasing me, and even up to a month ago I was fine with it, and would tease straight back and then laugh at ourselves. It was always a good way of bonding. But now, I get *really* senstive about it, especxially being tickled, poked or otherwise physically teased and freak out on him. I have no idea why, I am supposing that perhaps I am feeling quite physically vunerable, I can’t move quickly and have sod all stamina so that my "natural" phsyical defense mechanisms are below standard, and I am feeling uncomfortable (like a declawed cat that bites). But *rationall* I’ve *never* been a physical match to Joel, he’s always been much stronger and much faster than I have ever been, so I don’t know why I suddenly feel like this. Its not like I’m *scared* of him on a concious level, but I think perhaps somewhre in my subconcious I fear that, because he doens’t know his own strength (he doesn’t!) that he’ll hirt the baby and I"m getting all motherly-instinct and protective. That or going mad. The nursery will be painted a bright happy yellow tomorrow – the colour is called "Lemon Gelato", and makes me think of yummy icecreams, fun parks and all things that a re great about childhood. Its being painted by Scott, entirely out of his own pocket, and on his own initiation too (he’s the uy that bought the Krispy Kremes for me). He also brought with him his carpet cleaner, and scared the living daylights out of us by letting us see the grot that came out of the carpet int he nursery – the least used room of the house. Scott is one of the GodFathers of Cary, his partner Marty will be the other. Although a gay couple, they are remarkably similar to Joel and I in the way they get along, in what they believe, and how they’d raise kids (we gave them the third degree) and, well, they arne’t exactly going to have their own. And the rest of our friends have been simply incredible as well (including you folk). I really don’t know what I have done to be blessed with such wonderful people in my life, but the generosity (not necessarily in material things, but it plays a significant part) of them all has astounded both of us. We;ve not had to buy a single thing for the baby yet (we’ve had to buy lots of stuff *because* of the baby, yes, but not directly *for* the baby) and we have enough toys and clothes to last a good year, I reckon. And I do so hope to be able to pass all this good stuff on to another couple who will need it after we’ve finished with it. The last thing I"d want to see is it all disposed of – what a complete waste. In some ways I really wish my sister had waited a year until she got preggers herself then she could have had all this, but her baby will only be 4 months younger than Cary, and so there will be nothing I won’t still be using to give to her (except support and adivice I guess) My feet are *really* puffy and cnstantly ache like I"ve just spent the whole day walking on them. Half my shoes no longer fit, I’ve had to borrow Joel’s. I do like pressing the ankles though and seeing just how bad the water retention is by seeing how long it takes for the impression to leave the skin. It looks really weird. And my hands have also swollen a little, but I don’t notice the larger size so much (as my engagement and wedding rings have always been pretty loose) but how *hot* the feel. I often just stick them under the cold tap because it is such a blessed relief – but then again I’m still at least 5 degrees hotter than everyone around me. I mean, its getting near the middle of Autumn and I"m still sleeping with nothing on and a fan blowing onto me. Occasionally I have to put a sheet over my hips and stomach, but if I don’t have my top half bare with the fan, I feel suffocatingly hot. And if you want a lift in my car, bring a jumper with you, I’ve got the air con on max! Had the "baby shower" on Saturday, which was really nothing more than a few girlfriends (plus Scott, Marty couldn’t make it) over for a night of excess food and excess alcohol for those few of us who can still indulge (two were pregnant, one was breast feeding and another driving). The breast feeding one brought her son along. Fluffy got very confused. Especially when he started crying. She got *very* agitated and even started barking. I could tell it wasn’t an *agressive* bark, but she was getting so worke dup about it I feared taht she might start snapping at people (or worse, the baby) and had th throw her outside. I am *hoping* that her strange behaviour was due to lack of familiarity with young children, and that it was a protective urge rather than anything else, as the growling and barking was accompanies by frenzied tail wagging, and I know that Fluffy is not a really agressive dog generally. Shmogg spent the whole day hiding in wherever it is Shmogg hides (he’s got a new spot I haven’t yet discovered) so I figure that Shmogg will be OK with the baby once he get shome, and will cope inthe usual way he does when something has happened he doens’t like – by completley ignoring it and pretending its not there. Well, finally the circadian rhythm has come back to "tired" and I"ll try to get another few hours shut eye in before I get to play assistant painter, and then go off to the obs. I’ll keep you all up to date with whats happening. Once agian, thanks for being here in the dead of night  - its really reassuring to know that I can "talk" to someone even if my side of the world is still sound asleep. Purrs to all the barekittens out there, no matter how old. Yowie

We are all purring for you Yowie – the wonderful thing is that in a week or so this will all be in the past and you will be drooling over your yowlet.  And yes, it will be worth while :) There will be pride, photographs all round and heaps and heaps of love. In the meantime the love and support will be from all of us, so rev up those purrs folks purrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr Bev trying to purr as well as B & C and FSP — I got rid of my husband.   The cat was allergic.

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Flying with kids- how young is too young?

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Kids usually love to fly. It is their parents that cause all the trouble. I also would go with putting the 3 year old in back with a parent and the five year old in front. Do not let the 5 year old have the yoke, no matter how tempting it seems. A 5 year old will like as not nose the thing over saying, "I’m gonna crash this thing!" They are old enough to know the plane could crash, but too young to understand that this might be a bad thing.

FWIW, we let my daughter handle the yoke starting at age 3 1/2.   She was warned not to touch anything without explicit permission, to stop touching immediately when told, and that if she had any trouble remembering that or following instructions Daddy would pull her into the back seat poco pronto.  So far she’s been very good. She doesn’t nose the plane over, but she does have a hard time flying level.  We must present what a friend calls a "walrus" track on the radar ("Wandering Aimlessly Lost over Rural US"). Of course, that’s not to say there aren’t 5 yr olds who might behave as you say, and adults who would be incapable of controlling them.  I’ve met 5 yr olds I don’t want w/in 100 ft of my plane. Frankly, if I have doubts about the behavior of any of my prospective front-seat pax I don’t go.  I have confidence in my ability to undo or overpower a 5 yr old, but I’ve un-invited a couple of large adult males when I got the sense that they thought they knew more about flying than they did, and that they might not be willing to accept me as pilot-in-command and the ultimate arbiter of ‘what goes’ on the flight. Cheers, Sydney

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Or leave the 3 yr old home. Are there any decent earphones for a 3 yr old?

My 3 yo daughter wears Lightspeed 20Ks.  They fit her quite well on the smallest setting.  She used to wear a normal pair of adult headsets with extra foam taped on the headband to "fill in" the gap, but now that we’ve let her try the Lightspeeds she complains like heck if we try to put anything else on her. There are several decent headsets made specifically for children. Some of them have swappable bands so they can be worn as the child grows, and some adult headsets have "child size" bands available.  They might be a bit big for a very small 3 yo, but could be filled in with foam as described above. Cheers, Sydney

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She also recommended something to suck on — includng pacifiers and candy. Breast feeding would be even better.

Yes, but then I wouldn’t be able to see where I was going! :-) )

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obvious reason that 3 is pretty young.  To the folks that have a lot of experience taking up little kids- what are the rough odds that he’ll be just fine vs. having a cow?  I need to decide if I should suggest that this isn’t a great idea or not.  TIA.

Paul, I think you’ll be fine. I just recently took my 5 year old son and wife up. It was the first GA flight for my son and the first in a while for my wife. My wife was much more nervous than my son, who sat in her lap in the front seat. I had to get stern with my son about touching any controls. He was in one of his funky moods where he likes to test his parents, but after I spoke with him, he understood that touching anything was not allowed. He would never be so bold with a stranger piloting the aircraft. And by stranger I mean someone other than his parents (this would include extended family). Now, one caveat, my son is particularly well behaved. There are some kids that I would never take up simply because I would not be able to trust that they would even stay in their seats with their belts buckled. As far as ear protection, I didn’t provide any for my son, and my wife wore a headset. I didn’t have muffs and I knew that ear plugs weren’t going to work and besides it was a short flight. She would extend the boom to his mouth and I could hear him speak, it was just that answering him was a pain since I had to yell at him. My son has never liked loud, noisy things and he seemed fine for the whole half hour that we were up. I need to at least get that boy some muffs for the next flight, if not a kid’s headset. I chose a perfectly calm day and kept my banks, ascents and descents to a minimum, more for my wife than my son. I flew over our house, his preschool and Wal-Mart, things that he would recognize. And as I had expected, they both got very sleepy about 20 minutes into it and nearly fell asleep. I ended the flight with one of my best and slowest landings ever. My wife was somewhat impressed with the flight, my son not so much. He liked it, but it was not a big deal to him. He was more interested in dinner after the flight. Oh well, maybe when he gets older, he’ll "get it". My advice would be to make sure that the kids are able to follow directions and behave themselves. After that, you’ll be fine. My personal minimum age limit is around 5 years old, or perhaps  younger if the kid is mature and well behaved. -Trent PP-ASEL

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I just recently took my 5 year old son and wife up. My wife was much more nervous than my son, who sat in her lap in the front seat.

But that’s not where he was during taxiing, takeoff, or landing, right? (FAR 91.107a3) –Gary

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The best advice I was given when my children were young, was to wait until they were old enough to understand and follow directions. Okay… we all know how difficult it is to get kids to do both at the same time, but one or the other will suffice. Both my kids had their first rides when they were between 2 and 3 years of age. My son got his ride in a booster seat of a Champ. He wore a DC10-13Y headset (and actually kept it on!) plugged into the portable intercom. My daughter got her ride in the backseat of a Beech Sundowner while transporting my wife to be with her mother following my father in law’s death. The kids then rode home in the back seat while I flew. Each was given a grease pencil and happily drew on the rear windows, which occupied them during the hour and a half flight home. After that trip, each time we drove past the airport, my daughter would ask, "Daddy, are we going flying now?" Now, when we go on trips, all they want to do is play their GameBoy’s. The one item that got their faces pressed up against the windows was the flight along the Chicago lakeshore to and from Oshkosh last summer.

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I’m especially concerned about the younger one for the obvious reason that 3 is pretty young.  To the folks that have a lot of experience taking up little kids- what are the rough odds that he’ll be just fine vs. having a cow?

I’ve flown a couple of kids that young. One got a little queasy after about 30 minutes, so I recommend that you take them only when there’s no turbulence and keep the flight time to 15 or 20 minutes. They’ll do fine. The hardest thing with the young ones is getting them to wear a headset. I recommend that you pick up a cheap set of hearing protectors at Home Depot. They’re light and fairly small, so it’s easier to get the kids to wear them (you don’t want them to have microphones anyway!). Mine are made by Peltor and cost about $10. George Patterson      Great discoveries are not announced with "Eureka!". What’s usually said is      "Hummmmm… That’s interesting…."

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Most kids will take their lead from their parents – if Mum and Dad are freaking out the kids assume there is something to be afraid of –

Or if Mom and Dad are working too hard to keep the kids from freaking out. George Patterson      Great discoveries are not announced with "Eureka!". What’s usually said is      "Hummmmm… That’s interesting…."

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I have a friend who really wants me to take he & his two boys up- they are 3 & 5.  I am worried about them "freaking out"- especially the little one.  They have never flown before (commercially or otherwise). Of course they need to be in back of the 172, which would make it difficult for my friend to reassure them, etc. I’m especially concerned about the younger one for the obvious reason that 3 is pretty young.  To the folks that have a lot of experience taking up little kids- what are the rough odds that he’ll be just fine vs. having a cow?  I need to decide if I should suggest that this isn’t a great idea or not.  TIA.

Well, it depends a lot on the attitude of the parents and the individual kids. We’ve taken up our fair share of that age group and had them sit in back w/ the adults up front, but our daughter (who has been flying in GA planes since age 12 weeks) is usually one of the kids, and of course she’s happy and calm.  More or less. Now that she’s been allowed to sit up front and actually manipulate the controls a few times (age 3 1/2), she keeps lobbying for the right front seat :) . However, friends with 2 young siblings have had nothing but fights and squabbles if the two are left in back.  The good news is in a C172, you can reach the back seat pretty well. Depending on the child, 5 may be old enough to sit in the front and exercise enough self control as to not touch anything before asking.  Or, another alternative is to take up one at a time, with the father sitting in back with the child.  (watch the CG of course). Cheers, Sydney

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Kids usually love to fly. It is their parents that cause all the trouble. I also would go with putting the 3 year old in back with a parent and the five year old in front. Do not let the 5 year old have the yoke, no matter how tempting it seems. A 5 year old will like as not nose the thing over saying, "I’m gonna crash this thing!" They are old enough to know the plane could crash, but too young to understand that this might be a bad thing. As far as headsets go, get some childrens’ headsets if possible. If they refuse to wear headsets it is unlikely that a short flight will cause any significant hearing loss. The rock and roll they will listen to later will cause much more damage…. The flight should last no longer than half an hour. Fifteen minutes is probably better. They will quickly get bored after that. Small children have a tough time seeing out of any plane. Seat cushions are all right for the 5 year old, but the three year old might be better off in a car seat. Anyway, the novelty wears off real fast, so keep it very short. It is far better to land with them begging for more than to have them come away with the memory of a long, boring flight. Once kids reach 10 or 11 they start to have a better understanding of time and distance. They will then want to see their house, their school, their day care, their friend’s house, etc. A 5 year old will want to see all those things, too, if you ask him, but he will be completely unable to see them and just get frustrated. I am particularly fortunate at Tacoma Narrows when I take kids flying. There is a shipwreck about 10 miles south of the field. I fly out, show them the shipwreck, and return. It is real easy to spot and they get a big kick out of it. If you know of something way cool like that, by all means point it out. I have one rule that I make clear to all new passengers: If anyone, for any reason, is not enjoying the flight, then we will return immediately.

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Paul Prior to taking my grand son up we did two things. First we went out to airport and watched birds taking off and landing and he heard the noise and saw what was happening. We also played with his toy airplane and did all the things a boy does with a toy airplane and emulated what he saw. When we got airborne I sat him on my lap and let hem fly just like he did with his toy airplane and me telling him what to do.. Loved the flight and didn’t want to land. <G Big John – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I have a friend who really wants me to take he & his two boys up- they are 3 & 5.  I am worried about them "freaking out"- especially the little one.  They have never flown before (commercially or otherwise). Of course they need to be in back of the 172, which would make it difficult for my friend to reassure them, etc. I’m especially concerned about the younger one for the obvious reason that 3 is pretty young.  To the folks that have a lot of experience taking up little kids- what are the rough odds that he’ll be just fine vs. having a cow?  I need to decide if I should suggest that this isn’t a great idea or not.  TIA.

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Of course they need to be in back of the 172,

No way around this? Ideally, the 5 yr old would be in front with you, and dad would be in back with the 3 yr old. Or leave the 3 yr old home. Are there any decent earphones for a 3 yr old? That’s a real small, real vulnerable kid. Just learning about fears, death, etc. At least my granddaughter is. all the best — Dan Ford see the Warbird’s Forum at www.warbirdforum.com and the Piper Cub Forum at www.pipercubforum.com

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I have a friend who really wants me to take he & his two boys up- they are 3 & 5.  I am worried about them "freaking out"- especially the little one.  They have never flown before (commercially or otherwise). Of course they need to be in back of the 172, which would make it difficult for my friend to reassure them, etc. I’m especially concerned about the younger one for the obvious reason that 3 is pretty young.  To the folks that have a lot of experience taking up little kids- what are the rough odds that he’ll be just fine vs. having a cow?  I need to decide if I should suggest that this isn’t a great idea or not.  TIA.

I have taken my nephews up for rides at abut 2-3 years old.  I put their car seats in the back seats.  Went on a smooth day.  Their Dad went along for the ride in the front seat.  Headsets are an issue, most do not fit children well, and the kids will pull it off their head anyways.  Besides that – no complaints, except the kids really couldn’t see too much out of the car seats, as it is hard for them to see out the window.  They had fun and occasionally ask Mom/Dad when their next airplane ride will be. I’d say go for it, but if you get to the airport and the kids (or Dad) start freaking out, call it off.  It isn’t going to get better once the fan is turning and you’re hitting the bumps. -Nathan

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Paul, I think you might be overanalyzing the situation.  Keep it short and keep it fun. You might go to AVweb (www.avweb.com), click on "columns", click on the index to The Pilot’s Lounge columns then scroll down to the very first one on flying with babies and kids.  It may give you some ideas. All the best, Rick – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I have a friend who really wants me to take he & his two boys up- they are 3 & 5.  I am worried about them "freaking out"- especially the little one.  They have never flown before (commercially or otherwise). Of course they need to be in back of the 172, which would make it difficult for my friend to reassure them, etc. I’m especially concerned about the younger one for the obvious reason that 3 is pretty young.  To the folks that have a lot of experience taking up little kids- what are the rough odds that he’ll be just fine vs. having a cow?  I need to decide if I should suggest that this isn’t a great idea or not.  TIA.

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if you did that ware i fly out of your kids teeth would be rotten to many airplanes (ohh mabye sugar free would work)

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I have a friend who really wants me to take he & his two boys up- they are 3 & 5.  I am worried about them "freaking out"- especially the little one.  They have never flown before (commercially or otherwise). Of course they need to be in back of the 172, which would make it difficult for my friend to reassure them, etc. I’m especially concerned about the younger one for the obvious reason that 3 is pretty young.  To the folks that have a lot of experience taking up little kids- what are the rough odds that he’ll be just fine vs. having a cow?  I need to decide if I should suggest that this isn’t a great idea or not.  TIA. As always it depends on the kids.  Plan a short trip the first time to get an idea if they like it or not.  When I hear "Weeeeeee!!!" on steep short final I take that as a sign they like it a lot!  I also give out a dollar or lollipop or candy bar to every plane spotted while we’re flying.  Kids have great eyes!  Especially with a sweet incentive. I treat it like going for a ride in a car.  The trickiest part is walking the ramp with them. R. Hubbell

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I have a friend who really wants me to take he & his two boys up- they are 3 & 5.  I am worried about them "freaking out"- especially the little one.

The little one is the one you *don’t* have to worry about freaking out – he will probably go to sleep. What’s worrisome is protecting his hearing: little kids hate headsets. My 2 1/2-year old grandson thinks no more of going for a flight than he does of going for a drive, but keeping a headset on him is tough. And forget earplugs; he absolutely will not stand for them. Of course they need to be in back of the 172, which would make it  difficult for my friend to reassure them, etc.

The only child I’ve ever seen frightened was a 10-year old Angel Flight patient I took to Atlanta last week. Normal, low altitude bumps really scared him. I bet your 3- and 5-year olds will be fine unless they get airsick from a bumpy ride. Keep it ultra smooth. — Dan C172RG at BFM

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I have a friend who really wants me to take he & his two boys up- they are 3 & 5.  I am worried about them "freaking out"- especially the little one.  They have never flown before (commercially or otherwise). Of course they need to be in back of the 172, which would make it difficult for my friend to reassure them, etc. I’m especially concerned about the younger one for the obvious reason that 3 is pretty young.  To the folks that have a lot of experience taking up little kids- what are the rough odds that he’ll be just fine vs. having a cow?  I need to decide if I should suggest that this isn’t a great idea or not.  TIA.

As always it depends on the kids.  Plan a short trip the first time to get an idea if they like it or not.  When I hear "Weeeeeee!!!" on steep short final I take that as a sign they like it a lot!  I also give out a dollar or lollipop or candy bar to every plane spotted while we’re flying.  Kids have great eyes!  Especially with a sweet incentive. I treat it like going for a ride in a car.  The trickiest part is walking the ramp with them. R. Hubbell

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take them one at a time… put the parent in the back with the kid.. and don’t put the kid behind you.. front seat with a little one cannot see over the glare shield.. use a high wing airplane so he can see the ground under the wing.. a 3yr old may need a "car" seat. expect them to start crying for mommy at any second.. cars are not as noisy on the inside as airplanes are.. and headsets don’t fit the little ones very well.. especially 3yr olds. BT

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I have a friend who really wants me to take he & his two boys up- they are 3 & 5.  I am worried about them "freaking out"- especially the little one.  They have never flown before (commercially or otherwise). Of course they need to be in back of the 172, which would make it difficult for my friend to reassure them, etc. I’m especially concerned about the younger one for the obvious reason that 3 is pretty young.  To the folks that have a lot of experience taking up little kids- what are the rough odds that he’ll be just fine vs. having a cow?  I need to decide if I should suggest that this isn’t a great idea or not.  TIA.

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I took a friend, his wife, and their 5 year old son up last spring. The kid sat in the back seat with his mom, and he loved it. A fogbank cut the flight short, and I’ve been promising them a full length sightseeing flight since. The kid’s eager to go, but his mom is probably going to bow out. Aside from airsickness (I took extra bags!) I was most worried about the kid chattering constantly over the intercom, because he talked non-stop on the car ride out to the airport. I managed to impress the importance of being quiet most of the time on him, though, and he was fine. Even asked several times if it was OK to talk then… (Along with ‘no walking on the apron without holding an adult’s hand’, because I could just picture him dashing off into another Cessna’s prop…) I also took another friend & his 8 & 11 yr old kids up, and that was great too. I’ve had more trouble from a few adult pax than the kids! Brian.

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My three kids fly all the time 5, 3 and 1. Mainly they get sleepy.

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Paul I have flown children as young as three. Several key items: Take it easy in everything your do. An airline style smooth ride is your best chance at success. Slow acceleration, slower climb out and decents and the softest landing you can muster. Explain everything before it happens! Make sure there is a trusted adult on board. The child will definitely take the lead from a trusted adult. If they are nervous then the child will be nervous. If they are comfortable and having a good time then the child will most likely enjoy the flight. Take several test flights. Be prepared to make it a short flight. If the child is not comfortable do not go or end the flight early. This increases your chances of them going again. If you keep going and they are not happy it could set a bad precedent for future flights. Michelle I have a friend who really wants me to take he & his two boys up- they are 3 & 5.  I am worried about them "freaking out"- especially the little one.  They have never flown before (commercially or otherwise). Of course they need to be in back of the 172, which would make it difficult for my friend to reassure them, etc. I’m especially concerned about the younger one for the obvious reason that 3 is pretty young.  To the folks that have a lot of experience taking up little kids- what are the rough odds that he’ll be just fine vs. having a cow?  I need to decide if I should suggest that this isn’t a great idea or not.  TIA.

– Michelle P ATP-ASEL, CP-AMEL, and AMT-A&P "Elisabeth" a Maule M-7-235B (no two are alike) Volunteer Pilot, Angel Flight Mid-Atlantic Volunteer Builder, Habitat for Humanity

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I have a friend who really wants me to take he & his two boys up- they are 3 & 5.  I am worried about them "freaking out"- especially the little one.  They have never flown before (commercially or otherwise). Of course they need to be in back of the 172, which would make it difficult for my friend to reassure them, etc. I’m especially concerned about the younger one for the obvious reason that 3 is pretty young.  To the folks that have a lot of experience taking up little kids- what are the rough odds that he’ll be just fine vs. having a cow?  I need to decide if I should suggest that this isn’t a great idea or not.  TIA.

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I have a friend who really wants me to take he & his two boys up- they are 3 & 5.  I am worried about them "freaking out"- especially the little one.  They have never flown before (commercially or otherwise). Of course they need to be in back of the 172, which would make it difficult for my friend to reassure them, etc. I’m especially concerned about the younger one for the obvious reason that 3 is pretty young.  To the folks that have a lot of experience taking up little kids- what are the rough odds that he’ll be just fine vs. having a cow?  I need to decide if I should suggest that this isn’t a great idea or not.  TIA.

    I’ve talked to half a dozen people lately about flying with the kids. Cherish F. has a four month old that she put in the back seat at three weeks.  Mike M. took his pregnant wife up and the baby right after it was born. Richard M. had no problem with his boys when they were toddlers –sometimes they were sound asleep before he could get the engine started. Dr. Marcia M. (pediatrician) says to take it easy gaining or giving up altitude so the kids can clear their ears. That is less than 500 FPM. She said the kids are better at doing that than adults. She also recommended something to suck on — includng pacifiers and candy. Breast feeding would be even better.     One crusty old geezer around here said it is important to tell the newbie kids what to expect BEFORE you do it, including the takeoff noise, pitch-up and so forth. He also suggested to NOT stick kids in the back seat by themselves for the first couple of trips.     With that in mind it sounds like maybe a good idea to put one in the front and then you get in the back with the other for a couple of trips, evn short ones around the patch.      In short, it is a great idea.  Paul F. got his PPASEL certificate in 1976 following in the propwash of his dad. Paul never hesitated taking his kids flying with him. Now, five of his eight children has private pilots certificates and they take their kids along.  Well, three of them… the other two aren’t married yet.     On the other hand, I have a ten-year-old granddaughter that won’t even drive to the airport with me.  But then, she won’t ride a roller-coaster either.

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Most kids will take their lead from their parents – if Mum and Dad are freaking out the kids assume there is something to be afraid of – but if Mum/Dad are having a great time you can usually ‘con’ them into enjoying it at that age too. Consider putting young child / parent in back – and 5 y/o in front right (with seat right back of course (show them the wooden dip stick that you’re going to break over his knuckles if he touches the controls (with a smile))) – you can guage reactions during taxi / runups etc – if in doubt, do a single circuit with just parent / child in the back (then swap child etc). My experiances have been that despite all of our cautions and concerns … … they simply just go to sleep! Hope this helps! CC

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I have a friend who really wants me to take he & his two boys up- they are 3 & 5.  I am worried about them "freaking out"- especially the little one.  They have never flown before (commercially or otherwise). Of course they need to be in back of the 172, which would make it difficult for my friend to reassure them, etc. I’m especially concerned about the younger one for the obvious reason that 3 is pretty young.  To the folks that have a lot of experience taking up little kids- what are the rough odds that he’ll be just fine vs. having a cow?  I need to decide if I should suggest that this isn’t a great idea or not.  TIA.

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I’m especially concerned about the younger one for the obvious reason that 3 is pretty young.  To the folks that have a lot of experience taking up little kids- what are the rough odds that he’ll be just fine vs. having a cow?  I need to decide if I should suggest that this isn’t a great idea or not.  TIA.

Paul, I have taken my niece and nephew up.  We took each one seperately.  Both are just under 2 years old.   To get them familiar with the plane, on my prior visits to their maiden flight, we let them walk around the plane, and we identified major parts (wing, rudder, wheels, gas tanks and so on) to make a game of it.   When they were comfortable with it, we then introduced them to getting in the plane.  This was a little harder as I have a low wing, and the slope of the wing made them unnerved getting in.  We insisted they walk in on their own, only assistance given was I would be in the plane for them to walk to me, and my brother inlaw was behind them so they didn’t fall back.  Once they were in the plane, they were absolutely great. My brother in law is a pilot, so he flew the plane.  I held them in my lap with just the lapbelt on. We had ear protection for them as I didn’t have child size headsets. First flight, we never left the pattern, just made a little longer downwind to extend the flight.  We only went to 1,500 feet to see if they would be ok with ears, and no effects.  Second flight, was 15 minutes.  Other then taking it easy on altitude, we did standard rate turns so that they would know that 30 degree banks are normal. We flew just before sunset, so turbulence was not an issue. Both were better then my sister who remained on the ground *smile*.  My nephew absolutely loved it and my niece well could take it or leave it. Getting him out of the plane was extremely difficult!  I don’t know if they understood the "significance" of what they did, but it didn’t matter, they enjoyed it. Really, kids do not know any better, and I believe it’s the adults that will instill the fear of flying.   Needless to say, I did set a "dangerous precedent" as now everytime I fly down to see them, they want to take a ride my sister said.  And my answer to that, was whats the problem with that? *smile*. Allen

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OT/Ping Nikki, Anne, Sheila, Michelle – Interesting article

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"Angie Reynolds" <j3…@sat-co.net> wrote in message

news:NbRlb.105$xf.3988547@typhoon.cei.net… > I did try and check out a bf’ing counselor, but the nearest one is 2 1/2 > hours away. Our town is VERY small…maybe 500 people in this entire > community. We have just regular nurses at the nearest hospital who help > right after you have the baby, so that is no help. I’m still researching > though, and hopefully I’ll find a support group nearby. > Angie

Angie, way back when when I needed La Leche League, I never went to a meeting.  They had telephone counselors; maybe that would be good in your case. Karen

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"Karen" <katr…@newsguy.com> wrote in message

news:bn8p520lb4@enews4.newsguy.com… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> "Angie Reynolds" <j3…@sat-co.net> wrote in message > news:NbRlb.105$xf.3988547@typhoon.cei.net… > > I did try and check out a bf’ing counselor, but the nearest one is 2 1/2 > > hours away. Our town is VERY small…maybe 500 people in this entire > > community. We have just regular nurses at the nearest hospital who help > > right after you have the baby, so that is no help. I’m still researching > > though, and hopefully I’ll find a support group nearby. > > Angie > Angie, way back when when I needed La Leche League, I never went to a > meeting.  They had telephone counselors; maybe that would be good in your > case. > Karen

That sounds like what I’ll have to end up doing. I’m coming up with nothing locally. Thanks!! :-) Angie – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text –

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>"news.eclipse.co.uk" <n…@impactwp.nojunkplease.com> wrote in message >news:1066896075.378402@ananke.eclipse.net.uk… >> Do you have me killfilled or something? >> N >Huh? No…I don’t. I don’t even know what that means. A few days ago is when >I first heard the word "killfile". I’m still kinda new and don’t know all >the terms just YET. But I’m learning. >Angie

Nikki’s the queen of lactation.  She is incredibly supportive and helpful and will fax you diagrams from England.  It makes me feel so important when she faxes me things from "abroad."  It’s like a message from the Big Giant Head. She posted books and websites for you.  You didn’t answer her.   On the BF support issue, there is a wealth of it right here.  Kim, Anne, Shay, and now Geri, who’s going at it with the zeal of a recent convert.   jane

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"jane" <janelaw2…@aol.com> wrote in message

news:20031023122649.26469.00000009@mb-m17.aol.com… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> >"news.eclipse.co.uk" <n…@impactwp.nojunkplease.com> wrote in message > >news:1066896075.378402@ananke.eclipse.net.uk… > >> Do you have me killfilled or something? > >> N > >Huh? No…I don’t. I don’t even know what that means. A few days ago is when > >I first heard the word "killfile". I’m still kinda new and don’t know all > >the terms just YET. But I’m learning. > >Angie > Nikki’s the queen of lactation.  She is incredibly supportive and helpful and > will fax you diagrams from England.

I don’t think I’ll need diagrams…a detailed description is enough…..I think I know what part of my boobies is what….rofl >  It makes me feel so important when she > faxes me things from "abroad."  It’s like a message from the Big Giant

Head. lmao > She posted books and websites for you.  You didn’t answer her.

I know, I’m sorry. I was so worn out last night and half asleep, I just kinda skimmed through the posts and replies real fast. I saved them for this morning and I read everything slower and replied to the posts I wanted to since I was more clear headed and had more time. if anyone ever posts a reply to me and I don’t answer immediately, don’t worry, I will answer EVENTUALLY! lol I answered Nikki and told her thank you before I got to her "Did you killfile me?" post lol Sorry Nikki! :-) Angie – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> On the BF support issue, there is a wealth of it right here.  Kim, Anne, Shay, > and now Geri, who’s going at it with the zeal of a recent convert. > jane

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"jane" <janelaw2…@aol.com> wrote in message

news:20031023122649.26469.00000009@mb-m17.aol.com… > >"news.eclipse.co.uk" <n…@impactwp.nojunkplease.com> wrote in message > >news:1066896075.378402@ananke.eclipse.net.uk… > >> Do you have me killfilled or something? > >> N > >Huh? No…I don’t. I don’t even know what that means. A few days ago is when > >I first heard the word "killfile". I’m still kinda new and don’t know all > >the terms just YET. But I’m learning. > >Angie > Nikki’s the queen of lactation.

Snort! She is incredibly supportive and helpful and > will fax you diagrams from England.  It makes me feel so important when she > faxes me things from "abroad."  It’s like a message from the Big Giant

Head. Double snort. > She posted books and websites for you.  You didn’t answer her.

Oh she did now and I feel silly. Maybe when I’m in my thirties I’ll get over my rejection bullshit. > On the BF support issue, there is a wealth of it right here.  Kim, Anne, Shay, > and now Geri, who’s going at it with the zeal of a recent convert.

<Cue Monica from Friends> I KNOW!!</cue> Nikki – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> jane

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news:1066804210.890046@ananke.eclipse.net.uk… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> "Angie Reynolds" <j3…@sat-co.net> wrote in message > news:09jlb.100$pB7.3853327@typhoon.cei.net… > > "Anne Robotti" <arobo…@deletemelscomm.net> wrote in message > > news:9lcbpvs04hl5t8h1gkal9hd3so409dnp3c@4ax.com… > > > On 21 Oct 2003 22:13:03 GMT, gplen…@aol.commotion (Geri and > > > sometimes Brian) wrote: > > > >>So are you really converted, or are you just messing with our heads? > > > >Mwa-ha-ha-ha-ha-ha!  You’ll never know … > > > >Actually I am on an e-mail list from one of the teachers at my program > > and she > > > >sent that out.  If you guys are interested, I will send them along to > > you. > > I’m interested!! I’m pregnant with twins and due in January…and quite > > frankly, I’m starting to freak out!! I’ve checked out self help books last > > week…on bf’ing twins. Any recommendations on literature or articles? How > > about from you, Jennifer, since you are a mom of twins? (If you’re still > > talking to me…rofl) > > Angie > Hi Angie – The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding by the La Leche League is a > great book and also try Bestfeeding by Chloe Fisher as a great reference. > There’s also lots of stuff on the web put breastfeeding+twins into any > search engine, I used google (co.uk) and found lots of links to la leche’s > web site, and other twin specific support groups etc. > Such as > http://www.lalecheleague.org/FAQ/twins.html > http://www.askdrsears.com/html/2/T026200.asp

Thanks Nikki! I checked out the website last night and ordered two books from LLL. > Also I would recommend that you check out breastfeeding counsellors in your > area prior to the birth – both paid lactation consultants and voluntary > helpers. Preferably meet with them while you are still pregnant, so that you > know who you are calling on should you have a problem, and also they may put > you in touch with local support groups.

I did try and check out a bf’ing counselor, but the nearest one is 2 1/2 hours away. Our town is VERY small…maybe 500 people in this entire community. We have just regular nurses at the nearest hospital who help right after you have the baby, so that is no help. I’m still researching though, and hopefully I’ll find a support group nearby. If not, I’ll just stick to the ones online and books and friends’ advice! > Are there any specific worries or issues that you have? If there are, feel > free to post or email them to me I’d be happy to help.

Well I had alot of them but I found the answers to alot of the questions I had on the website and if I don’t get all my answers from my books, I will definitely ask!! > Good luck!

Thanks so much!! Angie – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Nikki

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On Thu, 23 Oct 2003 08:38:10 -0600, "Karen" <katr…@newsguy.com> wrote: >Angie, way back when when I needed La Leche League, I never went to a >meeting.  They had telephone counselors; maybe that would be good in your >case.

The LLL counselor came to my house after Victoria was born, I got her name right off teh webiste. Annte

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On Tue, 21 Oct 2003 18:14:14 -0500, "Angie Reynolds" <j3…@sat-co.net> wrote: >I’m interested!! I’m pregnant with twins and due in January…and quite >frankly, I’m starting to freak out!! I’ve checked out self help books last >week…on bf’ing twins. Any recommendations on literature or articles? How >about from you, Jennifer, since you are a mom of twins? (If you’re still >talking to me…rofl)

Angie, is these your first children? GET SOME GEL PACKS AND PUT THEM IN THE FRIDGE. Chances are that even if you do *everything* right, your nipples are going to be tender (read: hurt like a motherfucker, bruise up, and maybe even bleed) during the first couple of days until you get the whole latch process down. Slap a cold gel pack on those bad bears the second the baby’s off. And alternate, alternate, alternate. I did a full feed on one side, then a full feed on the next side, from the time the baby was a few hours old. Now, with twins, you won’t be able to do that. But try to remember which twin had which side. Not each time, but make sure one twin isn’t getting the same breast all the time. Because they’ll have different sucking habits and different appetites, and seriously it can really give your breasts a break if you feed the "easy" twin on whichever side is the problem side. And yes, there will be a problem side. Anne

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"news.eclipse.co.uk" <n…@impactwp.nojunkplease.com> wrote in message

news:1066896075.378402@ananke.eclipse.net.uk… > Do you have me killfilled or something? > N

Huh? No…I don’t. I don’t even know what that means. A few days ago is when I first heard the word "killfile". I’m still kinda new and don’t know all the terms just YET. But I’m learning. Angie – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> "Angie Reynolds" <j3…@sat-co.net> wrote in message > news:33Hlb.103$ah7.3773545@typhoon.cei.net… > > "Angie Reynolds" <j3…@sat-co.net> wrote in message > > news:81Hlb.102$4b7.3744872@typhoon.cei.net… > > > "Jennifer" <JenPam2…@yahoo.com> wrote in message > > > news:-9CdnZ7MNYcfPQuiRVn-hQ@comcast.com… > > > > "Angie Reynolds" <j3…@sat-co.net> wrote in message > > > > news:09jlb.100$pB7.3853327@typhoon.cei.net… > > > > > I’m interested!! I’m pregnant with twins and due in January…and > > quite > > > > > frankly, I’m starting to freak out!! I’ve checked out self help > books > > > last > > > > > week…on bf’ing twins. Any recommendations on literature or > articles? > > > How > > > > > about from you, Jennifer, since you are a mom of twins? (If you’re > > still > > > > > talking to me…rofl) > > > > *smack*  ROFL… :-)  You do realize we’re in a secret group of our > own > > > now, > > > > right Angie?  ;-)~ Okay, now I know I already suggested you check out > > > > alt.support.twins-triplets, but I really mean it…they will give you > so > > > > much information!  There are moms and dads there of twins, triplets, > and > > > > quads IIRC.  I miss them *sniff* but I got to the point where I’d > > > forgotten > > > > what it was like to have baby twins, lol. > > > > And then of course: > > > > I have just learned I am pregnant with twins. What do I need to know > to > > > > breastfeed under these circumstances? > > > > There is a good deal you can do while you are pregnant to make things > > > easier > > > > for you later. Before your babies arrive is a good time to learn as > much > > > as > > > > you can about breastfeeding. There are some very helpful books in the > > LLLI > > > > catalogue for mothers of multiples. Having Twins, by Elizabeth Nobles > > and > > > > Mothering Multiples: Breastfeeding and Caring for Twins or More! by > > Karen > > > > Kerkhoff Gromada are two books that address the special joys and > > > challenges > > > > of having (an breastfeeding) more than one baby. You will also find a > > > great > > > > deal of information and helpful suggestions in THE WOMANLY ART OF > > > > BREASTFEEDING. To visit the LLLI online catalogue, please go to > > > > http://www.lalecheleague.org/catalog.html > > Just ordered two books! Thanks!! :-) > > Angie

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Do you have me killfilled or something? N "Angie Reynolds" <j3…@sat-co.net> wrote in message

news:33Hlb.103$ah7.3773545@typhoon.cei.net… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> "Angie Reynolds" <j3…@sat-co.net> wrote in message > news:81Hlb.102$4b7.3744872@typhoon.cei.net… > > "Jennifer" <JenPam2…@yahoo.com> wrote in message > > news:-9CdnZ7MNYcfPQuiRVn-hQ@comcast.com… > > > "Angie Reynolds" <j3…@sat-co.net> wrote in message > > > news:09jlb.100$pB7.3853327@typhoon.cei.net… > > > > I’m interested!! I’m pregnant with twins and due in January…and > quite > > > > frankly, I’m starting to freak out!! I’ve checked out self help books > > last > > > > week…on bf’ing twins. Any recommendations on literature or articles? > > How > > > > about from you, Jennifer, since you are a mom of twins? (If you’re > still > > > > talking to me…rofl) > > > *smack*  ROFL… :-)  You do realize we’re in a secret group of our own > > now, > > > right Angie?  ;-)~ Okay, now I know I already suggested you check out > > > alt.support.twins-triplets, but I really mean it…they will give you so > > > much information!  There are moms and dads there of twins, triplets, and > > > quads IIRC.  I miss them *sniff* but I got to the point where I’d > > forgotten > > > what it was like to have baby twins, lol. > > > And then of course: > > > I have just learned I am pregnant with twins. What do I need to know to > > > breastfeed under these circumstances? > > > There is a good deal you can do while you are pregnant to make things > > easier > > > for you later. Before your babies arrive is a good time to learn as much > > as > > > you can about breastfeeding. There are some very helpful books in the > LLLI > > > catalogue for mothers of multiples. Having Twins, by Elizabeth Nobles > and > > > Mothering Multiples: Breastfeeding and Caring for Twins or More! by > Karen > > > Kerkhoff Gromada are two books that address the special joys and > > challenges > > > of having (an breastfeeding) more than one baby. You will also find a > > great > > > deal of information and helpful suggestions in THE WOMANLY ART OF > > > BREASTFEEDING. To visit the LLLI online catalogue, please go to > > > http://www.lalecheleague.org/catalog.html > Just ordered two books! Thanks!! :-) > Angie

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On 22 Oct 2003 08:15:17 -0400, k…@panix.com (Kim Scheinberg) wrote: >I don’t have much to offer viz nursing twins. I think tandem nursing >an infant and a 2 yr old is a whole ‘nother kettle of fish. >I’ll be able to help Anne, though, when she’s still nursing Victoria >and the newbie.

Sorry dude, I’m heartless. I weaned Victoria the day the stick turned pink. Anne

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"Anne Robotti" <arobo…@deletemelscomm.net> wrote in message

news:l3mdpvk05rmlb2nggpl15j1dvrh5j2aael@4ax.com… > Sorry dude, I’m heartless. I weaned Victoria the day the stick turned > pink.

How did it go? Was it easy or no? Just curious. shay

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"Jennifer" <JenPam2…@yahoo.com> wrote in message

news:-9CdnZ7MNYcfPQuiRVn-hQ@comcast.com… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> "Angie Reynolds" <j3…@sat-co.net> wrote in message > news:09jlb.100$pB7.3853327@typhoon.cei.net… > > I’m interested!! I’m pregnant with twins and due in January…and quite > > frankly, I’m starting to freak out!! I’ve checked out self help books last > > week…on bf’ing twins. Any recommendations on literature or articles? How > > about from you, Jennifer, since you are a mom of twins? (If you’re still > > talking to me…rofl) > *smack*  ROFL… :-)  You do realize we’re in a secret group of our own now, > right Angie?  ;-)~ Okay, now I know I already suggested you check out > alt.support.twins-triplets, but I really mean it…they will give you so > much information!  There are moms and dads there of twins, triplets, and > quads IIRC.  I miss them *sniff* but I got to the point where I’d forgotten > what it was like to have baby twins, lol.

I knew she was gonna smack me…..lol Angie – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> And then of course: > I have just learned I am pregnant with twins. What do I need to know to > breastfeed under these circumstances? > There is a good deal you can do while you are pregnant to make things easier > for you later. Before your babies arrive is a good time to learn as much as > you can about breastfeeding. There are some very helpful books in the LLLI > catalogue for mothers of multiples. Having Twins, by Elizabeth Nobles and > Mothering Multiples: Breastfeeding and Caring for Twins or More! by Karen > Kerkhoff Gromada are two books that address the special joys and challenges > of having (an breastfeeding) more than one baby. You will also find a great > deal of information and helpful suggestions in THE WOMANLY ART OF > BREASTFEEDING. To visit the LLLI online catalogue, please go to > http://www.lalecheleague.org/catalog.html

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"Kathy Cole" <ka…@scconsult.com> wrote in message

news:3ojbpvgndb6vnat5cuqtud8d201jupf6ir@4ax.com… > On Tue, 21 Oct 2003 18:14:14 -0500, "Angie Reynolds" <j3…@sat-co.net> > wrote: > > I’m interested!! I’m pregnant with twins and due in January…and quite > > frankly, I’m starting to freak out!! I’ve checked out self help books last > > week…on bf’ing twins. Any recommendations on literature or articles? How > > about from you, Jennifer, since you are a mom of twins? (If you’re still > > talking to me…rofl) > If you’re not subscribed to alt.parenting.twins-triplets (I think that’s > the group), I’ve heard good things about it.

Okay, thanks Kathy! I’m sure that would be helpful. Fixing to suscribe to it right now….I need all the help I can get! lol > There are a couple of current and former tandem nursers of twins or > pairs of singletons in misc.kids.breastfeeding.  If you post there or in > misc.kids.pregnancy (or in misc.kids, though that group has a more > confrontational tone), you should get some useful, informed followups.

Lord knows I don’t need any confrontations…I’m nervous about this whole pregnancy with twins thing as it is!! Angie – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> (And Kim may pop in to this thread.)

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"Angie Reynolds" <j3…@sat-co.net> wrote in message

news:81Hlb.102$4b7.3744872@typhoon.cei.net… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> "Jennifer" <JenPam2…@yahoo.com> wrote in message > news:-9CdnZ7MNYcfPQuiRVn-hQ@comcast.com… > > "Angie Reynolds" <j3…@sat-co.net> wrote in message > > news:09jlb.100$pB7.3853327@typhoon.cei.net… > > > I’m interested!! I’m pregnant with twins and due in January…and quite > > > frankly, I’m starting to freak out!! I’ve checked out self help books > last > > > week…on bf’ing twins. Any recommendations on literature or articles? > How > > > about from you, Jennifer, since you are a mom of twins? (If you’re still > > > talking to me…rofl) > > *smack*  ROFL… :-)  You do realize we’re in a secret group of our own > now, > > right Angie?  ;-)~ Okay, now I know I already suggested you check out > > alt.support.twins-triplets, but I really mean it…they will give you so > > much information!  There are moms and dads there of twins, triplets, and > > quads IIRC.  I miss them *sniff* but I got to the point where I’d > forgotten > > what it was like to have baby twins, lol. > > And then of course: > > I have just learned I am pregnant with twins. What do I need to know to > > breastfeed under these circumstances? > > There is a good deal you can do while you are pregnant to make things > easier > > for you later. Before your babies arrive is a good time to learn as much > as > > you can about breastfeeding. There are some very helpful books in the LLLI > > catalogue for mothers of multiples. Having Twins, by Elizabeth Nobles and > > Mothering Multiples: Breastfeeding and Caring for Twins or More! by Karen > > Kerkhoff Gromada are two books that address the special joys and > challenges > > of having (an breastfeeding) more than one baby. You will also find a > great > > deal of information and helpful suggestions in THE WOMANLY ART OF > > BREASTFEEDING. To visit the LLLI online catalogue, please go to > > http://www.lalecheleague.org/catalog.html

Just ordered two books! Thanks!! :-) Angie – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text –

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On 21 Oct 2003 22:13:03 GMT, gplen…@aol.commotion (Geri and sometimes Brian) wrote: >>So are you really converted, or are you just messing with our heads? >Mwa-ha-ha-ha-ha-ha!  You’ll never know … >Actually I am on an e-mail list from one of the teachers at my program and she >sent that out.  If you guys are interested, I will send them along to you.

I’m always interested. >Here, I will unfreak you … the more people breastfeed, the less of my tax >dollars will be needed for WIC, sick kids, etc.  ;-)

Nope, nope, that’s just not doing it for me. Too much of an underlying trust in the benefits of breastfeeding… I’m a-skeered Weezer, I’m a-skeered… Anne

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"Anne Robotti" <arobo…@deletemelscomm.net> wrote in message

news:9lcbpvs04hl5t8h1gkal9hd3so409dnp3c@4ax.com… > On 21 Oct 2003 22:13:03 GMT, gplen…@aol.commotion (Geri and > sometimes Brian) wrote: > >>So are you really converted, or are you just messing with our heads? > >Mwa-ha-ha-ha-ha-ha!  You’ll never know … > >Actually I am on an e-mail list from one of the teachers at my program and she > >sent that out.  If you guys are interested, I will send them along to

you. I’m interested!! I’m pregnant with twins and due in January…and quite frankly, I’m starting to freak out!! I’ve checked out self help books last week…on bf’ing twins. Any recommendations on literature or articles? How about from you, Jennifer, since you are a mom of twins? (If you’re still talking to me…rofl) Angie – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text –

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Kathy Cole <ka…@scconsult.com> writes >There are a couple of current and former tandem nursers of twins or >pairs of singletons in misc.kids.breastfeeding.  If you post there or in >misc.kids.pregnancy (or in misc.kids, though that group has a more >confrontational tone), you should get some useful, informed followups. >(And Kim may pop in to this thread.)

I don’t have much to offer viz nursing twins. I think tandem nursing an infant and a 2 yr old is a whole ‘nother kettle of fish. I’ll be able to help Anne, though, when she’s still nursing Victoria and the newbie. -k.

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"Angie Reynolds" <j3…@sat-co.net> wrote in message

news:09jlb.100$pB7.3853327@typhoon.cei.net… > I’m interested!! I’m pregnant with twins and due in January…and quite > frankly, I’m starting to freak out!! I’ve checked out self help books last > week…on bf’ing twins. Any recommendations on literature or articles? How > about from you, Jennifer, since you are a mom of twins? (If you’re still > talking to me…rofl)

*smack*  ROFL… :-)  You do realize we’re in a secret group of our own now, right Angie?  ;-)~ Okay, now I know I already suggested you check out alt.support.twins-triplets, but I really mean it…they will give you so much information!  There are moms and dads there of twins, triplets, and quads IIRC.  I miss them *sniff* but I got to the point where I’d forgotten what it was like to have baby twins, lol. And then of course: I have just learned I am pregnant with twins. What do I need to know to breastfeed under these circumstances? There is a good deal you can do while you are pregnant to make things easier for you later. Before your babies arrive is a good time to learn as much as you can about breastfeeding. There are some very helpful books in the LLLI catalogue for mothers of multiples. Having Twins, by Elizabeth Nobles and Mothering Multiples: Breastfeeding and Caring for Twins or More! by Karen Kerkhoff Gromada are two books that address the special joys and challenges of having (an breastfeeding) more than one baby. You will also find a great deal of information and helpful suggestions in THE WOMANLY ART OF BREASTFEEDING. To visit the LLLI online catalogue, please go to http://www.lalecheleague.org/catalog.html

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"Angie Reynolds" <j3…@sat-co.net> wrote in message

news:09jlb.100$pB7.3853327@typhoon.cei.net… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> "Anne Robotti" <arobo…@deletemelscomm.net> wrote in message > news:9lcbpvs04hl5t8h1gkal9hd3so409dnp3c@4ax.com… > > On 21 Oct 2003 22:13:03 GMT, gplen…@aol.commotion (Geri and > > sometimes Brian) wrote: > > >>So are you really converted, or are you just messing with our heads? > > >Mwa-ha-ha-ha-ha-ha!  You’ll never know … > > >Actually I am on an e-mail list from one of the teachers at my program > and she > > >sent that out.  If you guys are interested, I will send them along to > you. > I’m interested!! I’m pregnant with twins and due in January…and quite > frankly, I’m starting to freak out!! I’ve checked out self help books last > week…on bf’ing twins. Any recommendations on literature or articles? How > about from you, Jennifer, since you are a mom of twins? (If you’re still > talking to me…rofl) > Angie

Hi Angie – The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding by the La Leche League is a great book and also try Bestfeeding by Chloe Fisher as a great reference. There’s also lots of stuff on the web put breastfeeding+twins into any search engine, I used google (co.uk) and found lots of links to la leche’s web site, and other twin specific support groups etc. Such as http://www.lalecheleague.org/FAQ/twins.html http://www.askdrsears.com/html/2/T026200.asp Also I would recommend that you check out breastfeeding counsellors in your area prior to the birth – both paid lactation consultants and voluntary helpers. Preferably meet with them while you are still pregnant, so that you know who you are calling on should you have a problem, and also they may put you in touch with local support groups. Are there any specific worries or issues that you have? If there are, feel free to post or email them to me I’d be happy to help. Good luck! Nikki

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"Geri and sometimes Brian" <gplen…@aol.commotion> wrote in message news:20031021172644.10332.00001470@mb-m14.aol.com… > October 21, 2003 > Norway Leads Industrial Nations Back to Breast-Feeding > By LIZETTE ALVAREZ >      SLO – Norway has revolutionized a woman’s right to breast-feed.

<snip> Thanks Geri, most useful. I think I’ve cited Norway in some of our discussions before. This article is good because it really points out where America and England go wrong. We say ‘breast is best’ (ugh) when actually, what is being done to actually empower women to breastfeed? Very little in comparison with Norwegian culture. THIS is why I don’t allow Kiera to keep bottles she gets with her baby (and try finding one without). I don’t buy anything with bottles on it, I refuse to encourage the culture in any way. I get annoyed (and often complain) when the Mother’s Room features a bottle symbol (when a baby symbol is just as easy if not more obvious, they’re for general baby usage, not just feeding!). It’s not because these things are evil, it’s because they do encourage our society to remain a predominantly bottle culture. I know I found the international aspect of my course very interesting as it really shows you another perspective. Have you looked much yet at the WHO code and how that all happened? Sounds like you’re enjoying the course and finding it informative, which is great. Nikki

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On Tue, 21 Oct 2003 18:14:14 -0500, "Angie Reynolds" <j3…@sat-co.net> wrote: > I’m interested!! I’m pregnant with twins and due in January…and quite > frankly, I’m starting to freak out!! I’ve checked out self help books last > week…on bf’ing twins. Any recommendations on literature or articles? How > about from you, Jennifer, since you are a mom of twins? (If you’re still > talking to me…rofl)

If you’re not subscribed to alt.parenting.twins-triplets (I think that’s the group), I’ve heard good things about it. There are a couple of current and former tandem nursers of twins or pairs of singletons in misc.kids.breastfeeding.  If you post there or in misc.kids.pregnancy (or in misc.kids, though that group has a more confrontational tone), you should get some useful, informed followups. (And Kim may pop in to this thread.)

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October 21, 2003 Norway Leads Industrial Nations Back to Breast-Feeding By LIZETTE ALVAREZ      SLO

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Alex, I found what you write so sensational and very interesting. Have you ever wrote – or tried to get published – any article about this issue in a "main stream" newspaper? – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Sunday there was on tv in my country about south-africa. Twenty percent of the population is infected, it was said. Today I read on www.aegis.com that only ten percent of the infected are tested. The rest are estimates. Actually, they are _both_ estimates and extrapolations, but the 11.4% percent is based on better research. However, neither number is accurate, because they never use confirmatory tests in these surveys. The real number is likely to be closer to 2-5%. If that. Here is the lowdown. Everything is dependent on cash. The WHO (19% infection, etc.) has very little of it. As a result, they depended on the collection of blood from women at antenatal clincs, which was very cheap, because these clinics already existed and blood was already taken anyway. However, the result was that they only had data from pregnant women, who are unrepresentative of general population. They are younger, they are sexually active (duh) and they are all female. And pregnant, which brings me to the second point – the tests used. The cheapest test out there is called ELISA (actually a group of tests). The problem with them is, that they’re not very reliable, because they will "spike" (go positive) when you’ve been exposed to any of 70 known factors and pathogens. Malaria, tb, ddt, the common cold, the flu, herpes, will all make these ELISA tests spike. But the main reason that these tests never should have been taken as the final word, is that they "spike" because of… <drumroll… pregnancy!! Then, the South African HSRC came along, with a little more money, and they took a random population sample of 10,000 or so people, who they gave a single, orally administered ELISA. Just for them being representative and unpregnant, the result was that 11.4% of the population was now officially HIV positive. That’s a dive of 40%, just by doing the test a little right. The real problem that has remained and still isn’t solved, is that none of the positive testing individuals were followed up by what are called confirmatory tests. Usually, that would be another ELISA, just to see if the first one was right. If this second ELISA is negative, the positive first test is basically thrown out of the window (so to speak), and the patient is considered HIV negative. If the second is positive, then a Western Blot test is performed. This is a more specific and also more expensive test, which is why it is never used in surveys in Africa. ELISA has an extraordinary false positive rate, especially in Africa. However, this combination of tests has previously resulted in one Italian military transfusion center of only 6.25% of the original positive testing individuals, who remain being considered HIV positive. So you can see. 20% estimated national HIV infection from blood from pregnant women. The same test on the general populace – 11.4% infection. Follow up tests… 0.7% infection rate? Who knows until the tests are actually done, but it seems very reasonable to assume. (11.4% times 0.0625 or 1/16th) The main stream media presents estimates as facts. Yes they do, all the time. Do anyone here know which test was used in the beginning of the epidemic in the western countries? Probably some form of ELISA. Alex " "One in five heterosexuals could be dead from AIDS at the end of the next three years," the nation’s most popular talk show host Oprah Winfrey warned her audience in 1987.  " http://www.fumento.com/realaids.html

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In fact, it assumes that there is a fixed, limited number of false positives out there. When in fact the number of people who have been exposed to factors that will make them test false positive will vary hugely, and increase hugely in Africa relative to Europe or North America.

PS, I should also include, that these HIV tests have been standardized for Western Europe and the USA, not Africa. And that even from early on in the epidemic, there has always been the assumption that HIV is endemic in Africa, a priori. Alex

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And this has been discredited by another poster.  See that post for the discreditation of your "research". Really? What did he say? That in places with low prevalence, the huge majority of positive ELISAs are false? I already knew that, and it’s even spelled out in the WHO report and in their own words (page 7):

Plus (and I must be sleepwalking through this), it has been proven that it is possible to have the huge majority of single ELISAs be false positive, even in (sub-populations of) alleged high prevalence regions (which of course makes loads of sense). "It seemed something was confounding the tests, and the prime suspect was plasmodium falciparum, one of the parasites that causes malaria: Of the twenty-one subjects who tested positive, sixteen had had recent malaria infections and huge levels of antibody in their veins. The researchers tried an experiment: They formulated a preparation that absorbed the malaria antibodies, treated the blood samples with it, then retested them. Eighty percent of the suspected HIV infections vanished. " http://www.whatisaids.com/rollingstone.htm Alex

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snip Alex, I wonder why you are so convinced that HIV is a 100%-killer-virus, and why you provide AIDS orthodoxy with a simple and convincing excuse for the troubling but obvious fact that death rates southern Africa (where HIV always has been endemic) are relatively low.

HIV is not a 100% killer. Unfortunately, nearly 90% of infected individuals will develop immune dysfunction resulting in AIDS. Most diseases are less likely to be so nasty to such a great percentage of individuals. Like Ebola–I think about 60% of infected individuals develop hemorrhagic disease (from which most die, making it clearly horrible in its own right). The life expectancy has declined sharply in the last decade in many African countries that HAD been steadily rising prior to the onset of the HIV pandemic.                 George M. Carter *** Another example: X-Mailer: QUALCOMM Windows Eudora Version 6.0.0.22 Mime-Version: 1.0 Content-Type: text/plain; charset="us-ascii"; format=flowed List-Subscribe: List-Unsubscribe: Mailer: AEGiS List Server (please help: <http://www.aegis.org/about/donate.htm) Research article Health and economic impact of HIV/AIDS on South African households: a cohort study Max O Bachmann1 and Frederick LR Booysen2 1Department of Community Health, University of the Free State, PO Box 339(G52), Bloemfontein 9300, South Africa 2Department of Economics and Centre for Health Systems Research and Development, University of the Free State, PO Box 339, Bloemfontein 9300, South Africa BMC Public Health 2003 3:14 (published 1 April 2003) Abstract http://www.biomedcentral.com/1471-2458/3/14/abstract Full-text http://www.biomedcentral.com/1471-2458/3/14 Background South African households are severely affected by human immunodeficiency virus / acquired immunodeficiency syndrome (HIV/AIDS) but health and economic impacts have not been quantified in controlled cohort studies. Methods We compared households with an HIV-infected member, and unaffected neighbouring households, in one rural and one urban area in Free State province, South Africa. Interviews were conducted with one key informant in each household, at baseline and six months later. We studied 1913 members of 404 households, with 94% and 96% follow up, respectively. Household and individual level analyses were done. Results Members of affected households, compared to members of unaffected households, were independently more likely to be continuously ill (adjusted odds ratio (OR) 2.1, 95% CI 1.3-3.4 at follow up), and to die (adjusted OR 3.4, 95% CI 1.0-11), mainly due to infectious diseases. Government clinics and hospitals were the main sources of health care. Affected households were poorer than unaffected households at baseline (relative income per person 0.61, 95% CI 0.49-0.76). Over six months expenditure and income decreased more rapidly in affected than in unaffected households (baseline-adjusted relative expenditure 0.86, 95% CI 0.75-0.99 and income 0.89, 95% CI 0.75-1.05). Baseline morbidity was independently associated with lower income and expenditure at baseline but not with changes over six months. Conclusions HIV/AIDS affects the health and wealth of households as well as infected individuals, aggravating pre-existing poverty. AEGiS is made possible through unrestricted grants from Boehringer Ingelheim, Bridgestone/Firestone, iMetrikus, the John Lloyd Foundation, the National Library of Medicine, and users like you. Make a donation today: https://www.aegis.org/about/donate.htm

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I read in a Fact Sheet from CDC(2000) that in developing countries where there can be difficult to take tests, healthworkers can diagnose AIDS if canser or malnutrition can be ruled out. But what about those "fast-tests" which are used on salvia etc? I know a company in my country that has sold those to CDC – and I am told they are used in "third world"? Do they work? Are they acurate? If yes, why don’t we use them in our western world – in bloodbanks and everywhere..? – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Actually, it is the most likely range for HIV infection, and probably a little too high. I have worked in the field of emergency medicine and/or  HIV/AIDS as either a volunteer or in full-time paid employment since 1984.  Back in the early 90s I was "seeing" about 2% of patients that I *thought* were HIV positive (already had AIDS) based on clinical observations.  In 2003 I am seeing about 50% of patients that I *think* are HIV positive based on clinical observations. Wow, that’s amazing. Do you clinically/visually diagnose cancer too? But seriously, is it possible that what you’re seeing, and a relatively new influx of poor people from the countryside? A change in demographics after the lifting of restrictions? Granted this is related to people who are already in trouble so the estimate is not that 50% of people are HIV positive, but that 50% of sick people who are in contact with my particular type of work are HIV positive and already evidencing signs of AIDS. But they’re not tested… I certainly think that more than 5% of the population is HIV positive with the likely range being closer to that of the official statistics. Which keep changing. No, it is not a dive of 40%.  Even at antenatal clinics there has not been a 50% or more test result ever, not even in the most highly infected areas and groups. Yes, it is a dive of 40%. You went from an estimated national prevalence of 19% to 11.4% OK, the percentage figure refers to the change, not to the total. That’s somewhat more plausible. No, it’s a dive of 40%. ;-) What I have indicated above is the simple, standard procedure of how tests are supposed to be done. The fact is that the standards of testing in surveys is a lot lower than when HIV infection is diagnosed in an individual. And that shouldn’t be. I am not sure that it *is* lower for the diagnosis.  ELISA followed by a Western Blot is pretty conclusive. Yes but, there is a big difference diagnosing individuals and testing these large surveys. In these large surveys **confirmatory tests aren’t done**. " Strategy I All serum/plasma is tested with one ELISA or simple/rapid assay. Serum that is reactive is considered HIV antibody positive. Serum that is non-reactive is considered HIV antibody negative. " Page 7 Table A UNAIDS and WHO recommendations for HIV testing strategies according to test objective and prevalence of infection in the sample population Surveillance     10%   I                        <10%  II Diagnosis clinical symptoms/ signs of HIV infection   30%   I                                    <30%   II What happens with individuals who can afford private medical care is that viral load tests are usually also run immediately so as to determine what treatment, if any, to initiate. As to false negatives, they don’t occur according to the WHO. However, it is false positives that are the issue. Also, these SURVEYS have no confirmatory tests performed. Certainly not Western Blot, whatever may happen at _some_ South African private clinics. It is my understanding that Western Blot tests are run on all positive samples.  At *all* private clinics there would be either a Western Blot and/or a viral load test.  Remember the clinic gets paid for the onerous task of ordering the test. The WHO doesn’t depend on posh private clinics, but on (leftover) blood collected at antenatal clinics. And they are very specific. Countries where HIV infection is assumed to be greater than 10% (like South Africa), "strategy 1" (page 7) is carried out, which is a single ELISA test, nothing more. If it’s positive, the sample is assumed to be HIV positive. In countries where HIV is assumed to be greater than 30%, this strategy 1 is even used for diagnosis. http://www.who.int/bct/Main_areas_of_work/BTS/HIV_Diagnostics/ Evaluation_reports/Operational%20Characteristics_HIV%20Report9_10.pdf This document is from 1998. As is clear from the data below, Moira, in these Italian data, there are 31 people who tested positive, only *2* remained positive after further testing. That _is_ an extraordinary false positive rate. And this has been discredited by another poster.  See that post for the discreditation of your "research". Really? What did he say? That in places with low prevalence, the huge majority of positive ELISAs are false? I already knew that, and it’s even spelled out in the WHO report and in their own words (page 7): "  When a single screening assay is used for testing in a population with a very low prevalence of HN infection, the probability that a person is infected when a positive test result is obtained (i.e., the positive predictive value) is very low, since the majority of people with positive results are not infected. " The problem with using this as an excuse of not assuming the same for so-called  high infected regions, is: 1) you have to assume a high infection rate before testing starts and 2) it doesn’t take into account a local high prevalence of factors that will cause false positives and that are unique to that local area. (Malaria, tb, ddt [outlawed in most places], leprocy, all kinds of bacteria, and of course the exclusive use of blood samples from pregnant women.) In fact, it assumes that there is a fixed, limited number of false positives out there. When in fact the number of people who have been exposed to factors that will make them test false positive will vary hugely, and increase hugely in Africa relative to Europe or North America. Alex

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Actually, it is the most likely range for HIV infection, and probably a little too high. I have worked in the field of emergency medicine and/or  HIV/AIDS as either a volunteer or in full-time paid employment since 1984.  Back in the early 90s I was "seeing" about 2% of patients that I *thought* were HIV positive (already had AIDS) based on clinical observations.  In 2003 I am seeing about 50% of patients that I *think* are HIV positive based on clinical observations.

Wow, that’s amazing. Do you clinically/visually diagnose cancer too? But seriously, is it possible that what you’re seeing, and a relatively new influx of poor people from the countryside? A change in demographics after the lifting of restrictions? Granted this is related to people who are already in trouble so the estimate is not that 50% of people are HIV positive, but that 50% of sick people who are in contact with my particular type of work are HIV positive and already evidencing signs of AIDS.

But they’re not tested… I certainly think that more than 5% of the population is HIV positive with the likely range being closer to that of the official statistics.

Which keep changing. No, it is not a dive of 40%.  Even at antenatal clinics there has not been a 50% or more test result ever, not even in the most highly infected areas and groups. Yes, it is a dive of 40%. You went from an estimated national prevalence of 19% to 11.4% OK, the percentage figure refers to the change, not to the total. That’s somewhat more plausible.

No, it’s a dive of 40%. ;-) What I have indicated above is the simple, standard procedure of how tests are supposed to be done. The fact is that the standards of testing in surveys is a lot lower than when HIV infection is diagnosed in an individual. And that shouldn’t be. I am not sure that it *is* lower for the diagnosis.  ELISA followed by a Western Blot is pretty conclusive.

Yes but, there is a big difference diagnosing individuals and testing these large surveys. In these large surveys **confirmatory tests aren’t done**. " Strategy I All serum/plasma is tested with one ELISA or simple/rapid assay. Serum that is reactive is considered HIV antibody positive. Serum that is non-reactive is considered HIV antibody negative. " Page 7 Table A UNAIDS and WHO recommendations for HIV testing strategies according to test objective and prevalence of infection in the sample population Surveillance     10%   I                        <10%  II Diagnosis clinical symptoms/ signs of HIV infection   30%   I                                    <30%   II What happens with individuals who can afford private medical care is that viral load tests are usually also run immediately so as to determine what treatment, if any, to initiate. As to false negatives, they don’t occur according to the WHO. However, it is false positives that are the issue. Also, these SURVEYS have no confirmatory tests performed. Certainly not Western Blot, whatever may happen at _some_ South African private clinics. It is my understanding that Western Blot tests are run on all positive samples.  At *all* private clinics there would be either a Western Blot and/or a viral load test.  Remember the clinic gets paid for the onerous task of ordering the test.

The WHO doesn’t depend on posh private clinics, but on (leftover) blood collected at antenatal clinics. And they are very specific. Countries where HIV infection is assumed to be greater than 10% (like South Africa), "strategy 1" (page 7) is carried out, which is a single ELISA test, nothing more. If it’s positive, the sample is assumed to be HIV positive. In countries where HIV is assumed to be greater than 30%, this strategy 1 is even used for diagnosis. http://www.who.int/bct/Main_areas_of_work/BTS/HIV_Diagnostics/ Evaluation_reports/Operational%20Characteristics_HIV%20Report9_10.pdf This document is from 1998. As is clear from the data below, Moira, in these Italian data, there are 31 people who tested positive, only *2* remained positive after further testing. That _is_ an extraordinary false positive rate. And this has been discredited by another poster.  See that post for the discreditation of your "research".

Really? What did he say? That in places with low prevalence, the huge majority of positive ELISAs are false? I already knew that, and it’s even spelled out in the WHO report and in their own words (page 7): "  When a single screening assay is used for testing in a population with a very low prevalence of HN infection, the probability that a person is infected when a positive test result is obtained (i.e., the positive predictive value) is very low, since the majority of people with positive results are not infected. " The problem with using this as an excuse of not assuming the same for so-called  high infected regions, is: 1) you have to assume a high infection rate before testing starts and 2) it doesn’t take into account a local high prevalence of factors that will cause false positives and that are unique to that local area. (Malaria, tb, ddt [outlawed in most places], leprocy, all kinds of bacteria, and of course the exclusive use of blood samples from pregnant women.) In fact, it assumes that there is a fixed, limited number of false positives out there. When in fact the number of people who have been exposed to factors that will make them test false positive will vary hugely, and increase hugely in Africa relative to Europe or North America. Alex

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Actually, they are _both_ estimates and extrapolations, but the 11.4% percent is based on better research. However, neither number is accurate, because they never use confirmatory tests in these surveys. The real number is likely to be closer to 2-5%. If that. Not true according to what we are seeing in the field. Actually, it is the most likely range for HIV infection, and probably a little too high.

I have worked in the field of emergency medicine and/or  HIV/AIDS as either a volunteer or in full-time paid employment since 1984.  Back in the early 90s I was "seeing" about 2% of patients that I *thought* were HIV positive (already had AIDS) based on clinical observations.  In 2003 I am seeing about 50% of patients that I *think* are HIV positive based on clinical observations.  Granted this is related to people who are already in trouble so the estimate is not that 50% of people are HIV positive, but that 50% of sick people who are in contact with my particular type of work are HIV positive and already evidencing signs of AIDS. I certainly think that more than 5% of the population is HIV positive with the likely range being closer to that of the official statistics. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Then, the South African HSRC came along, with a little more money, and they took a random population sample of 10,000 or so people, who they gave a single, orally administered ELISA. Just for them being representative and unpregnant, the result was that 11.4% of the population was now officially HIV positive. That’s a dive of 40%, just by doing the test a little right. No, it is not a dive of 40%.  Even at antenatal clinics there has not been a 50% or more test result ever, not even in the most highly infected areas and groups. Yes, it is a dive of 40%. You went from an estimated national prevalence of 19% to 11.4%

OK, the percentage figure refers to the change, not to the total. That’s somewhat more plausible. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – The real problem that has remained and still isn’t solved, is that none of the positive testing individuals were followed up by what are called confirmatory tests. Usually, that would be another ELISA, just to see if the first one was right. If this second ELISA is negative, the positive first test is basically thrown out of the window (so to speak), and the patient is considered HIV negative. ELISA tests don’t give false negatives.  Now what you have indicated here is simply not true.  The same sample that tests positive on an ELISA is run on a Western Blot test.  These are highly accurate. What I have indicated above is the simple, standard procedure of how tests are supposed to be done. The fact is that the standards of testing in surveys is a lot lower than when HIV infection is diagnosed in an individual. And that shouldn’t

be. I am not sure that it *is* lower for the diagnosis.  ELISA followed by a Western Blot is pretty conclusive.  What happens with individuals who can afford private medical care is that viral load tests are usually also run immediately so as to determine what treatment, if any, to initiate. As to false negatives, they don’t occur according to the WHO. However, it is false positives that are the issue. Also, these SURVEYS have no confirmatory tests performed. Certainly not Western Blot, whatever may happen at _some_ South African private clinics.

It is my understanding that Western Blot tests are run on all positive samples.  At *all* private clinics there would be either a Western Blot and/or a viral load test.  Remember the clinic gets paid for the onerous task of ordering the test. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – For the WHO data I know this for a fact, because I e-mailed them personally. If the second is positive, then a Western Blot test is performed. This is a more specific and also more expensive test, which is why it is never used in surveys in Africa. Not true.  They are used as a standard in South Africa. Again, not in these large surveys. And not in the HSRC study, which is the most accurate of the lot. ELISA has an extraordinary false positive rate, especially in Africa. From what I hae been advised is that the ELISA test has a slightly higher rate of positive results than are confirmed by the Western Blot.  I forget what the differential is, but it is hardly an "extraordinary false positive rate". As is clear from the data below, Moira, in these Italian data, there are 31 people who tested positive, only *2* remained positive after further testing. That _is_ an extraordinary false positive rate.

And this has been discredited by another poster.  See that post for the discreditation of your "research". Moira, the Faerie Godmother

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Actually, they are _both_ estimates and extrapolations, but the 11.4% percent is based on better research. However, neither number is accurate, because they never use confirmatory tests in these surveys. The real number is likely to be closer to 2-5%. If that. Not true according to what we are seeing in the field. Actually, it is the most likely range for HIV infection, and probably a little too high. If HIV is only a 10%-killer virus, then a 20-50% infection rate leads to the same (death-)outcome as a 2-5% infection rate in the case of a 100% killer virus. Alex, I wonder why you are so convinced that HIV is a 100%-killer-virus, and why you provide AIDS orthodoxy with a simple and convincing excuse for the troubling but obvious fact that death rates southern Africa (where HIV always has been endemic) are relatively low.

Hi Wolfgang, Why do you assume that the "tests" are accurate? There are lots of reasons why an inaccurate test like ELISA would go off, known reasons, like pregnancy, malaria, ddt, etc. So as far as I’m concerned, there is no basis for assuming that HIV is endemic in Southern Africa. No rational, sociological or demographic reason either. HIV doesn’t spread more easily between men and women in Africa than in Europe, America, etc. as serodiscordant couple studies have shown again and again. No greater sexual activity, as sociological studies have shown again and again. In the beginning of 2000 (when holding the presidency of the UN Security Council) the US declared AIDS in Africa a national security thread. Look for instance at the effect of this absurd proclamation on the exchange rate of the South African currency. AIDS remains a thread to the nation reponsible for the AIDS hysteria, but the Rand has already recovered.

Well it are signs like that, which show that the disbelief of the apocalyptic paradigm of the AIDS industry isn’t limited to the government. Alex

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Nevirapine can be very dangerous for the liver. During oneandhalf a year there were reported to WHO 62 cases of death – related to nevriapine. And in the same eighteen months how many babies who would otherwise have been HIV positive are now HIV negative? All meds have side effects, some of which can be fatal.  The pay off often makes the risk worthwhile.

Indeed, it is unlikely that these deaths are attributable to the single dosages taken by pregnant mothers but rather from cumulative toxicities of standard use in an ARV combination. Pre-existing conditions like HCV or chronic HBV or alcohol consumption may exacerbate this toxicity.         George M. Carter

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Actually, they are _both_ estimates and extrapolations, but the 11.4% percent is based on better research. However, neither number is accurate, because they never use confirmatory tests in these surveys. The real number is likely to be closer to 2-5%. If that. Not true according to what we are seeing in the field. Actually, it is the most likely range for HIV infection, and probably a little too high.

If HIV is only a 10%-killer virus, then a 20-50% infection rate leads to the same (death-)outcome as a 2-5% infection rate in the case of a 100% killer virus. Alex, I wonder why you are so convinced that HIV is a 100%-killer-virus, and why you provide AIDS orthodoxy with a simple and convincing excuse for the troubling but obvious fact that death rates southern Africa (where HIV always has been endemic) are relatively low. In the beginning of 2000 (when holding the presidency of the UN Security Council) the US declared AIDS in Africa a national security thread. Look for instance at the effect of this absurd proclamation on the exchange rate of the South African currency. AIDS remains a thread to the nation reponsible for the AIDS hysteria, but the Rand has already recovered. Cheers, Wolfgang

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| I don’t believe a LOT OF STUFF you write considering it (HIV | stuff) comes from sites such as virusmyth etc. | | Well that’s simply not true, because I’ve only been quoting from WHO.int, | certi.org, etc. websites. | | Besides, "it’s from Virusmyth.net so it isn’t true" simply isn’t an argument. | | I said a "LOT OF STUFF"  not  ALL THE STUFF. Learned something new regarding the surveillance. But quite honestly just because you’re right about one thing, doesn’t make you right about everything. Skeptical would have been a better word to have used. I didn’t say "it’s from Virusmyth.net so it isn’t true" either although that is my opinion quite honestly. I found that site almost 2 years ago and was shocked. However at the time, I had friends who were doing masters in microbiology, and I’m taking their word over these sites. I’ve found a lot of misinformation over the internet, so if I think it looks wrong, then I’m skeptical. Again, I don’t really care about the issue. I’m not going to pretend to know more than I do. Some ‘dissidents’ deny the link between HIV and AIDS, some demand ALL research be banned immediately. Personally, I believe HIV causes AIDS. More importantly I also believe there is no cure, so I’m going to try avoid getting it in the first place. I don’t believe deodorants, amyl/alkyl nitrates, poverty etc cause AIDS. Vitamin C supplements won’t cure AIDS. Neither will raping anybody. You often quote Rian Malan’s Rolling Stone article and link to virusmyth. The substance of this thread is the same as the others you’ve written that do, only the "WHAT IS AIDS" is not linked in this one. Rob

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Nevirapine can be very dangerous for the liver. During oneandhalf a year there were reported to WHO 62 cases of death – related to

nevriapine. And in the same eighteen months how many babies who would otherwise have been HIV positive are now HIV negative? All meds have side effects, some of which can be fatal.  The pay off often makes the risk worthwhile. Knowing that the frequence of reporting on side-effects is very low all over – and that the virus can be blamed for every side-effect, I find it strange to go for nevirapine to  newborn babies. Besides,  the baby kick on to its own immunesystem when it is about eighteen months.

And the baby may sero-convert or may not.  Babies who have been given a single dose of Nevirapine after birth when the mother was given a single dose of Nevirapine just before the birth have a much higher rate of sero-conversion than babies untreated by Nevirapine. Another thing; are the positiv tested mothers told not to breastfeed their children? What do they give them then? Do anyone know if the virus is found to exist in breastmilk?

HIV positive mothers are told not to breastfeed their children if possible.  Clinics now provide formula free of charge where this is a prophylactic treatment.  This assumes that the mother can provide proper artificial feeding.  Otherwise exclusive breast feeding is recommended.  The mother is then counselled *not* to supplement the breast feeding with anything else.  Combination of breast and bottle is the most dangerous because the formula increases the risk of the virus which *is* found in breast milk being introduced through the stomach lining.  I am not 100% how this works, but for HIV positive mothers no breast is best (assuming sterility, proper mixing etc.) and exclusive breast feeding is nearly as good.  Mixed breast and formula is the most risky. Some of us remember the seventies – when companies sold breastmilk-substitute in Africa – telling mothers that if they used this, their children would be healthy. Many babies died because first of all, the mothers were not told to boil the water.

That is true.  But before AIDS there was no reason for substituting formula for breast except for the financial gain of the companies concerned.  For HIV negative women there is no reason to use formula and many reasons not to. A friend of mine visited her homecountry in Africa. She brought her meds with her. But there was no fridge where she stayed, so the meds could not be used.

Surely she knew, if it was her home (country), that there would be no fridge?   An HIV positive friend of mine travels to Uganda, Kenya, Zimbabwe, Zambia, Senekal, Nigeria, Mocambique, Swaziland and Lesotho (amongst other African countries) doesn’t have any problems with his meds whatsoever.  He leaves home with this meds in a cooler bag with ice.  When he arrives at his destination the meds are simply put into the fridge.  Where there is no fridge for a short space of time (like an overnight visit to a remote village) he simply buys ice and keeps his meds in the cooler bag.   He would not go to a place where there was no fridge or electricity, although such remoteness doesn’t tend to get many Western visitors (I realize your friend was visiting her own home) simply because his life depends on the correct taking of his meds, and part of that is the correct storage of his meds.  I have travelled with him, and have watched him monitor the storage of his meds. Moira, the Faerie Godmother

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I don’t believe a lot of stuff you write considering it (HIV stuff) comes from sites such as virusmyth etc.

Well that’s simply not true, because I’ve only been quoting from WHO.int, certi.org, etc. websites. Besides, "it’s from Virusmyth.net so it isn’t true" simply isn’t an argument. Alex

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Again – when I read the newspaper in South Africa – to which Alex gave the URL; they take about estimates as facts. The rate of HIV is 11,5 pst, they write – and they continue with saying that this means that 4,5 mill africans are hivpos. But this is not true, it’s estimates. If less than ten percent of the estimated infected population are tested, we know then that 450 000 persons are tested hivpos. I think we all should be more sceptic than we seem to be to statistics and its estimates. Remember what was estimated in Uganda som years ago – and what was said in the beginning of the epidemic in US and Europa(when they used ELISA) A person I know thought for two weeks that he was hivpos. He was told so when he should donate blood. Then the WB was taken and came out negative.He was told that a flue alone could make a ELISA pos.

That’s very common. (See the Italian data below.) So – what about Africa?

No such luck. Just the single ELISA, as according to the WHO. And – is this WB to trust so much?

Western Blot has problems of it’s own, but at least it is more specific than the ELISA. One problem is that it isn’t standardized, but at least it is accepted that in Africa, two of the three ENV proteins being positive equals a positive test (two of p41, p120, p160). GAG (p18, p24, p39 and p55) and POL (p32, p53 and p68) positive bands are discarded and ignored. This is different in different parts of the world, however. In fact the standards for a positive test in Africa are lower, as only 2 (ENV) positive bands are required – at least 3 in the rest of the world. Alex – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Actually, they are _both_ estimates and extrapolations, but the 11.4% percent is based on better research. However, neither number is accurate, because they never use confirmatory tests in these surveys. The real number is likely to be closer to 2-5%. If that. Not true according to what we are seeing in the field. Actually, it is the most likely range for HIV infection, and probably a little too high. Then, the South African HSRC came along, with a little more money, and they took a random population sample of 10,000 or so people, who they gave a single, orally administered ELISA. Just for them being representative and unpregnant, the result was that 11.4% of the population was now officially HIV positive. That’s a dive of 40%, just by doing the test a little right. No, it is not a dive of 40%.  Even at antenatal clinics there has not been a 50% or more test result ever, not even in the most highly infected areas and groups. Yes, it is a dive of 40%. You went from an estimated national prevalence of 19% to 11.4% 11.4 / 19 = 0.6 which is 0.4 or 40% lower. http://www.independent.co.za/index.php?set_id=1&click_id=13&art_id=vn… 6063345189C308684 The real problem that has remained and still isn’t solved, is that none of the positive testing individuals were followed up by what are called confirmatory tests. Usually, that would be another ELISA, just to see if the first one was right. If this second ELISA is negative, the positive first test is basically thrown out of the window (so to speak), and the patient is considered HIV negative. ELISA tests don’t give false negatives.  Now what you have indicated here is simply not true.  The same sample that tests positive on an ELISA is run on a Western Blot test.  These are highly accurate. What I have indicated above is the simple, standard procedure of how tests are supposed to be done. The fact is that the standards of testing in surveys is a lot lower than when HIV infection is diagnosed in an individual. And that shouldn’t be. As to false negatives, they don’t occur according to the WHO. However, it is false positives that are the issue. Also, these SURVEYS have no confirmatory tests performed. Certainly not Western Blot, whatever may happen at _some_ South African private clinics. For the WHO data I know this for a fact, because I e-mailed them personally. If the second is positive, then a Western Blot test is performed. This is a more specific and also more expensive test, which is why it is never used in surveys in Africa. Not true.  They are used as a standard in South Africa. Again, not in these large surveys. And not in the HSRC study, which is the most accurate of the lot. ELISA has an extraordinary false positive rate, especially in Africa. From what I hae been advised is that the ELISA test has a slightly higher rate of positive results than are confirmed by the Western Blot.  I forget what the differential is, but it is hardly an "extraordinary false positive rate". As is clear from the data below, Moira, in these Italian data, there are 31 people who tested positive, only *2* remained positive after further testing. That _is_ an extraordinary false positive rate. Table II HIV Screening in Military Blood Transfusion Centers Number of Blood Donations: 25,562 Number of blood donations ELISA positive: 31 Number of blood donations after confirmation test: 2 http://www.certi.org/CMA/newsletter/v03n01.pdf Alex

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Actually, they are _both_ estimates and extrapolations, but the 11.4% percent is based on better research. However, neither number is accurate, because they never use confirmatory tests in these surveys. The real number is likely to be closer to 2-5%. If that.

Not true according to what we are seeing in the field. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Here is the lowdown. Everything is dependent on cash. The WHO (19% infection, etc.) has very little of it. As a result, they depended on the collection of blood from women at antenatal clincs, which was very cheap, because these clinics already existed and blood was already taken anyway. However, the result was that they only had data from pregnant women, who are unrepresentative of general population. They are younger, they are sexually active (duh) and they are all female. And pregnant, which brings me to the second point – the tests used. The cheapest test out there is called ELISA (actually a group of tests). The problem with them is, that they’re not very reliable, because they will "spike" (go positive) when you’ve been exposed to any of 70 known factors and pathogens. Malaria, tb, ddt, the common cold, the flu, herpes, will all make these ELISA tests spike. But the main reason that these tests never should have been taken as the final word, is that they "spike" because of… <drumroll… pregnancy!!

The reasons for using antenatal clinics are varied, but one is that it is one way of getting blood supplies from people who are otherwise usually healthy people.  The cheapness thereof relates to the fact that blood samples have to be drawn for sexually transmitted diseases and blood typing anyway, so there are no extra *clinical* costs involved in drawing blood. At most well run clinics pregnant women are counselled to include formal HIV tests (where they get the result, not random ones) so that, if they are HIV positive, nevirapine can be administered at the appropriate time (just before delivery and then, for the baby, after the birth). Now, the ELISA test does sometimes give a false positive in the presence of other pathogens.  What you have done is take a fact and then manipulate it to try and prove what you want to believe. Now ELISA never tests false negative, so any blood samples testing negative (and remember that this is the majority of blood samples) can be discarded.  Every blood sample in South Africa that tests positive to an ELISA test is retested on the more expensive Western Blot test.  This includes bloods taken for antenatal sampling, and bloods taken for random sampling (I have participated in the latter and it is amazing to see one’s blood sample just being dropped, unmarked, into a container which will later be tested purely for statistical purposes). Then, the South African HSRC came along, with a little more money, and they took a random population sample of 10,000 or so people, who they gave a single, orally administered ELISA. Just for them being representative and unpregnant, the result was that 11.4% of the population was now officially HIV positive. That’s a dive of 40%, just by doing the test a little right.

No, it is not a dive of 40%.  Even at antenatal clinics there has not been a 50% or more test result ever, not even in the most highly infected areas and groups. Now when test results are released they indicate that they are drawn from antenatal clinics (our official rate) or from other sources, for example, "In a test of mineworkers conducted by …", or "In a test of 36 matric pupils from the same class at one school in Soweto …" The real problem that has remained and still isn’t solved, is that none of the positive testing individuals were followed up by what are called confirmatory tests. Usually, that would be another ELISA, just to see if the first one was right. If this second ELISA is negative, the positive first test is basically thrown out of the window (so to speak), and the patient is considered HIV negative.

ELISA tests don’t give false negatives.  Now what you have indicated here is simply not true.  The same sample that tests positive on an ELISA is run on a Western Blot test.  These are highly accurate. If the second is positive, then a Western Blot test is performed. This is a more specific and also more expensive test, which is why it is never used in surveys in Africa.

Not true.  They are used as a standard in South Africa. ELISA has an extraordinary false positive rate, especially in Africa.

From what I hae been advised is that the ELISA test has a slightly higher rate of positive results than are confirmed by the Western Blot.  I forget what the differential is, but it is hardly an "extraordinary false positive rate". However, this combination of tests has previously resulted in one Italian military transfusion center of only 6.25% of the original positive testing individuals, who remain being considered HIV positive. So you can see. 20% estimated national HIV infection from blood from pregnant women. The same test on the general populace – 11.4% infection. Follow up tests… 0.7% infection rate? Who knows until the tests are actually done, but it seems very reasonable to assume. (11.4% times 0.0625 or 1/16th)

No, it doesn’t seem very reasonable to assume anything of the sort. Those of us who live and work in South Africa are starting to have friends, family and colleagues who have died of HIV related illnesses.  This evidence is a clear indication that the problem is bigger than the 1 -2% you are claiming.  We would like to have a low rate of HIV infection, but self-delusion is not the answer to that desire. Moira, the Faerie Godmother

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| However, this combination of tests has previously | resulted in one Italian military transfusion center of | only 6.25% of the original positive testing individuals, | who remain being considered HIV positive. | | So you can see. 20% estimated national HIV infection | from blood from pregnant women. | The same test on the general populace – 11.4% infection. | Follow up tests… 0.7% infection rate? | | Who knows until the tests are actually done, but it seems | very reasonable to assume. (11.4% times 0.0625 or 1/16th) Stated another way. IF there was ONE person in a million that had AIDS. Say Moira then somehow came up with a list of TEN possible people out of this million, you’d say that’s it’s B/S as she only had a 10% success rate. It’s a little cheaper, and smarter testing 10 people, than testing all the million people, however. Now if the population was a billion, Moria still came up with a list of ten people and only the same one guy had aids. Then the success rate of the MOIRA test according to Alex would be 10% still. The way I see it it that ELISA can be used to do the rough work, then fine tuning done by WB?  How do you think the Italian military you refer to came up with the 6.25% figure? ELISA and then a WB of course. ELISA says who almost surely doesn’t have AIDS, not who surely does. Another point – those tests were done in 1985. Aids wasn’t so big then. Also the ELISA tests have improved drastically since then. So have cellphones, computers etc. You’re still running an 8088 or a 286 today? If there really was an infection rate of 30% that 6,25% ppv would change to 80%. even for those old ELISA tests.                             HIV+  HIV-  total ELISA SAYS +    2850   70     2920 ELISA SAYS –    150      6930 7080                             3000    7000  10000 10000 is a sample population. 10000 * 0.30 = 3000 ( assuming 30% really have AIDS) 7000 * 0.94 = 6930  ( assuming the OLD elisa assays got 94% accuracy in their negatives) 3000 * 0.99 = 2850 ( assuming this ELISA 99% specific ) 2850/2920 = 88% ([really HIV+ overlaps with ELISA+ result] / [total ELISA+ result]) AND NO I HAVE VERY LITTLE MEDICAL KNOWLEDGE. I don’t even have Level 1 1st aid. I got this method off a stats site, which was probably demonstrating P(A given B) not the same as P(B given A) | | The main stream media presents estimates as facts. | | Yes they do, all the time. | As opposed to taking a census. Random samples are used in stats for this very reason. | Do anyone here know which test was used in the beginning | of the epidemic in the western countries? | | Probably some form of ELISA. | "Probably some form of ELISA" Which means you’re taking a guess, and this isn’t your field after all… Rob

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 Nevirapine can be very dangerous for the liver. During oneandhalf a year there were reported to WHO 62 cases of death – related to nevriapine. Knowing that the frequence of reporting on side-effects is very low all over – and that the virus can be blamed for every side-effect, I find it strange to go for nevirapine to  newborn babies. Besides,  the baby kick on to its own immunesystem when it is about eighteen months. Another thing; are the positiv tested mothers told not to breastfeed their children? What do they give them then? Do anyone know if the virus is found to exist in breastmilk? Some of us remember the seventies – when companies sold breastmilk-substitute in Africa – telling mothers that if they used this, their children would be healthy. Many babies died because first of all, the mothers were not told to boil the water. A friend of mine visited her homecountry in Africa. She brought her meds with her. But there was no fridge where she stayed, so the meds could not be used. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Actually, they are _both_ estimates and extrapolations, but the 11.4% percent is based on better research. However, neither number is accurate, because they never use confirmatory tests in these surveys. The real number is likely to be closer to 2-5%. If that. Not true according to what we are seeing in the field. Here is the lowdown. Everything is dependent on cash. The WHO (19% infection, etc.) has very little of it. As a result, they depended on the collection of blood from women at antenatal clincs, which was very cheap, because these clinics already existed and blood was already taken anyway. However, the result was that they only had data from pregnant women, who are unrepresentative of general population. They are younger, they are sexually active (duh) and they are all female. And pregnant, which brings me to the second point – the tests used. The cheapest test out there is called ELISA (actually a group of tests). The problem with them is, that they’re not very reliable, because they will "spike" (go positive) when you’ve been exposed to any of 70 known factors and pathogens. Malaria, tb, ddt, the common cold, the flu, herpes, will all make these ELISA tests spike. But the main reason that these tests never should have been taken as the final word, is that they "spike" because of… <drumroll… pregnancy!! The reasons for using antenatal clinics are varied, but one is that it is one way of getting blood supplies from people who are otherwise usually healthy people.  The cheapness thereof relates to the fact that blood samples have to be drawn for sexually transmitted diseases and blood typing anyway, so there are no extra *clinical* costs involved in drawing blood. At most well run clinics pregnant women are counselled to include formal HIV tests (where they get the result, not random ones) so that, if they are HIV positive, nevirapine can be administered at the appropriate time (just before delivery and then, for the baby, after the birth). Now, the ELISA test does sometimes give a false positive in the presence of other pathogens.  What you have done is take a fact and then manipulate it to try and prove what you want to believe. Now ELISA never tests false negative, so any blood samples testing negative (and remember that this is the majority of blood samples) can be discarded.  Every blood sample in South Africa that tests positive to an ELISA test is retested on the more expensive Western Blot test.  This includes bloods taken for antenatal sampling, and bloods taken for random sampling (I have participated in the latter and it is amazing to see one’s blood sample just being dropped, unmarked, into a container which will later be tested purely for statistical purposes). Then, the South African HSRC came along, with a little more money, and they took a random population sample of 10,000 or so people, who they gave a single, orally administered ELISA. Just for them being representative and unpregnant, the result was that 11.4% of the population was now officially HIV positive. That’s a dive of 40%, just by doing the test a little right. No, it is not a dive of 40%.  Even at antenatal clinics there has not been a 50% or more test result ever, not even in the most highly infected areas and groups. Now when test results are released they indicate that they are drawn from antenatal clinics (our official rate) or from other sources, for example, "In a test of mineworkers conducted by …", or "In a test of 36 matric pupils from the same class at one school in Soweto …" The real problem that has remained and still isn’t solved, is that none of the positive testing individuals were followed up by what are called confirmatory tests. Usually, that would be another ELISA, just to see if the first one was right. If this second ELISA is negative, the positive first test is basically thrown out of the window (so to speak), and the patient is considered HIV negative. ELISA tests don’t give false negatives.  Now what you have indicated here is simply not true.  The same sample that tests positive on an ELISA is run on a Western Blot test.  These are highly accurate. If the second is positive, then a Western Blot test is performed. This is a more specific and also more expensive test, which is why it is never used in surveys in Africa. Not true.  They are used as a standard in South Africa. ELISA has an extraordinary false positive rate, especially in Africa. From what I hae been advised is that the ELISA test has a slightly higher rate of positive results than are confirmed by the Western Blot.  I forget what the differential is, but it is hardly an "extraordinary false positive rate". However, this combination of tests has previously resulted in one Italian military transfusion center of only 6.25% of the original positive testing individuals, who remain being considered HIV positive. So you can see. 20% estimated national HIV infection from blood from pregnant women. The same test on the general populace – 11.4% infection. Follow up tests… 0.7% infection rate? Who knows until the tests are actually done, but it seems very reasonable to assume. (11.4% times 0.0625 or 1/16th) No, it doesn’t seem very reasonable to assume anything of the sort. Those of us who live and work in South Africa are starting to have friends, family and colleagues who have died of HIV related illnesses.  This evidence is a clear indication that the problem is bigger than the 1 -2% you are claiming.  We would like to have a low rate of HIV infection, but self-delusion is not the answer to that desire. Moira, the Faerie Godmother

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Actually, they are _both_ estimates and extrapolations, but the 11.4% percent is based on better research. However, neither number is accurate, because they never use confirmatory tests in these surveys. The real number is likely to be closer to 2-5%. If that. Not true according to what we are seeing in the field.

Actually, it is the most likely range for HIV infection, and probably a little too high. Then, the South African HSRC came along, with a little more money, and they took a random population sample of 10,000 or so people, who they gave a single, orally administered ELISA. Just for them being representative and unpregnant, the result was that 11.4% of the population was now officially HIV positive. That’s a dive of 40%, just by doing the test a little right. No, it is not a dive of 40%.  Even at antenatal clinics there has not been a 50% or more test result ever, not even in the most highly infected areas and groups.

Yes, it is a dive of 40%. You went from an estimated national prevalence of 19% to 11.4% 11.4 / 19 = 0.6 which is 0.4 or 40% lower. http://www.independent.co.za/index.php?set_id=1&click_id=13&art_id=vn… The real problem that has remained and still isn’t solved, is that none of the positive testing individuals were followed up by what are called confirmatory tests. Usually, that would be another ELISA, just to see if the first one was right. If this second ELISA is negative, the positive first test is basically thrown out of the window (so to speak), and the patient is considered HIV negative. ELISA tests don’t give false negatives.  Now what you have indicated here is simply not true.  The same sample that tests positive on an ELISA is run on a Western Blot test.  These are highly accurate.

What I have indicated above is the simple, standard procedure of how tests are supposed to be done. The fact is that the standards of testing in surveys is a lot lower than when HIV infection is diagnosed in an individual. And that shouldn’t be. As to false negatives, they don’t occur according to the WHO. However, it is false positives that are the issue. Also, these SURVEYS have no confirmatory tests performed. Certainly not Western Blot, whatever may happen at _some_ South African private clinics. For the WHO data I know this for a fact, because I e-mailed them personally. If the second is positive, then a Western Blot test is performed. This is a more specific and also more expensive test, which is why it is never used in surveys in Africa. Not true.  They are used as a standard in South Africa.

Again, not in these large surveys. And not in the HSRC study, which is the most accurate of the lot. ELISA has an extraordinary false positive rate, especially in Africa. From what I hae been advised is that the ELISA test has a slightly higher rate of positive results than are confirmed by the Western Blot.  I forget what the differential is, but it is hardly an "extraordinary false positive rate".

As is clear from the data below, Moira, in these Italian data, there are 31 people who tested positive, only *2* remained positive after further testing. That _is_ an extraordinary false positive rate. Table II HIV Screening in Military Blood Transfusion Centers Number of Blood Donations: 25,562 Number of blood donations ELISA positive: 31 Number of blood donations after confirmation test: 2 http://www.certi.org/CMA/newsletter/v03n01.pdf Alex

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Again – when I read the newspaper in South Africa – to which Alex gave the URL; they take about estimates as facts. The rate of HIV is 11,5 pst, they write – and they continue with saying that this means that 4,5 mill africans are hivpos. But this is not true, it’s estimates. If less than ten percent of the estimated infected population are tested, we know then that 450 000 persons are tested hivpos. I think we all should be more sceptic than we seem to be to statistics and its estimates. Remember what was estimated in Uganda som years ago – and what was said in the beginning of the epidemic in US and Europa(when they used ELISA) A person I know thought for two weeks that he was hivpos. He was told so when he should donate blood. Then the WB was taken and came out negative.He was told that a flue alone could make a ELISA pos. So – what about Africa? And – is this WB to trust so much? – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Actually, they are _both_ estimates and extrapolations, but the 11.4% percent is based on better research. However, neither number is accurate, because they never use confirmatory tests in these surveys. The real number is likely to be closer to 2-5%. If that. Not true according to what we are seeing in the field. Actually, it is the most likely range for HIV infection, and probably a little too high. Then, the South African HSRC came along, with a little more money, and they took a random population sample of 10,000 or so people, who they gave a single, orally administered ELISA. Just for them being representative and unpregnant, the result was that 11.4% of the population was now officially HIV positive. That’s a dive of 40%, just by doing the test a little right. No, it is not a dive of 40%.  Even at antenatal clinics there has not been a 50% or more test result ever, not even in the most highly infected areas and groups. Yes, it is a dive of 40%. You went from an estimated national prevalence of 19% to 11.4% 11.4 / 19 = 0.6 which is 0.4 or 40% lower.

http://www.independent.co.za/index.php?set_id=1&click_id=13&art_id=vn… 6063345189C308684 – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – The real problem that has remained and still isn’t solved, is that none of the positive testing individuals were followed up by what are called confirmatory tests. Usually, that would be another ELISA, just to see if the first one was right. If this second ELISA is negative, the positive first test is basically thrown out of the window (so to speak), and the patient is considered HIV negative. ELISA tests don’t give false negatives.  Now what you have indicated here is simply not true.  The same sample that tests positive on an ELISA is run on a Western Blot test.  These are highly accurate. What I have indicated above is the simple, standard procedure of how tests are supposed to be done. The fact is that the standards of testing in surveys is a lot lower than when HIV infection is diagnosed in an individual. And that shouldn’t be. As to false negatives, they don’t occur according to the WHO. However, it is false positives that are the issue. Also, these SURVEYS have no confirmatory tests performed. Certainly not Western Blot, whatever may happen at _some_ South African private clinics. For the WHO data I know this for a fact, because I e-mailed them personally. If the second is positive, then a Western Blot test is performed. This is a more specific and also more expensive test, which is why it is never used in surveys in Africa. Not true.  They are used as a standard in South Africa. Again, not in these large surveys. And not in the HSRC study, which is the most accurate of the lot. ELISA has an extraordinary false positive rate, especially in Africa. From what I hae been advised is that the ELISA test has a slightly higher rate of positive results than are confirmed by the Western Blot.  I forget what the differential is, but it is hardly an "extraordinary false positive rate". As is clear from the data below, Moira, in these Italian data, there are 31 people who tested positive, only *2* remained positive after further testing. That _is_ an extraordinary false positive rate. Table II HIV Screening in Military Blood Transfusion Centers Number of Blood Donations: 25,562 Number of blood donations ELISA positive: 31 Number of blood donations after confirmation test: 2 http://www.certi.org/CMA/newsletter/v03n01.pdf Alex

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PS, About the WHO – they even stipulate on their site, that in populations where HIV infection is _assumed_ to be greater than 10%, they use "strategy 1", or a single ELISA with no confirmatory testing, in their surveys. (See Table A at page 7) "Strategy I All serum/plasma is tested with one ELISA or simple/rapid assay. Serum that is reactive is considered HIV antibody positive. Serum that is non-reactive is considered HIV antibody negative. " http://www.who.int/bct/Main_areas_of_work/BTS/HIV_Diagnostics/ Evaluation_reports/Operational%20Characteristics_HIV%20Report9_10.pdf The HSRC is doing the same. So Moira, whether Western Blot is available in clinics in South Africa, it is _not recommended or required_ by the WHO when they create their antenatal data based estimates. The WHO makes a very clear distinction between testing for surveillance purposes, and the diagnostic testing of individual patients. And it’s all money related. To quote: "UNAIDS and WHO recommend three testing strategies, which have been recently updated, to maximize accuracy while minimizing cost. " And what’s more, in countries where they _assume_ infection rates of greater than 30%, only one single ELISA will do in diagnosis. Alex

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– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – | However, this combination of tests has previously | resulted in one Italian military transfusion center of | only 6.25% of the original positive testing individuals, | who remain being considered HIV positive. | | So you can see. 20% estimated national HIV infection | from blood from pregnant women. | The same test on the general populace – 11.4% infection. | Follow up tests… 0.7% infection rate? | | Who knows until the tests are actually done, but it seems | very reasonable to assume. (11.4% times 0.0625 or 1/16th) Stated another way. IF there was ONE person in a million that had AIDS. Say Moira then somehow came up with a list of TEN possible people out of this million, you’d say that’s it’s B/S as she only had a 10% success rate.

She did? Just kidding. It’s a little cheaper, and smarter testing 10 people, than testing all the million people, however.

Not for finding out the overall infection rate. For that, you need a large sample size, that is representative (age, gender, geography, income, etc.) of the entire population. Pregnant women are not representative of the entire population. Which is why when using one single (orally adminstered) ELISA, the HSRC ended up with a much lower estimate than had previously been arrived at. Robbo, no one is disputing the use of sampling or using estimates. However, to be relevant instead of misleading, they have to be done correctly. Now if the population was a billion, Moria still came up with a list of ten people and only the same one guy had aids. Then the success rate of the MOIRA test according to Alex would be 10% still. The way I see it it that ELISA can be used to do the rough work, then fine tuning done by WB?  How do you think the Italian military you refer to came up with the 6.25% figure? ELISA and then a WB of course. ELISA says who almost surely doesn’t have AIDS, not who surely does.

Of course. The point being that a single, positive ELISA should never be the last word. It _was_ the last word in the WHO data, AND in the HSRC study. Another point – those tests were done in 1985. Aids wasn’t so big then.

That’s not what they said in 1985… Also the ELISA tests have improved drastically since then. So have cellphones, computers etc. You’re still running an 8088 or a 286 today? If there really was an infection rate of 30% that 6,25% ppv would change to 80%. even for those old ELISA tests.

And at 11.4%? (Single ELISA?) But the operative word being *if*. And how do we know? Because of the tests. Here something to mull over. If these tests were so great, wouldn’t they be accurate *no matter what* the level of infection in the general population is? Also, the assumption is that there is either a fixed number of fixed percentage of false positives to the overall number of tests. I think false positives are much more variable, and reliant on the presence of factors that _cause_ false positives. It makes all the sense in the world to assume that false positives have something to do with the factors that cause them – African strains of malaria, ddt use, etc. Things that aren’t occuring in Italy, for instance.                             HIV+  HIV-  total ELISA SAYS +    2850   70     2920 ELISA SAYS –    150      6930 7080                             3000    7000  10000 10000 is a sample population. 10000 * 0.30 = 3000 ( assuming 30% really have AIDS)

(You mean HIV.) Which is where things go wrong. The _assumption_ of HIV infection in the general populace. It was 19%. Now it’s 11.4%. Based on…? (1.5% less, and the WHO would have to do follow-up tests in it’s antenatal data.) 7000 * 0.94 = 6930  ( assuming the OLD elisa assays got 94% accuracy in their negatives) 3000 * 0.99 = 2850 ( assuming this ELISA 99% specific ) 2850/2920 = 88% ([really HIV+ overlaps with ELISA+ result] / [total ELISA+ result]) AND NO I HAVE VERY LITTLE MEDICAL KNOWLEDGE. I don’t even have Level 1 1st aid. I got this method off a stats site, which was probably demonstrating P(A given B) not the same as P(B given A)

Where they go wrong is the a priori presumption of a high infection rate. Rationally speaking, there is no reason to _ever_ assume a high HIV infection rate. Not before the tests say so. | | The main stream media presents estimates as facts. | | Yes they do, all the time. | As opposed to taking a census. Random samples are used in stats for this very reason.

That’s not what the previous poster was alluding to. When it’s estimated that one woman is raped every thirty seconds, it is stated in the media that one woman *is* raped (not "estimated to be raped") every thirty seconds. That’s what he meant, he wasn’t criticizing the use of estimations. And by the way, my field of specialty is political science, so statistics is within my area of expertise. Alex

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I don’t believe a lot of stuff you write considering it (HIV stuff) comes from sites such as virusmyth etc. Maybe to argue in your favour, websites directly disputing what virusmyth, perth group etc write just don’t seem to exist… If there was an advisory on the WHO site explaining where ‘dissident’ sites are going wrong, less misinformation would be passed around. Personally I don’t really care that much about the whole thing, as I’ve got a lot of other things to worry about. And I’d be arguing about something I have little clue about anyway. If you were arguing against GM foods, yes, I’d agree. Regarding AIDS – Treating people with AIDS is big money, but that hits the medical aids and private companies AFAIK. Prevention, where possible, would be a better solution and means the problem could be controlled. You’ve got some points about the surveillance, and I’m neutral on that. BUT I’m assuming they’ve already  taken what you’ve written into account when they make the estimates. I agree that things should be done properly – IMO those with HIV should get proper medication and councelling, not just a single ELISA and sent away. THAT would be big money, but life should be more important than paper. But then poor countries usually resulted from governments who couldn’t care less in the first place. Rob

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Sunday there was on tv in my country about south-africa. Twenty percent of the population is infected, it was said. Today I read on www.aegis.com that only ten percent of the infected are tested. The rest are estimates. The main stream media presents estimates as facts. Do anyone here know which test was used in the beginning of the epidemic in the western countries?

Read these links and weep or laugh satanically, or do both at the same time. http://www.virusmyth.net/aids/index/africa.htm Hayek.

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Sunday there was on tv in my country about south-africa. Twenty percent of the population is infected, it was said. Today I read on www.aegis.com that only ten percent of the infected are tested. The rest are estimates.

Actually, they are _both_ estimates and extrapolations, but the 11.4% percent is based on better research. However, neither number is accurate, because they never use confirmatory tests in these surveys. The real number is likely to be closer to 2-5%. If that. Here is the lowdown. Everything is dependent on cash. The WHO (19% infection, etc.) has very little of it. As a result, they depended on the collection of blood from women at antenatal clincs, which was very cheap, because these clinics already existed and blood was already taken anyway. However, the result was that they only had data from pregnant women, who are unrepresentative of general population. They are younger, they are sexually active (duh) and they are all female. And pregnant, which brings me to the second point – the tests used. The cheapest test out there is called ELISA (actually a group of tests). The problem with them is, that they’re not very reliable, because they will "spike" (go positive) when you’ve been exposed to any of 70 known factors and pathogens. Malaria, tb, ddt, the common cold, the flu, herpes, will all make these ELISA tests spike. But the main reason that these tests never should have been taken as the final word, is that they "spike" because of… <drumroll… pregnancy!! Then, the South African HSRC came along, with a little more money, and they took a random population sample of 10,000 or so people, who they gave a single, orally administered ELISA. Just for them being representative and unpregnant, the result was that 11.4% of the population was now officially HIV positive. That’s a dive of 40%, just by doing the test a little right. The real problem that has remained and still isn’t solved, is that none of the positive testing individuals were followed up by what are called confirmatory tests. Usually, that would be another ELISA, just to see if the first one was right. If this second ELISA is negative, the positive first test is basically thrown out of the window (so to speak), and the patient is considered HIV negative. If the second is positive, then a Western Blot test is performed. This is a more specific and also more expensive test, which is why it is never used in surveys in Africa. ELISA has an extraordinary false positive rate, especially in Africa. However, this combination of tests has previously resulted in one Italian military transfusion center of only 6.25% of the original positive testing individuals, who remain being considered HIV positive. So you can see. 20% estimated national HIV infection from blood from pregnant women. The same test on the general populace – 11.4% infection. Follow up tests… 0.7% infection rate? Who knows until the tests are actually done, but it seems very reasonable to assume. (11.4% times 0.0625 or 1/16th) The main stream media presents estimates as facts.

Yes they do, all the time. Do anyone here know which test was used in the beginning of the epidemic in the western countries?

Probably some form of ELISA. Alex " "One in five heterosexuals could be dead from AIDS at the end of the next three years," the nation’s most popular talk show host Oprah Winfrey warned her audience in 1987.  " http://www.fumento.com/realaids.html

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Sunday there was on tv in my country about south-africa. Twenty percent of the population is infected, it was said. Today I read on www.aegis.com that only ten percent of the infected are tested. The rest are estimates. The main stream media presents estimates as facts. Do anyone here know which test was used in the beginning of the epidemic in the western countries?

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